Fashion Board 1-08-04 through 02-03-04

[Bad_Rich_Chic]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
That spin made me dizzy! I think that the "I'm keeping this from you because it would only bother you needlessly" view is extremely insulting.

I was taking it that there was a "burden" on me to duly inform the SO of whom I was having drinks with simply because said person was an ex and I had a "burden" of making the SO OK with that.

If I say "I'm going out," and the SO says "oh, with whom" and I lie "I'm taking medicine to my sick grandmother," that is one thing. I note that "dunno, some people" is generally deemed an acceptable answer in my household. Why shouldn't it be? Why should we expect to vet each other's social contacts, for any reason?

BR(but then again "me and the guys are going to some singles bar to watch the hot 20 year olds dis us" is also an accpetable answer, and the Mr. has had exes stay with us for a week or so when they are in town without feeling the need to make sure I'm emotionally stable enough to handle it, so we may just be outliers on this one)C

edited because my grammar not to good today

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
But I will say that the only time that I would not tell my SO about having a drink with an ex would be if I were meeting the one ex whom I would still like to fuck.

Duly noted.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
You are a plaintiff's lawyer? Ew.

Why ew?

[ltl/fb]

After having lunch with a friend whose current living situation I had forgotten about, I have something to add to this "lying about keeping in touch with former SOs" issue: If you haven't told your husband that you are keeping in touch with a former SO, you have kind of a lot of explaining to do when three years into the marriage you invite the now-unemployed ex-SO to live in your house with you and your husband.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
After having lunch with a friend whose current living situation I had forgotten about, I have something to add to this "lying about keeping in touch with former SOs" issue: If you haven't told your husband that you are keeping in touch with a former SO, you have kind of a lot of explaining to do when three years into the marriage you invite the now-unemployed ex-SO to live in your house with you and your husband.

Sheesh. I'd hate to be married to you, with all your trust issues.



Why isn't anyone flaming anyone today?

[bilmore]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
You just think you're making more than everyone else because you've been institutionalized in this field. I assure you there are swarms of people doing less intellectually stimulating things like institutional sales, stock borkering, PI and regaulr old sales who lap your ass in salary and QOL.

I'm not too concerned about relative rankings. I'm satisfied that we live a comfortable and fun life that allows us to do what we want without any real money worries. Not making enough to buy an island is only a problem if you convince yourself you can't live well without an island.

If you take start viewing law as a business (i.e., start milking the market for referral fees and banking favors), you'll fins a whole slew of people who laugh at all of the intellectuals.

Again, whatever floats your boat. They can laugh at me from work. I'll be at home, relaxed, because I enjoy the effort I have to put into work, and it doesn't consume me. (And I don't have to chase fees. Yay!)

Take off the blinders...

No blinders here. I have a fair idea what you do, and would guess that you spend a lot of your time on tactical, task-oriented work. I lucked out a while back, through no great merit on my part, and get to spend my time on more strategic stuff. So, when I talk about the intellectual satisfaction, I'm probably describing a different job than what you're thinking. When I was doing the tactical stuff, yeah, I agree that the satisfactions might not be there as strongly. There is no generic "lawyer" job - there's a ton of different areas with different requirements and duties and enjoyments - so, don't assume that I'm saying that a person needs to derive huge personal satisfaction over getting motion papers served. Your satisfactions come more from the chance to think and act creatively.

Your insurance buddy's satisfactions come from having sold jerkwad a big package resulting in a nice commission. His satisfaction is all result oriented. We, if we have the right mindset, get to enjoy the process, too.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
Sheesh. I'd hate to be married to you, with all your trust issues.



Why isn't anyone flaming anyone today?

Silly, it's not me. I had nothing to contribute because I don't have SOs, let alone ex-SOs.

So fuck you and the horse you rode in on.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
After having lunch with a friend whose current living situation I had forgotten about, I have something to add to this "lying about keeping in touch with former SOs" issue: If you haven't told your husband that you are keeping in touch with a former SO, you have kind of a lot of explaining to do when three years into the marriage you invite the now-unemployed ex-SO to live in your house with you and your husband.

She's just trolling to get on Jerry Springer.

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
I didnt ask how to be a good lawyer. I asked how to be jobloving Sidd type.
YOur suggestion is exactly why I am procrastinating, dear. Thats a whole lotta unfun effort.

I just got a case that I think is really interesting, makes me think, and makes me remember why I got into this whole profession in the first place. I'm having fun working with the fact pattern and coming up with solutions to a very complex problem, and I like that I'm helping someone get something accomplished. I'm worrying about the legalities so they can worry about getting the project out of the conceptual phase and into actuality. I haven't been this excited about what I do in a long time. I don't hate what I do, but this particular case and issue makes me remember why sometimes I love it. Have you ever loved it? If so, try to remember why. What was it that made it so interesting or exciting or something that you wanted to do instead of the hundreds of other professions out there? If you can go back and remember what it was that made you do this in the first place, you might find some more joy in what you do.

[Pretty Little Flower]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
The King has returned as the Queen.

NCS rules; Plf is but her court jester.

I am not going to dispute this. I was going to comment on the unusual moniker abbreviation capitalization. Particularly the irony (?) of NCS. But then I feared being that unsubtle guy who ruins the subtle guy's jokes. So I didn't.

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
The King has returned as the Queen.

NCS rules; Plf is but her court jester.

Wow I'm blushing. But that can't be true if my main aspiration at this point is to be The PLF of 2004, can it?

If it is true nonetheless, then bow to me, minions!

[bilmore]

Originally posted by Pretty Little Flower
But then I feared being that unsubtle guy who ruins the subtle guy's jokes. So I didn't.

True freedom only comes through mastery of your fears.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
I just got a case that I think is really interesting, makes me think, and makes me remember why I got into this whole profession in the first place.

I just drafted an interrogatory response that includes names, titles, AND current contact info. I found this highly rewarding.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
Bilmore,

When I graudated from college, I was offer a gig doing insurance work. I went to law school. The person who took the gig now makes over $200k and has oooodles of free time.

Intellectual nonsense is exactly that. Its all procedural gamesmanship played by a pack of tools.

You just think you're making more than everyone else because you've been institutionalized in this field. I assure you there are swarms of people doing less intellectually stimulating things like institutional sales, stock borkering, PI and regaulr old sales who lap your ass in salary and QOL.

If you take start viewing law as a business (i.e., start milking the market for referral fees and banking favors), you'll fins a whole slew of people who laugh at all of the intellectuals.

The richest cat I know has barely a high school degree.

Fuck this, I've said this shit before...

Take off the blinders...
SD

So the turkey with the insurance gig is making a lousy two bills and you're jealous? Free time? You mean that time he spends harassing everyone he's ever met at social events? Uggh. He's a reasonably paid troll whom I hope will stay away from me, and whom I will kick in the teeth if he gets too pushy.

I enjoy what I do. It's fun. I'm smart, and I get to show it off pretty regularly to oohs and aahs from that rich High School degree guy you know as well as from other overeducated stiffs. And the pay isn't bad, and my kids look up to me and run to hug me when I come home.

[Alex_de_Large]

Originally posted by Shape Shifter
I just drafted an interrogatory response that includes names, titles, AND current contact info.

I am not sure that I have ever seen such a thing...