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[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by Fugee
We haven't had enough controversy lately so let's get into the significance of a person's name.

One of my guardian babies is getting adopted. His first name is Damareus -- slightly uncommon but easy to pronounce. His pre-adoptive parents (who have fairly common first names themselves) mentioned that they thought his name was too different and want to change it. To.....Semaj (pronounced Seh-MAHZH; it is James backwards). The mom mentioned that they might put his name down as Semaj/James in case James would be better for him in business when he gets older.

First question: If they write his name down on the official papers as "Semaj/James," that would be his official first name, right? And have to go on his social security card and drivers license etc.? I want to be sure of that before I tell them they might want to pick one or the other or do something that doesn't involve a slash.

Second question: How do you think having an unusual, not obviously pronounceable name, affects a child's future? The reason I care is that until the adoption order is signed, I am responsible for looking out for the best interests of this kid and I am wondering if I should talk to the parents-to-be about giving him a less creative name. He's had to overcome enough obstacles in his life and I don't want him to suffer down the road because of a name. Or should I let it go? (Remember this is Minnesota, lily white land of Scandinavian names.)

These people are allowed to adopt?