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Originally posted by purse junkie
I believe I ran into this issue a couple years back when I consulted Miss Manners' Weddings for a delicate etiquette issue (can I tell people who invite their small children to my wedding to screw off?), and she was very unhappy with the idea of people using toasts, etc. to joke, even rather gently, about the bride/groom because of the mortification potential.
I have heard a few "Wow, has s/he been around the block a lot!" toasts, which did not go over well with naive relatives who took the assumption of nonvirginity as a horrid insult.
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It is my opinion that it is okay to joke about the bride/groom so long as it is done in a charming way. 2 examples.
Several years ago, I had a roommate who's fiance was living in a different city completing his residency. They talked on the phone every night at bedtime and again first thing in the morning. At their wedding I said "I have had the pleasure of living with Bride since her first date with Groom. I have watched them fall in love and decide to get married. For the past year, every night, as I climbed into bed, I could hear them talking on the phone saying their last goodnights. And every morning, sure as the sun would rise, our phone would ring and it would be Groom calling to say good morning to Bride. I have wondered, oftentimes aloud to Bride, what on earth could have possibly changed in the 8 hours that you've been asleep that you have to talk again first thing in the morning? I still don't know. But I know they always find something to talk about in the morning. So, let's raise our glasses to Bride and Groom, to their continued happiness, and to the hope that they continue to find new things to talk about in the morning."
Second story.
I have a friend, we'll call him Groom. In law school, he walked past this impossibly hot girl (we'll call her Bride) and said to his friend (we'll call him Best Man) "Someday, man, I'm gonna fuck her." Best friend laughed.
Fast forward several years. To their wedding.
Best Man makes a toast. He tells the story of how, one day in law school Groom walked by Bride, an impossibly hot girl, and said to Best Man, "Dude, someday, I'm going to date her." He tells of how he, Best Man, laughed derisively at Groom. Best Man shrugs his shoulders and says "Guess you were right and I was wrong". And then he congratulated them whole heartledly and wished them much happiness. Drinking ensued.
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