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Originally posted by cuckold
I thought everyone would want an update.
I had a long talk with my wife on Friday. At least for now, we're staying together. Obviously, a prerequesit for that was that the affair is over (or maybe not obviously - googling "cuckold" comes up with some weird shit).
What convinced me to stay with it is that she truely seems to have turned a corner. I haven't pretended we weren't having problems, and the affair was a symptom of those problems, but we may have openned a door to solving those underlying problems. I'm willing to give that a shot, at least for now, because I still love my wife very much (considerations of the kids plays into it as well - I don't believe its best to always try to staty together "for the kids" but it does give extra incentive to try to work it out).
Oddly enough, it wasn't our discussion that brought about the change. I sent her off hand an e-mail earlier in the week about going to London for the Olympics. She said it made her pause and realize that she was throwing away a long term paln over short term frustrations.
I still haven't worked out what to do about Bill. I have of course made it clear I don't want him anywhere around. But it will be inevitable that I'll run into him someday. I need to have a plan, or I'll end up just sucker punching him. NTTAWWT.
Thanks to everyone for the advice and concern. Thanks especially to those who PM'd me with advice and offers to help. You don't know me (well, you do, at least in cyberspace, but you don't know that), and you willingness to help is much appreciated.
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Best of luck. I hope it works out for you.
As for a plan when you run into Bill, how about something like "hey, so I probably shouldn't tell you this, but I feel bad . . . I was having a hot threesome with my wife and your [wife?/girlfriend?/sister?] back in June 2005, and my wife was telling me about your, uh, endowment problem. I might know a guy who does great plastic surgery work, if you're interested. Let me know."