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lookingformarket · 06-20-2005, 01:54 PM

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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
Why is that "commando?" is there some history from here, or is it a widely used term?

Widely used term. Origin is generally b/c underwear is made of cotton and therefore not good to wear in damp jungle environments (fatigue pants dry quickly and cotton underwear would stay wet, giving you crotch-rot), so commando-types who were in jungle situations wore no underwear.

mmm3587 · 06-20-2005, 01:55 PM

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Originally posted by sunnybunny
It was the pansy ass shit. You sound like the worst kind of guy...serial monogamist afraid of being on his fucking own but too fucking wimpy to actually break up with a woman once he realizes she isn't the love of his life...or too fucking un-selfaware to realize she isn't the love of his life until years and years of dating.

Really? In my mind, I was actually arguing for the opposite. People should do what they want in relationships, but try to be honest about what they want and why they want it. If they can't be honest about the ways that they feel and the reasons they do things (to some extent; a little "that's just how I feel is fine now and then"), they should be in therapy about that shit. And if they're languishing on for years with someone who's not making them happy, they should move on. I certainly have.

Maybe that's "sensitive," maybe it's being a pansy-ass, whatever. I just think it's a lot more productive, a lot healthier and a lot more likely to lead to happiness that keeping that shit inside and letting it fester. That's what can lead to crazy breakups, passport burning, cheating, divorces, domestic violence, etc.

sunnybunny · 06-20-2005, 01:55 PM

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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Like that poor sap is going to get the opportunity to find out if you have underwear on or not. Please.

TM

Keep in mind I had to sex for three months...I'm at my limit here! I've fucked on a first date before...it's just not my MO...but I'm just really in the mood to fuck right now and I'm sure that won't change by dinner time.

ThurgreedMarshall · 06-20-2005, 01:56 PM

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Originally posted by sunnybunny
Nah, that wasn't it...I was just kidding about that part. Unless I could wear earplugs.

It was the pansy ass shit. You sound like the worst kind of guy...serial monogamist afraid of being on his fucking own but too fucking wimpy to actually break up with a woman once he realizes she isn't the love of his life...or too fucking un-selfaware to realize she isn't the love of his life until years and years of dating.

Now who's projec...

Holy Crap! Run everbody! RUN!

TM

sunnybunny · 06-20-2005, 01:57 PM

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Originally posted by mmm3587
Really? In my mind, I was actually arguing for the opposite. People should do what they want in relationships, but try to be honest about what they want and why they want it. If they can't be honest about the ways that they feel and the reasons they do things (to some extent; a little "that's just how I feel is fine now and then"), they should be in therapy about that shit. And if they're languishing on for years with someone who's not making them happy, they should move on. I certainly have.

Maybe that's "sensitive," maybe it's being a pansy-ass, whatever. I just think it's a lot more productive, a lot healthier and a lot more likely to lead to happiness that keeping that shit inside and letting it fester. That's what can lead to crazy breakups, passport burning, cheating, divorces, domestic violence, etc.

Healthier? We're not looking for healthier around here...this is the fuckign fashionboard. Take it over to the Doctor Drew board.

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 06-20-2005, 02:00 PM

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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
Widely used but I guess I don't know the history. Someone fill us all in.

What is a different term for it? Underpants-free? I can't think of a "sexy" term for this.

Friends? Didn't Joey go commando with all of Chandler's clothes on?

Free-balling? Not so good for the ladies though.

dtb · 06-20-2005, 02:04 PM

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Originally posted by ironweed
You'll be laughing out of the other side of your face when the giant robots show up.

I won't. I bought robot insurance.

Gattigap · 06-20-2005, 02:08 PM

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Originally posted by dtb
I won't. I bought robot insurance.

Accepting shots of Tullamore Dew from the bartender at Rocky's is NOT "robot insurance."

I bought that bill of goods, and wouldn't you know, big fuckin' robots with accents carved from the rocks of Belfast appeared and chased me around lower Manhattan until 4am.

ABBAKiss · 06-20-2005, 02:14 PM

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Originally posted by mmm3587
Idiotic crap

Do you think anyone should get married ever? I am being serious. Because a lot of what you are saying makes no sense and contradicts itself.

notcasesensitive · 06-20-2005, 02:17 PM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
I probably agree with most of this, BUT I saw something in mmmmmmmmm's post that suggested that after explaining why you're breaking up with the guy (which I agree with) you should be giving some room for corrective action. In my experience, that doesn't work. If someone wants to break up, their mind is usually pretty made up on the matter, and I think that leaving false hope that things could get better is worse than breaking someone's heart.

Like if the problem is, for example, I'm not attracted to you and the thought of ever having sex with you again really sketches me out. Hard to fix that with counseling, I say. Also hard to say during the heart-to-heart airing of grievances. Usually is couched in terms of "feelings have changed" and "it's not you, it's me".

str8outavannuys · 06-20-2005, 02:18 PM

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Originally posted by mmm3587
Isn't this the book that explores how some people can perceive certain things, like whether the server is going to double fault, without ever really being able to explain the reasoning behind their actions?

That's all fine and good in a lot of things, and I've been meaning to read that book, but I have hated being involved personally, romantically and professionally with people who always "know it when they see it," "just feel that way" and "can't justify their feelings." In my (admittedly biased) mind, that's how a four year old acts. Adults explain why they feel a certain way and can talk about it coherently.

I somehow just knew that after Retief Goosen let his 3 stroke lead slip away yesterday, that he would come charging back and have a great final 14 holes.

Thankfully I didn't put any money on it.

Let's give it up to the Krazy Kiwi, Michael Campbell. Our Golfer of the Year.

robustpuppy · 06-20-2005, 02:24 PM

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Originally posted by str8outavannuys
I somehow just knew that after Retief Goosen let his 3 stroke lead slip away yesterday, that he would come charging back and have a great final 14 holes.

Thankfully I didn't put any money on it.

Let's give it up to the Krazy Kiwi, Michael Campbell. Our Golfer of the Year.

This one time, in contracts class ...

Replaced_Texan · 06-20-2005, 02:26 PM

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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Like if the problem is, for example, I'm not attracted to you and the thought of ever having sex with you again really sketches me out. Hard to fix that with counseling, I say. Also hard to say during the heart-to-heart airing of grievances. Usually is couched in terms of "feelings have changed" and "it's not you, it's me".

I like "it's not fair to either one of us."

robustpuppy · 06-20-2005, 02:28 PM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
I like "it's not fair to either one of us."

"You deserve to find someone who is as in love with you as you are with me."

notcasesensitive · 06-20-2005, 02:34 PM

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Originally posted by robustpuppy
"You deserve to find someone who is as in love with you as you are with me."

Damn. I think I said that at some point during the airing of grievances. Must be in the break-up manual.