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Originally posted by dtb
Now Atticus, you know I love[d] you (once), so please know that I have nothing against you, and know you are all smart and shit.
That said, there is something ever-so-slightly condescending and superior in your tone that rather rankles.
Yes, yes; anyone who takes it that way must be retarded and/or willfully obtuse, but, there it is.
We know you're proud of the Mrs. and people actually GAPE IN AWE at the fact that she delivered children without pain medication. But you know what? BFD. Great. Big whoop, etc. To draw some sort of conclusion about anything based on a person's (or a sex's) decision whether to use pain medication during childbirth is patently absurd. Furthermore, it is unseemly to boast about it (and whether or not you are intending to "boast" -- that's how it sounds), and insulting to, well, me, and perhaps others who are taking issue with your theory.
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Um, I'm inclined to believe that what people read into my posts was motivated far more by the politics of birth than it was by, say, my actual tone. Elsewhere on these boards I could say that anyone who eats meat is a murderer, or people who seek out DP encounters are total fucking whores, and it would not be seen as tramping on anyone's feelings. But if you say "We chose Demerol over an epidural because our midwife convinced us the risk was lower" and you're shitting on anyone who had an epidural, apparently, because someone in the room is going to think you're saying they unnecessarily put their baby at risk (or whatever).
Considering the endless pro-drug caveats with which I qualified my original posts on this topic, and my expressed support for a woman who flatly stated she would seek out a c-section instead of having another 42 hours of back labor, I have learned that even talking about one's own birth experience is judging even when you say it's not. It's too much of a minefield.
I think it says something that we can talk about "spanking or no spanking?" without calling anyone an abuser, but we can't talk about NCB without someone being called a misogynist who wants women to suffer. I'm a misogynist and my wife is both a misogynist and a masochist.
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