A frolic in Cambodia

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by Pretty Little Flower
You're a good dancer when I am drunk.

Really fucking drunk.

When I have been dancing when you were drunk? When, Flower? When?

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
the feeling swelled

At my gym today, the insane owner was playing Air Supply. About an hour ago, I managed to get "Making love out of nothing at all" out of my head, and with these three words, you have managed to put it back in there.

Damn you! Damn you all to hell with your swelling feelings!!

[Pretty Little Flower]

Originally posted by bold_n_brazen
Untrue. I said it to him.

Well, at least you were honest. Which is more than I can say for Sebastian. He is really beginning to piss me off.

[Not Bob]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
more of his anti-compliment nonsense

You know, Mister Cranky Pants, it's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
You are reading too much into that last post. My example doesn't assume it was obvious that you weren't feeling so beautiful. If it came to my mind at that point because I was looking at you and the feeling swelled to the point where I wanted to tell you (and you just might happen to not feel so beautiful at that point), it would mean something.

Sometimes I'll give a compliment like that when my gf is walking around in sweats with a baseball cap on because I'm thinking about everything I like about her (not just her looks, even though I think that look is hot).

I don't compliment people at an "appropriate time." That's stupid and would lead to the other person expecting it even more than if you complimented them all the time. If you think I would, you need to go back and reread all my posts (or just ask Fugee -- that ain't me). However, I reserve the right to tell you you're beautiful if you are all dressed up and look stunning if I feel like it.

Thurgreed(I'm not denying that my rules may not make sense to people other than me -- but it's worked pretty well for me so far)Marshall

I wasn't really talking so much about you as I was talking in sweeping generalities. And about myself.

I'm pretty selfish that way. Maybe you need to go back and read all my posts.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by Pretty Little Flower
Well, at least you were honest. Which is more than I can say for Sebastian. He is really beginning to piss me off.

Would you please quit bickering with roauaouoaaal. Jesus. I'll subsidize the cost of a room for you all to work off all that passion, if it will help, but shut up.

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
I dated a guy for three months whose opening line was "you're fairly attractive."

Since I am actually sah-mokin' hot, I inferred sincerity from his understatement, and fucked his brains out that very night. So there ya go.

Did you then make fun of him for being a brainless fucker?

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
Me either. I've lost weight recently, and I'm getting better at simply saying "thank you" when people tell me that I'm looking good, but I still have issues with compliments.

In my circle, I'm a fairly fast distance runner, and people bring it up all of the time. Especially with the recent marathon boom. For example, a lesser-known aquaintance will find out that I'm a runner and ask me to run with him, or start talking to me about the marathon he just ran, etc. I nod, ask questions and add little comments, nothing too much b/c he brought it up. Then someone who knows both of us will mention that "oh Coltrane has run Boston before, or he's gone under 3 hours," and the lesser-known aquaintance will say "oh wow, I didn't realize you were that fast...I guess I can't run with you" or something like that.

So I get complimented, but I feel like a dick b/c this guy thinks I just let him go on and on w/out mentioning to him that I'm fairly fast, when I was really just being polite and didn't want to look like a blowhard.

The point is that I personally don't think I'm fast. And I'm not.* I could and should be much faster. Yeah, I'm much faster than your sweatsuit wearing, once-a-year 10k for charity runner, but in running circles, I'm just a decent marathoner. Not terrible, but not great. Basically, it's not that I'm fast; it's that the majority of runners are really slow. So I get uncomfortable when I receive that kind of praise, b/c I don't think I deserve it.

*ask Penske

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by Pretty Little Flower
Nobody has ever said that to you. Now, not only are you lying, but you are also being falsely modest in an insufferable attempt to fish for compliments. You are using up your capital on this board pretty quickly.

I earned it. I intend to spend it. I have a mandate.

Substantively, rubbish. I was backhandedly bragging about my ability to score betties without so much as an utterance.

No, believe it or not, that statement has been made to me. I think AdL was present with me at a bar a few years back where some chick told me I was attractive and then said in the same breath "what a waste." I think she was religious or something and I bent her with a few comments early. Selah...

[Pretty Little Flower]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
Would you please quit bickering with roauaouoaaal. Jesus. I'll subsidize the cost of a room for you all to work off all that passion, if it will help, but shut up.

I'll quit bickering when he stops disrespecting me and everyone else on the board.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
You are focusing on the discrete "value" of each compliment. I'm thinking more about the value in the aggregate -- more appropriately, the benefit more generous praise does for your relationship over time.

You're right. I am focusing on each compliment. But if you are satisfied that each compliment is genuine and I have been consistent since the day we met, where is the problem?

If you need more generous praise as the years go by to keep you happy in your relationship, something else is wrong with your relationship.

TM

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
Would you please quit bickering with roauaouoaaal. Jesus. I'll subsidize the cost of a room for you all to work off all that passion, if it will help, but shut up.

I don't think he's my type, but if its a nice room...

No kissing.

ETA: I'm pitching. I called it.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
Did you then make fun of him for being a brainless fucker?

No. But, when he ended the relationship after 3 months, because unnoticed to me, I had undergone "a radical personality change" (which, coincidentally, had happened to every other woman he'd dated in the preceding 5 years or so, at just about the 3 month point), I did, in a moment of not feeling so generous with the praise, make fun of his small penis.

[Pretty Little Flower]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
I earned it. I intend to spend it. I have a mandate.

Substantively, rubbish. I was backhandedly bragging about my ability to score betties without so much as an utterance.

No, believe it or not, that statement has been made to me. I think AdL was present with me at a bar a few years back where some chick told me I was attractive and then said in the same breath "what a waste." I think she was religious or something and I bent her with a few comments early. Selah...

Maybe if you were more respectful of me and others on the board, B'n'B would not have to be such a stone cold bitch to you. I cannot believe you blew it with the Tangy one. I heard she has fantastic breasts.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
You're right. I am focusing on each compliment. But if you are satisfied that each compliment is genuine and I have been consistent since the day we met, where is the problem?

If you need more generous praise as the years go by to keep you happy in your relationship, something else is wrong with your relationship.

TM

Puh-leeze.