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Originally posted by cuckold
I thought everyone would want an update.
I had a long talk with my wife on Friday. At least for now, we're staying together. Obviously, a prerequesit for that was that the affair is over (or maybe not obviously - googling "cuckold" comes up with some weird shit).
What convinced me to stay with it is that she truely seems to have turned a corner. I haven't pretended we weren't having problems, and the affair was a symptom of those problems, but we may have openned a door to solving those underlying problems. I'm willing to give that a shot, at least for now, because I still love my wife very much (considerations of the kids plays into it as well - I don't believe its best to always try to staty together "for the kids" but it does give extra incentive to try to work it out).
Oddly enough, it wasn't our discussion that brought about the change. I sent her off hand an e-mail earlier in the week about going to London for the Olympics. She said it made her pause and realize that she was throwing away a long term paln over short term frustrations.
I still haven't worked out what to do about Bill. I have of course made it clear I don't want him anywhere around. But it will be inevitable that I'll run into him someday. I need to have a plan, or I'll end up just sucker punching him. NTTAWWT.
Thanks to everyone for the advice and concern. Thanks especially to those who PM'd me with advice and offers to help. You don't know me (well, you do, at least in cyberspace, but you don't know that), and you willingness to help is much appreciated.
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Wow. Good for you and your level-headedness. I don't think there's any way my husband would ever get over my having an affair. I'm pretty sure his reaction would involve violence, but more likely against me, not Bill (proverbially speaking). I know he loves me and all that, but I'm sure he would divorce me (well, I'm not
sure, as it's never come up, but that's what I think would happen). I suppose I'd probably get the children, and maybe he could see beyond his (justifiable) anger to provide them a two-parent household, but I don't know.
Which is why I would have to be absolutely blind/mad with desire before I would contemplate moving beyond the velleity stage to taking (or getting - heh) action. I'm not saying it could never happen, but it hasn't yet.
I could get over my husband's having a fling or whatever. What would bother me is if he were in love with someone else. That would seriously bum me out, but I could understand the sex thing. Of course, I don't think I'll mention that to him.
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