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Originally posted by Fugee
Your idea of respect is a little different from mine and EO's. My family respects that I drink and they don't. They've never once suggested that I need to stop drinking to be a Christian. In exchange, I respect them by not slapping them in the face with it.
You don't seem to respect the decision of others to not drink when you suggest that it is socially wrong for nondrinkers to throw a party (which is what a wedding reception is) at which alcohol is not served. Why? Doesn't the host have the right to set the menu, beverages included? Should an ardent vegetarian have to offer steak as one of the entrees at the reception? You as the invited guest have the right to decline the invitation to any party if you don't think it will be enjoyable. But I don't think you have the right to demand it be the kind of party you want it to be. That's not giving them respect.
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Look, we're talking about having a drink, not masturbating in front of the in laws. To cast scornful looks or get one's panties in a bunch over a drink is simply unreasonable. If someone having a glass of vino gets you verklmpt, you need to get over yourself, and your bizarre views. I'm merely advocating reasonable tolerance for generally socially acceptable behaviors.
As to the wedding, the host does get to pick the menu. An ardent meat eater, I had a vegetarian dish at my wedding to accomodate others. I also cut the ceremony to its bare bones out of respect for the 40% of the wedding who were not Catholic.
My problem with the religious and the staunchly vegan and the ardently anything are that they are alqways setting rules for the rest of us. I let people do as they like and keep my judgments in my head. Call me crazy, but that's what my forbears told me [olite folks do. The religious people who gent bent sideways over the slightest thing force us to march to their drummer, and frankly, I'm sick of it. My religious relatives got all uppity with me when I refused to do a mass at my wedding. I told them if they didn't like it, they should stay home. Fuck 'em. You think I'm going to alter my order because some vegan is at the table? He's chosen to make himself part of a select group which is not indicative of social norms of greater society, and therefore, he does not get to complain when I order whatever I like, and I have no obligation to watch out for his feelings. When he comes to the restaurant, he assumes the risk. If he didn't want to be offended, he could select a vegan restaurant, where I'd happily order a vegan dish.
Everybody's got some sensitivity or some strident belief these days, and they're always dictating to others. From Michael Bloomberg's smoking crusade to the Jesus Brigade and their anti-dancing horseshit, fuck them all. Fuck every single last annoying one of them.
