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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
This is mostly just false. I'm hoping it's sarcasm. No one who's ever spent time around children has any illusions that they are not born with their own distinct personalities (which includes generous qualities and a concern for others or the lack thereof).
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I think you're misunderstanding what I mean by "concern for others." Not believing anyone can see into the soul of another, I don't give a crap about whether it actually cares about how you feel or not, I care only about behavior. I never said they don't have their own distinct personalities. However, whatever its innate personality, when it screams at 3 am, you just tell me how much concern it is showing for you, other than its concern for making you do what it wants. However it is born, it has to LEARN that its desires are not reason to wake somebody else up in the middle of the night. Or, at least, eventually it learns that it isn't effective, and you get "concern for others" in behavior if not in sentiment.
However, your sibling tale is (somewhat) well taken. From day one I was always the quiet, well behaved one, while my sister was a hellion. I was born premature, quiet and not crying, she came out late, fat, and screaming. We both pretty much stayed that way - she's screaming still. However, one thing most people have noted who know us both well is that, despite being raised together by the same parents, we did NOT have the same parenting, at all. We don't to this day. Which is cause and which is effect, I don't know.
