Fashion Board 11-2-03 - 12-09-03

[Tyrone Slothrop]

Originally posted by evenodds
You can find them at www.milesofchocolate.com . They are currently selling at whole foods in the southwest.

Anyone know if they're selling this at Whole Foods in, oh, say, the Bay Area?

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by Not Me
My understanding from reading the older studies is that they did not even look at the effects of bad marriages on children. The older studies only looked at the differences between children of divorce vs. children from intact marriages. Newer studies have attempted to separate out high-conflict parental relationships from low-conflict parental relationships and see if it is the conflict level or the marriage/divorce that is best correlated with the happiness/adjustment/mental health of the children.

From all that I have read on this topic, I believe that divorce is a just a proxy for a high-conflict parental relationship, and that it really is the quality of the parental relationship that matters. I believe that it is better for the children if two people who cannot have a happy marriage together divorce and then make happy lives for themselves and then get along with each other while continuing to raise the kids. The problem is that all too often, they divorce and continue to have this miserable relationship with each other, which continues to scar their children. In that situation, where they divorce and continue on in a high conflict relationship, maybe it would be better if they stayed married. But if they can divorce and remarry and be happy and that will stop the conflict, that is better than to stay married to each other in a high-conflict marriage.


Here is another abstract from the same author on this topic:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/q...&dopt=Abstract

You are unnecessarily limiting options here. If there is irresolvable conflict between two people, it strikes me that neither divorce nor continued marriage under an increasingly tattered white flag is a complete solution. The conflict will continue.

A simple solution is to remove the source the conflict, in this case, one of the spouses. There are people who can take care of this.

(Damn, Bilmore beat me to it. I need to adopt his approach of posting before thinking.)

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
You have just voided your exemption by repeating your whining. No more sympathy for you, Ms. I Have it All but It's Harder than I Thought It Would Be Even Though It's Also Incredibly Rewarding.
:violin:

Are you trying to taunt me into a flame war in the hopes that that will draw me out of my melancholy?

That is so nice of you!

[bilmore]

Originally posted by Tyrone_Slothrop
Anyone know if they're selling this at Whole Foods in, oh, say, the Bay Area?

It's really overpriced, which would militate in favor of "yes", but it contains no cilantro or sun-dried tomatoes, so probably not.

[ThrashersFan]

Originally posted by NotFromHere
Could you please tell the fuckers who are discussing divorce to just take it to the Mommy board and let those of us who are discussing the merits of alcohol continue?

And can someone please find that picture of Andre 3000 with the pink gun? Because if Barbie's gonna pack, that's what she'd be packing.

Please link here to see a nice pictorial showing the life of a keg at a party and closes with a mural showing pics of each of the 141 beers served. Quite educational. Okay, not quite.

http://www.cockeyed.com/inside/keg/keg.html

"In order to keep track of the number of beers that the keg dispensed, I decided to take a photo of each cupful in its owner's hand. This scheme meant standing by the keg the whole night, but it turned out that the keg was an epicenter of party action, so I was never lonely."

[bilmore]

Originally posted by ThrashersFan
"In order to keep track of the number of beers that the keg dispensed, I decided to take a photo of each cupful in its owner's hand. This scheme meant standing by the keg the whole night, but it turned out that the keg was an epicenter of party action, so I was never lonely."

I bet this guy wonders why he's not dating much.

[evenodds]

Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
Take a walk in the sun. They totally fucked up when the put the stress of the holidays on us when there's the least amount of sunlight in the day. Go charge up your melotonin.

Excellent advice.

Also, try walking the staircases at work. After you get the blood pumping for 10 or 15 flights, you might feel much better.

[ThrashersFan]

Originally posted by bilmore
I bet this guy wonders why he's not dating much.

It is certainly his photography jones and not him personally:



edited: the keg is obviously empty here -- but it looks like he has the same shirt on from the party the night before. There are some things from my youth that I do not miss.

[Not Me]

Originally posted by bilmore
I bet this guy wonders why he's not dating much.

TF is a guy? Shit. I thought he was a she.

I have seen other BB's that use the same software as here and they require you to designate a gender when you register. Then your gender shows up as either a pink circle-with-a-+ or a blue circle-with-an->, which is incredibly unPC, but very helpful in putting the things that people say in the proper gender-perspective.

[Atticus Grinch]

Originally posted by Tyrone_Slothrop
Anyone know if they're selling this at Whole Foods in, oh, say, the Bay Area?

It would appear not. In any event, if they were, it would probably be $250, which seriously cuts into my Happy Ending fund.

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by Not Me
TF is a guy? Shit. I thought he was a she.

I have seen other BB's that use the same software as here and they require you to designate a gender when you register. Then your gender shows up as either a pink circle-with-a-+ or a blue circle-with-an->, which is incredibly unPC, but very helpful in putting the things that people say in the proper gender-perspective.

Thurgreed is right. You are stupid.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by bold_n_brazen
Thurgreed is right. You are stupid.

Getting into a flame war with an idiot is not as efficacious as getting into a flame war with a non-idiot. Now go jog the stairs while eating chocolate and chugging a bottle of rum.

[Fugee]

Originally posted by evenodds
You can find them at www.milesofchocolate.com . They are currently selling at whole foods in the southwest.

It's the single best dessert I have ever eaten. Well worth the $51. Better still if someone else has procured it for you.

I'll have to wait for them to sell to Whole Foods here in the Patch. If you look at the ingredients on the web site, I'm not all that surprised at the $51 price (I assume for an 8x12 sheet, you're getting at least a pound or more.)

Good baking chocolate is not cheap. I paid close to $10 for a 9.7 oz. block of Scharffen Berger unsweetened chocolate and I think Valrhona may be more expensive (though you get better prices if you buy in bulk). Add in heavy cream and eggs and some sugar and you've got a good bit of the price in ingredients alone. Add labor, wholesaler profit and retailer profit and voila, $51.

EO and RT: if anyone ever publishes a recipe of a knock-off of this, please send it to me. I looooooove chocolate.

[AngryMulletMan]

Originally posted by Fugee
My mom loves stuff like crystal angels so I will put it in her stocking from Santa. (I hang stockings for my parents at their house and put in little gifts just for fun.)

The only regifting I ever, ever do goes on with my sisters.

My mother does all of her Christmas shopping the day after Christmas and sends us (there are 4 girls in the family) stuff which we all hate. I always get together with at least one of my sisters and we open the gifts my mother sends, roll our eyes or express absolute horror and then have a drink or 5 and ask each other what our mother could possibly have been thinking when she was shopping.

One year my mom sent one of us (can't remember which) an ugly sweater and that sweater has made the rounds every year back and forth among the sisters. A number of years ago, mom sent us all Thanksgiving salt and pepper shakers (that look like fat, drunk pilgrims with shotguns) for Christmas (there must have been a clearance sale at WalMart) and we have sent those around as well. The game is to be the one who doesn't end up with the ugly pilgrims.

So, I am only in favor of re-gifting when it involves some twisted commentary on family disfunction among me and my sisters. Our husbands, by the way, are mystified about why we do this or find it hilarious but they do hate it when the pilgrims come to live at our house for the year.

Last year it was Barbie Christmas ornaments from 1999....

[ThrashersFan]

Originally posted by Not Me
TF is a guy? Shit. I thought he was a she.

I have seen other BB's that use the same software as here and they require you to designate a gender when you register. Then your gender shows up as either a pink circle-with-a-+ or a blue circle-with-an->, which is incredibly unPC, but very helpful in putting the things that people say in the proper gender-perspective.

I went and met with my HR guy down the hall and he verified that I have a pink circle. It tickled.