I barred rugrats from the ceremony entirely and paid the reception space for an extra room and hired a couple of babysitters--filled the place with art supplies and Disney videos and bought 'em kids meals they'd like instead of letting them gack their way through grown-up hors d'oeuvres. Kids allowed into reception to dance and for cake and ice cream, immediately removed by babysitters when started to destabilize. Family complained but I had a blast--kids got to dress up and have fun, no adults bugged at all.
