Merry Generic Winter Day-Off With No Religious Content

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by Adder
Which leads me to a dilemma of my own (sort of). I have recently been in rather regular touch with an ex. She initiated the contact, and much of the discussion has been rather flirty, including a discussion of whether adultery is ever appropriate (she agruing yes, me not so sure). She also mentioned that she might be coming out her for professional reasons, only deciding for sure after I suggest that we get together if she comes.

So, question is whether it is inappropriate of me to attempt to make the most of the visit. Does it matter at all that she is now married to the guy she left me for, and was probably seeing before we broke up? (somehow, it makes me object less).

Am I a total prude for even asking?

What kind of shoes does she wear these days?

[Adder]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
So, I'm struggling to figure out what your opposition to screwing her is.

1. You don't want to give her the satisfaction of knowing she can still have you whenever she wants?

2. You think it's wrong to fuck another guy's girl (even one that fucked yours)?

3. She's not that attractive?

TM

Mostly 2, but maybe a bit of 1 too.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
So, I'm struggling to figure out what your opposition to screwing her is.

1. You don't want to give her the satisfaction of knowing she can still have you whenever she wants?

2. You think it's wrong to fuck another guy's girl (even one that fucked yours)?

3. She's not that attractive?

TM

I second this, except I'd change 3 to "You aren't attracted to her enough to want to fuck her?" I suppose that's implied, but whatever.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by Sparklehorse
Okay, to tie this in to the morning's discussion, WTF is the big deal about anal sex? Why would this be more of a triumph than plain old Vanilla?

You know the board must be over when we start re-running strings on anal sex.

TM

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by Adder
I am pretty confident that this is not a factor that is terrible important to most guys in this situation.

OK, change that to really really lust. Whatever. I would say "you know what I mean" but you really might be that dense.

In answer to penske, I don't think I would want to have anal w/o a condom even in a committed, monogamous relationship. Is that weird?

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by Tyrone Slothrop
Just so's we're clear that the only person conceivably eating anything as a result of that exchange was him.

Doubtful. But whatever. As long as you know you were the one sucking it,* it's okay.

TM

*Hard.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
Screw Cuckold.

Shhhhh. I think I said that once and then someone actually did.

TM

eta: Damn! Too slow on the trigger today.*

*Enter ironweed.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
You know the board must be over when we start re-running strings on anal sex.

TM

Is this an anal beads joke?

[Sparklehorse]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
You know the board must be over when we start re-running strings on anal sex.

TM

I don't remember that discussion.

And why is this worse than repeatedly discussing that fat people are disgusting? Or football ad nauseum?

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Maybe he was too focused on the many bodies lying dead in your wake?

I hate AZ cops.*

TM

*More than most.

Hmph. I left the body in LA.

[Adder]

Originally posted by Sparklehorse
I don't remember that discussion.

And why is this worse than repeatedly discussing that fat people are disgusting?

As far as I am concerned, it is much better.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by Sparklehorse
I don't remember that discussion.

And why is this worse than repeatedly discussing that fat people are disgusting? Or football ad nauseum?

2.

eta I do remember the discussion -- it was years ago, I think. Maybe not. In the discussion I am remembering, DS was really into it and at that point I'd never done it.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by Sparklehorse
I don't remember that discussion.

And why is this worse than repeatedly discussing that fat people are disgusting? Or football ad nauseum?

I wasn't saying it's worse. I wasn't even saying it was bad. I just think we've talked about everything.

TM

[Adder]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
OK, change that to really really lust. Whatever. I would say "you know what I mean" but you really might be that dense.

In answer to penske, I don't think I would want to have anal w/o a condom even in a committed, monogamous relationship. Is that weird?

I am probably that dense. Although what I was getting at was the I don't think the appeal for most guys has much to do with what she thinks about it at all, but instead has to do with the sense of doing something out side the ordinary, the sense of conquest, and, of course, simple pleasure.

But then again, maybe what you are saying is not that different than my reference to a sense of conquest.

[Sparklehorse]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
I wasn't saying it's worse. I wasn't even saying it was bad. I just think we've talked about everything.

TM

Then cue up the discussion about how we need new blood!