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Originally posted by robustpuppy
Ultimately, though, I fear my relationship with my child won't be as satisfying as I've imagined/fantasized.
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Originally posted by Atticus Grinch
Well, duh. I assure you it won't be. Note, however, that only a control freak would think this has anything to do with whether it is worthwhile.
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Interesting. I've found the exact opposite to be true.
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Originally posted by Atticus Grinch
I'm here to tell you, everybody wants to go to Paris --- who wouldn't? But we all wind up in Helsinki or Edinburgh or Rome or Vilnius or Minsk, and surprisingly few of us are bitching about it. If you're not prepared to surrender that kind of control, parenting is not for you. If you'd sulk in your hotel room, parenting is not for you. If you'd immediately ask the concierge whether Vilnius has any good titty bars, you'll be just fine.
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Aha. Now I see what you're saying. (The titty analogy helped, thanks.) You're not saying that your relationship with your child won't be as satisfying as you would expect, you're saying that your relationship with your child won't be what you imagined or fantisized it would be. That makes perfect sense, but the people who don't understand this probably get upset every time something doesn't turn out exactly the way the dreamed it to be (which I guess is why your analogy works so well and this post is pointless -- good job, TM).
TM
