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Originally posted by cuckold
Wow. Everyone's responses have been great. I actually appreciate SD's advice, although I'm not ready to follow it yet. The idea about emptying the bank accounts is a wise one, at least in part. Long ago I had a joint account with a girlfriend. Day before she broke up with me she took out $5k, leaving me with about $200 to live on for the summer before the bar.

Okay, details, as several asked for: we have young kids and it would pretty much kill me not to see them every day, but on the other hand I'm a GA and taking full time care of them alone would be very, very difficult. Before I found out about the affair, we were having some problems but I was definitely trying to work them out. Now, I'm not so sure. Based on knowing the guy and what I read, I think the level of emotional involvement is somewhere in the middle for her: it's definitely not a one night stand, but I don't think either of them are looking for a permenant hookup (although I could see them occassionally sleeping together for years, if the occassion arose). Several of the e-mails from "Bill" were suggesting three ways with various other women, to which my wife seemed at least somewhat receptive.

I'm still working through this, but right now I'm leaning toward not being okay with this. If it were a one night thing, a fling on a business trip, a hooking up with an old boyfriend just for a weekend, I'd get over it. But I don't think that's the case, even if it isn't a long-term thing either.

I suppose my biggest issue is whether I confront her or not. I could just leave and not say why.

Kill two birds with one stone. Quit your day job to become a stay at home dad. Then go for the divorce, the kids and alimony. During divorce, seek a reconciliation if she will do the FMF with you in the middle. If so, go for it and then kick her to the curb in the A.M.