Fashion Board 1-08-04 through 02-03-04

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by barely_legal
This is a serious question, so while I know I'll get the usual number of smart-ass responses, I would like at least a few serious responses sprinkled in (I know I can count on NB and RT for that, at least).

What's the best way of telling a guy that he's an awful kisser? I've gone out with this guy a few times, and I like him, but he is the worst kisser in the world. I'm not exaggerating, THE WORLD. His kissing technique is so bad that I've considered just not going out with him again and blaming a lack of "chemistry", but I've decided to try to act like a grown up instead and actually talk to him about it.

Guys, how would you like a girl to tell you that your kissing turns her off? How can I say it so that he will listen and adjust, but so that he doesn't hate me? I've never had to deal with this before. Girls, have you ever been successful at getting a guy to change his kissing technique? If so, how?

If it makes a difference, his technique is bad b/c it consists solely of licking my lips (ew ew ew) and then jamming his massive tongue down my throat. That's it. That's the sum total of how he kisses. If I knew for a fact that he would always kiss like that and would never change, I would gladly break up with him right now rather than endure another one of those kisses. But everything else about his seems great so far, so I'm hoping that maybe he can just be re-trained.

I'm not sure you have to tell him. Everyone has run across that girl/guy who sticks his/her tongue down the other person's throat. Just don't let them do it. Physically. Close your mouth a little bit. Just like in dancing, in kissing you can lead. Block his tongue with yours. If he can't figure it out, tell him. I'm pretty blunt, but I've said "hey, take it easy with the tongue, okay." Do this when your both drunk.

What the fuck is he doing licking your lips*?

*non-vijay

[bilmore]

Originally posted by barely_legal
What's the best way of telling a guy that he's an awful kisser?

Next time he leans in, say "stop, for a second, let me show you how I like kisses", and then educate him. Saves you from saying "my gawd, you kiss like shit."

[purse junkie]

Originally posted by barely_legal
[how to tell guy he can't kiss]

Just say, "here, let's try this" and kiss as you prefer. If he still doesn't get the hint, I would run screaming from any potential relationship, then post his name and technique to all single women in your area who might be in future danger of dating/kissing this guy, as a good-deed-of-the-day PSA.

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by barely_legal


What's the best way of telling a guy that he's an awful kisser?
Girls, have you ever been successful at getting a guy to change his kissing technique? If so, how?

In my experience, it's pretty hard (almost impossible) to get someone to change their "technique". Kissing is a pretty automatic thing, and mostly I think, people just do what they do.

That said, you can try saying to him "Sit still for a minute and let me kiss you ." It sounds kind of sexy and take-charge and then you kiss him the way you like to be kissed. Hopefully, he'd take the hint and try kissing you that way.

Of course, a bad kisser is often a bad lay...so this does not bode well for your future.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by barely_legal
What's the best way of telling a guy that he's an awful kisser?

From your description of his technique, it doesn't seem like it would be that big a deal for you to say something like, "I really like you, but I don't think we're quite compatible in the kissing department. I like when someone kisses me like this -- hold on, don't do anything. And then kiss him the way you want to be kissed. Then say, you kiss me like this. And then lick his lips and stick your tongue down his throat. He will see the difference. Especially after you say, "Licking my lips doesn't do it for me, unless you're down there."

I had this girl I wanted to screw once and she was THE worst kisser ever. Just did not know what the fuck was going on. I simply told her that she should relax and work with me, not try to overpower me. She learned very quickly.

TM

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
I had this girl I wanted to screw once and she was THE worst kisser ever. Just did not know what the fuck was going on. I simply told her that she should relax and work with me, not try to overpower me. She learned very quickly.

TM

Barely, I think you should have TM teach this guy how to kiss. This way you won't have to worry about embarrassing the guy.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
Barely, I think you should have TM teach this guy how to kiss. This way you won't have to worry about embarrassing the guy.

Does he like golf?

TM

Originally posted by barely_legal
This is a serious question, so while I know I'll get the usual number of smart-ass responses, I would like at least a few serious responses sprinkled in (I know I can count on NB and RT for that, at least).

What's the best way of telling a guy that he's an awful kisser? I've gone out with this guy a few times, and I like him, but he is the worst kisser in the world. I'm not exaggerating, THE WORLD. His kissing technique is so bad that I've considered just not going out with him again and blaming a lack of "chemistry", but I've decided to try to act like a grown up instead and actually talk to him about it.

Guys, how would you like a girl to tell you that your kissing turns her off? How can I say it so that he will listen and adjust, but so that he doesn't hate me? I've never had to deal with this before. Girls, have you ever been successful at getting a guy to change his kissing technique? If so, how?

If it makes a difference, his technique is bad b/c it consists solely of licking my lips (ew ew ew) and then jamming his massive tongue down my throat. That's it. That's the sum total of how he kisses. If I knew for a fact that he would always kiss like that and would never change, I would gladly break up with him right now rather than endure another one of those kisses. But everything else about his seems great so far, so I'm hoping that maybe he can just be re-trained.

you didnt tell me he licks your lips- thats just nasty. put on lipglass bc nobody weants to lick that- the really gooey stuff from nars that I always get all over my chin. then tell him lightly the next time you kiss 'not so much tongue, honey, I like when you do blank"

i have a feeling that when he goes down on you he is not going to be able to locate the clit and will be spending all his time on the labia majora. yawm. but at least his tongue is huge and you gota magic wand.

[barely_legal]

Thanks for all the advice. Reading through it, I am coming to the realization that I really can't even contemplate banging this guy. And I decided to make a list of his good qualities to convince myself that he was worth the effort of trying to teach him to kiss, and I coudn't get past 1) 6'3" 2) employed and 3) willing to help me with home repairs.

I think I may just need to dump him and hire a handyman. My mother is right, I'm going to be single forever. But better to be single than to choke on tongue for the rest of my life.

Originally posted by barely_legal
Thanks for all the advice. Reading through it, I am coming to the realization that I really can't even contemplate banging this guy. And I decided to make a list of his good qualities to convince myself that he was worth the effort of trying to teach him to kiss, and I coudn't get past 1) 6'3" 2) employed and 3) willing to help me with home repairs.

I think I may just need to dump him and hire a handyman. My mother is right, I'm going to be single forever. But better to be single than to choke on tongue for the rest of my life.

May RP and I be the first to welcome you to the Spinsterhood of Washington DC? While it may seem like a lonely and increasingly depressing series of convos about hot flashes, varicose veins, the Demi-Ashton hookup and the latest anti wrinkle procedures, we will always have each other and the really disgusting bulldykes love us. Or me, but I have them in spades. Do yoy like having your ears licked by a nonflexed tongue coming from a mouth with a really deep voice that isnt quite female but isnt quite male?

[bilmore]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
May RP and I be the first to welcome you to the Spinsterhood of Washington DC

Okay, wait, I'm confused. Weren't you just recently congratulated for something?

Originally posted by bilmore
Okay, wait, I'm confused. Weren't you just recently congratulated for something?

Doesnt matter. Once you have the stink of mothballs and the light glaze of cat fur all over you, the best you can hope for is a wedding where smug marrieds like tmdiva point out your wrinkly neck and more attractive bridesmaids. You can take the woman out of spinsterhood but you cant take the spinster out of the woman. Which is why my wedding will be a small family only affair.

[leagleaze]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
I was thinking more...:



TM

Wow TM, how did you know?

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

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[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
Doesnt matter. Once you have the stink of mothballs and the light glaze of cat fur all over you, the best you can hope for is a wedding where smug marrieds like tmdiva point out your wrinkly neck and more attractive bridesmaids. You can take the woman out of spinsterhood but you cant take the spinster out of the woman. Which is why my wedding will be a small family only affair.

I'm sensing a theme for your wedding already.



And the maid of honor will be responsible for keeping your wedding gown looking purrrrfect.



TM