Fashionistas you have arrived 3-25-03 - 10-3-03

[purse junkie]

Originally posted by evenodds
She has just started dating this new guy. They've been out once or twice, and she likes him.

She'd like to go out with him for her birthday.

She should invite him out to dinner/drinks/whatever festive thing as part of a small group. That way he doesn't face the "Jesus Christ I just started dating her and she wants to spend her birthday with me only isn't this going too fast" overanalysis freakout thing, as it's a small group, or the "Jesus Christ we've only gone out a couple of times what do I get her thing," as he can simply treat her to dinner along with everyone else. Plus the friends get to scope him out.

Originally posted by ltl/fb
I think either she should make it clear that it's her birthday and she wants to see him on her birthday or not do anything. The hinting is annoying and the secret birthday is kinda creepy.

My two cents and contribution to the effort to get posts.

concur, but would the outright invite look like a cheap attempt to get a birthday present? and does she have to go with him and a group of people so as not to appear freiendless? if so, is it too soon to meet the friends.

i say she is fucked

[ThrashersFan]

Originally posted by evenodds
Okay, I have been discussing a situation with one of my girlfriends whose birthday is next week.

She has just started dating this new guy. They've been out once or twice, and she likes him.

She'd like to go out with him for her birthday.

Should she remind him that her birthday is next week and hope he steps up? Should she schedule something with him for her birthday, but not tell him it's her birthday? Or something else?

Out only once or twice? She should invite him out to dinner. She should tell him that it is her birthday because it is very likely to escape at some point during the night and then he will feel like a schmuck for not at least bringing her flowers. She should say that she wants to take him to dinner, that it is her birthday but that she wants to play it low key and just have a nice dinner with him because, well, she believes that she will enjoy spending the time with him. I think this makes it not too overbearing (ie "holy shit, does she want me around on her birthday because she wants to get serious too soon?") yet makes it not a total surprise so that he worries that he was supposed to know and now feels like an idiot for not knowing. Perhaps he will pick up the tab as a birthday gift.

edited -- oops, everyone beat me because I over-thought it.

[Anne Elk]

Originally posted by evenodds
She has just started dating this new guy. They've been out once or twice, and she likes him.

She'd like to go out with him for her birthday.

Should she remind him that her birthday is next week and hope he steps up? Should she schedule something with him for her birthday, but not tell him it's her birthday? Or something else?

Does she want to go out with him for her birthday because she likes him and it would be nice to spend time with him on her birthday, or is she setting up some sort of subconscious test of his potential?

It's too early in the relationship (if there is one) to expect him to do something special for her birthday. Of course, if he's smart, or a playa, he'll do something nice and score points.

If she wants to spend time with him (instead of with friends or family), then she should schedule something with him and not tell him it is her birthday. It's unfair to put that kind of pressure on someone so early in a relationship.

Anne
You should spend your birthday how you want to (you only get one a year).

[evenodds]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Lisa G. continues to fail to impress. I liked it when she was talking about Hamilton being injured and she had to look at the monitor to get the guy's name. Something that could have been committed to memory, maybe?

That was the funniest moment of the evening. I actually rewound it to see it again.

She has one freakin job and she talks on camera three times a night. How stupid do you have to be to not remember his name?

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
My two cents and contribution to the effort to get posts.

Congratulations on achieving your personal k - that must have happened some time yesterday.

[Anne Elk]

Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
The Red Sox.

Maybe that's why they are my favorite MLB team. I got used to the suffering as a Giants fan in the early 80's.

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by purse junkie
She should invite him out to dinner/drinks/whatever festive thing as part of a small group. That way he doesn't face the "Jesus Christ I just started dating her and she wants to spend her birthday with me only isn't this going too fast" overanalysis freakout thing, as it's a small group, or the "Jesus Christ we've only gone out a couple of times what do I get her thing," as he can simply treat her to dinner along with everyone else. Plus the friends get to scope him out.

Yeah, I would go with an invite to drinks with friends to celebrate. Leave it up to him if he wants to offer to take her out to dinner also, but not request it. this sounds way to rulesish for my liking, but that early in dating, anything more might seem kind of forced.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by evenodds
Okay, I have been discussing a situation with one of my girlfriends whose birthday is next week.

She has just started dating this new guy. They've been out once or twice, and she likes him.

She'd like to go out with him for her birthday.

Should she remind him that her birthday is next week and hope he steps up? Should she schedule something with him for her birthday, but not tell him it's her birthday? Or something else?

I essentially concur with St. F the B on this. It's too soon to expect the guy to do something romantic and special. She should have her friends arrange some sort of gathering and have her friends invite the new guy. This should be a "no gifts allowed" affair so he does not feel the pressure of shopping for a woman he may like but hardly knows. This kind of pressure can cause a man to bail.

Scheduling something on her birthday - without telling him it's her birthday - registers strongly on the psychometer.

[evenodds]

Originally posted by Anne Elk
If she wants to spend time with him (instead of with friends or family), then she should schedule something with him and not tell him it is her birthday. It's unfair to put that kind of pressure on someone so early in a relationship.

This is the advice I gave her. It's too soon to put performance pressure on.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by paigowprincess

i say she is fucked

This can be arranged.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by Anne Elk


Summary:
Fetal sleepers tend to be shy and sensitive while people who assume the soldier position, flat on their back with arms at their sides, are quiet and reserved.

Sleeping on one's side with legs outstretched and arms down in what Idzikowski refers to as the log, indicates a social, easy-going personality. But if the arms are outstretched, the person tends to be more suspicious.

The freefall, flat on the tummy with the hands at the sides of the head, is the most unusual position. Only 6.5 percent of people prefer it and they are usually brash and gregarious.

Unassuming, good listeners usually adopt the starfish position -- on the back with outstretched arms and legs.

I'm a log. (TM would probably agree with that.)

I'm occasionally a starfish, freefaller and a log.

When you're there, I sleep lengthwise
And when you're gone
I sleep diagonal in my bed.

[ThrashersFan]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
Take a wild guess as to what I am. Freefaller, ********* Its jjust the best position.

Except when you have TITS. Back is kinda weird too because they fall into your armpits (if they are real). Side is generally okay. Or just sleep on your back and wear a bra.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
Congratulations on achieving your personal k - that must have happened some time yesterday.

Yes, yesterday. It was a post on zoloft and anorgasmia. It seemed k-worthy.

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Yeah, I would go with an invite to drinks with friends to celebrate. Leave it up to him if he wants to offer to take her out to dinner also, but not request it. this sounds way to rulesish for my liking, but that early in dating, anything more might seem kind of forced.

I think this only works if he gets to bring his friends, bc otherwise he is totally outnumbered. and it sounds like a lot of work to get everyone to round up their people. esp if short notice.