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Originally posted by barely_legal
You're missing the point again. Don't send pms to someone you don't know and are currently engaged in a flame war with unless you expect them to be made public. The word "private" in "private message" isn't a contract.
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I'm not missing the point. I learned that lesson a couple days ago.
However, that doesn't make forwarding PMs any less shitty especially when they have nothing to do with the people they're being forwarded to. In this case, I was trying to address something I saw as a personal issue between me and paigow, and she decided to involve other people. To me, that's shitty.
In my mind, if someone takes up an issue they have with me in private, I wouldn't make that coversation public, even if I thought the person was off his or her rocker. Not because I am bound not to take it public, but because, in actuality, the person is showing a bit of discretion by addressing things in private and I appreciate that level of discretion. I mean, maybe there was a miscommunication and the person just wanted an explanation. Should other people be involved in that case?
Now, if the person is doing nothing more than flinging insults, then there should be no expectation of privacy, but that's not what happened here. While my tone may have been a bit confrontational, all that happened was that Paigow said something that made me wonder and I asked her about it in private. That made me a psycho, I guess, and justified sending around the "crazy" PMs she got from me.
In the end, I acknowledge this whole thing was all my fault. I should have known that paigow is incapable of using discretion when addressing personal matters.
edited: I see you posted something I agree with, namely, that if the PM is purely an insult, you run the risk of being exposed as a spineless jerk, but that isn't what happened with me and paigow.
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