A Black Hole of Happiness

[dtb]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
My marriage was a mistake. My divorce was not a mistake. Not all failed relationships are mistakes, necessarily, but that particular one of mine was.

I'm glad someone can admit this.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
...in retrospect, it would have been better if it had never happened. Like hooking up with Jeffrey Dahmer. Or being born.

A reason I'm pro choice




...which I find gets little traction in that debate.

[ltl/fb]

Someone was telling me that they can't get a report with exactly the data that I actually kind of really really need, and I sighed and said, "well, I guess it is what it is." Then I said, "I used to hate hate hate that phrase, and now I use it all the time. I'm not sure whether it means that I've grown up, or I've . . . uh . . ." and he interjected "given up?"

Hit the nail on the head, for me at least.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
A reason I'm pro choice




...which I find gets little traction in that debate.

Works well for me. Sebby never born -- whoo hoo! Maybe people don't like saying that to your face.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
"AP Intl. (12:00 EST) : 'God Is a Female.'"

Holy Rorschach test, batman. Those are definitely fallopian tubes.

[andViolins]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
Someone was telling me that they can't get a report with exactly the data that I actually kind of really really need, and I sighed and said, "well, I guess it is what it is." Then I said, "I used to hate hate hate that phrase, and now I use it all the time. I'm not sure whether it means that I've grown up, or I've . . . uh . . ." and he interjected "given up?"

Hit the nail on the head, for me at least.

You know, there's a new cover sheet that is supposed to go on all of the TPS reports. Did you get the memo?

aV

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by taxwonk
I was also trying to be sensitive to Sparkle's needs. After all, she may not be up for the FMF, and if she's not a voyeur, then hanging around during the getting laid part in order to get drunk after might be rather awkward.

I used to think everyone was at least a closet voyeur until I watched that live sex show in Amsterdam.

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by dtb
I'm glad someone can admit this.

Eh. I think marrying my ex was a mistake. I know divorcing him was not a mistake.

But I have a hard time looking at my kid and thinking the marriage was a mistake.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by andViolins
You know, there's a new cover sheet that is supposed to go on all of the TPS reports. Did you get the memo?

aV

All the TPS reports I get have the correct cover sheet. My minions and coworkers are diligent like that.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
That comment struck me as well. I don't think of my marriage as a mistake at all. It was actually pretty fun. We just evolved differently.

I don't really think of any failed relationship as a mistake. It met a need at the time.

This being a silly semantic debate which somebody could turn into a festering divisive sore, I'll weigh in...

Technically, a marriage being a lifelong commitment, one could say that every divorce is a failed marriage. Since the marriage is the relationship at issue, then you have, semantically, logically, a "failed relationship."

I guess you could parse the relationship from the marriage and say the relationship just "ran its course" and probably should never have been a marriage, but I don't see how that's not a "failed marriage."

Maybe you could attack the word "failed" instead, by suggesting the marriage wasn't a failure because it was merely ended by mutual agreement, both sides figuring it was better ended than continued. But I still think that's hard to dfifferentiate from a "failed marriage."

You can't give me a wedgie because I'm naked.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
I used to think everyone was at least a closet voyeur until I watched that live sex show in Amsterdam.

Now you're openly a voyeur? Have you told your parents?

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
This being a silly semantic debate which somebody could turn into a festering divisive sore, I'll weigh in...

Technically, a marriage being a lifelong commitment, one could say that every divorce is a failed marriage. Since the marriage is the relationship at issue, then you have, semantically, logically, a "failed relationship."

I guess you could parse the relationship from the marriage and say the relationship just "ran its course" and probably should never have been a marriage, but I don't see how that's not a "failed marriage."

Maybe you could attack the word "failed" instead, by suggesting the marriage wasn't a failure because it was merely ended by mutual agreement, both sides figuring it was better ended than continued. But I still think that's hard to dfifferentiate from a "failed marriage."

You can't give me a wedgie because I'm naked.

Holy shit did you miss the boat with this one. Are you the guy who throws all kinds of red herrings into your briefs while completely avoiding the actual issue?

Everyone is arguing over the word "mistake", not "failed". I don't think anyone will disagree that a marriage that ends in divorce did not fail.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by bold_n_brazen
Eh. I think marrying my ex was a mistake. I know divorcing him was not a mistake.

But I have a hard time looking at my kid and thinking the marriage was a mistake.

I waited forever to get hitched and did a long engagement to avoid The Mistake. Everyone told me I was nuts - that I should jump. I figured there was no way to really get to know a person until after about 4-5 years of living together. We went through wanting to kill each other and nearly breaking up a shitload of times and then we realized, "OK, we're both dumb enough to make this official."

[dtb]

Originally posted by bold_n_brazen
Eh. I think marrying my ex was a mistake. I know divorcing him was not a mistake.

But I have a hard time looking at my kid and thinking the marriage was a mistake.

But you didn't need to get married for that!

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by dtb
But you didn't need to get married for that!

No no no, silly girl, it's unpossible to make a baby unless you are properly married.