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Originally posted by Trepidation_Mom
Trepidation Dad has this concern, too. He says he's felt this way ever since seeing the infamous childbirth film in health class in high school, but since blabbing the joyous news to his sports team buddies (to many cries of "3 months? I saw your wife about 3 months ago yukk yukk yukk"), he's also talked to a number of the dads on the team about it. He said a surprisingly large proportion of them told him of their distress at having been in the birthing room, having found the whole thing unforgettably disgusting, and then not even being able to talk to their wives about it because they are supposed to be happy about having shared such a magical moment.
One said it was so bad he often can't get it up with his wife anymore because sex with her makes him think about it (which seems an unacceptable outcome to even risk). One said his relationship deteriorated greatly after telling his partner that he didn't want to be present for the birth of his second child after having been pretty traumatized by the first. Besides the gross-out factor, there was one guy who said he hasn't been able to feel comfortable around his wife for several years since she (reportedly) grabbed his nuts while she was in labor and squeezed screaming "you bastard, this is all your fault!!!"
Maybe I should get him a log-in here. Of the dad-friends he's discussed this with, he said that even those who didn't think it was actually a mistake to be present merely said it wasn't that bad (and called the complainers "little girly-men" - it's a team). No one recommended it as an experience.
Perhaps I should clarify that Trepidation Dad's sports team is disproportionately Scottish, Finnish and South American.
(Hope I'm living up to my moniker.)
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It is the most beautiful moment in the world.
I barely even noticed when a tube got pulled off the needle in my wife's arm and she bled all over me.
And I am usually sensitive to such things.
But it is a moment not to be missed. Tell these Dads that you know men are wimps, but try to cowboy up for a couple hours.
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