Fashion Board 3-5-04 to 4-6-04

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
This is the same one who eats deep dish pizza before 9 AM.

I see what you are saying about this being a bit strange, but I HATE when people comment on what or when other people eat. I get up at 5:00 and go to the gym every morning. I do not take time for breakfast. I often go to get lunch between 10:00 and 11:00 and without fail someone will comment on how strange it is for me to be eating lunch at that time. This irritates the hell out of me. I am not eating lunch in their office or at their cube, so why do they feel the need to comment on this? It isn't interesting even, and it's the same damn people commenting all the time.

I want to say, "Yes, I am getting lunch now. Yes, I know it is 10:15. Yes, I know your lunch break (what is this? I don't think I get one) is at 1:00 and that you can't imagine having lunch so early. Shut up and leave me alone."

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
Wouldn't it make more sense to make her eat just bread and water?

That way I'd, I mean she'd, not have to resort to the plastic surgery or the vomitorium...

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by dtb
(RP and I are the Scalia and Thomas of the FB! Except we're much better looking. And smarter.)

And, to the best of my knowledge, neighter of you have sexually harassed Anita Hill or gone duck hunting with Dick Cheney.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
That's stupid. Saying it all the time to people you don't love diminishes its meaning. Saying it frequently to someone you do love (presuming you don't "love" everyone you know) does no such thing. What if your girlfriend thought having sex frequently with you diminished its meaning?

Saying "I love you" all the time when ending a phone call at the office within earshot of others is, however, definitely annoying to the others.

I disagree. My sister's family says it to each other all the time. It is said so often that it might as well be "good bye" or "see you soon". They don't "mean it" mean it when they say it. Rather, it's just a way to end a conversation. They obviously love the other person, but that love is not being expressed when they say it. It has become a habitual and thus unconcious expression, signifying nothing.*

*I call your "that's stupid" and raise you with Falkner.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
I disagree. My sister's family says it to each other all the time. It is said so often that it might as well be "good bye" or "see you soon". They don't "mean it" mean it when they say it. Rather, it's just a way to end a conversation. They obviously love the other person, but that love is not being expressed when they say it. It has become a habitual and thus unconcious expression, signifying nothing.*

*I call your "that's stupid" and raise you with Falkner.

The worst is fathers and sons kissing hello on the lips.

Yes, I have seen it.

Nasty. Just nasty.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
You fell into my clever trap, you junk-food consuming self-control lacking American piggie!

I'm guilty of enjoying the occasional chili cheese burrito.

[Mister_Ruysbroeck]

Originally posted by sunnybunny
Oh I'm sorry, I should learn form your relationship and get so beaten down that I only wear what meets your approval while you run around town doing god knows what. If to have a pair balls gives you a license to walk all over women and expect them to submit, then I'm dating chicks from here on out.

You date chicks?

Woulda never guessed.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
I disagree. My sister's family says it to each other all the time. It is said so often that it might as well be "good bye" or "see you soon". They don't "mean it" mean it when they say it. Rather, it's just a way to end a conversation. They obviously love the other person, but that love is not being expressed when they say it. It has become a habitual and thus unconcious expression, signifying nothing.*

*I call your "that's stupid" and raise you with Falkner.

That would be Faulkner. Alternatively, you could have spelled it Shakespeare.

And it may signify nothing to you, but I doubt it signifies nothing to them. It's okay for you to find it annoying, but you don't have to justify your feeling annoyed with some pronouncement about how your method of saying it less frequently actually conveys more meaning. Strokes and all that.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
That would be Faulkner. Alternatively, you could have spelled it Shakespeare.

And it may signify nothing to you, but I doubt it signifies nothing to them. It's okay for you to find it annoying, but you don't have to justify your feeling annoyed with some pronouncement about how your method of saying it less frequently actually conveys more meaning. Strokes and all that.

Who said I was annoyed by it, Spelling Timmy but Reading Comprehension UnTimmy?

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
I sort of agree in principle, but having for various reasons spent long periods of time separated from the Mr. when I couldn't contact him easily and so was basically unable to tell him I loved him at all, I pretty much say it whenever I think it and am bloody grateful for the opportunity to do so, which means I tend to say it a lot. The Mr. less so - actually, if he spontaneously tells me he loves me I sometimes wonder if he thinks I'm dying or considering leaving him.

I also tend to say it alot, to both spouse and children, but there are different tones that communicate different things.

The "Love ya" as I run out the door in the morning is not the same as the I love you whispered in my wife's ear when chaos reigns in the household and we're on the verge of total exasperation and that I love you is different from the low toned I love you over a candle-light dinner.

So, some people have a reduced-in-value casual "I Love You" that could easily be replaced by a "Bye, Dear" or "Toodle-oo Toots"? It doesn't mean they don't also have a high-value I Love You saved up for the special times.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
Who said I was annoyed by it, Spelling Timmy but Reading Comprehension UnTimmy?

You forgot Origin of Quotation Timmy.

And Reading Comprehension involves some between the lines stuff. Maybe I'm misinterpreting, but you seem irritated by their "meaningless" and "habitual" expressions of love to one another. Otherwise, why would you even notice it, schmoopie woopie?

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
That would be Faulkner. Alternatively, you could have spelled it Shakespeare.

And it may signify nothing to you, but I doubt it signifies nothing to them. It's okay for you to find it annoying, but you don't have to justify your feeling annoyed with some pronouncement about how your method of saying it less frequently actually conveys more meaning. Strokes and all that.

I don't know what to tell you. I majored in econ. The more of something there is, the less value it has.* Supply an infinite amount of "I love yous", and its value becomes zero.

*Except for diamonds.

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I agree. If you love someone and you tell them that a lot, especially when you are saying goodbye, why is that any less meaningful than if you say it once every 6 mos. I want to tell the people I love whenever I feel like it that I love them.

My sibs and I end every phone call by yelling "I love you more" and hanging up before the other one can reply.

I tend to say it more at the beginning of a love relationship, shortly after the first declaration has been made and accepted. I defintely think in that case, it's a statement/reminder to me as much as it is a statement to the person I love. I've said it to people that I probably, in retrospect, didn't really love.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
I don't know what to tell you. I majored in econ. The more of something there is, the less value it has.* Supply an infinite amount of "I love yous", and its value becomes zero.

*Except for diamonds.

So I was right. You don't have sex much.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
The worst is fathers and sons kissing hello on the lips.

Yes, I have seen it.

Nasty. Just nasty.

How old is the son?

I don't have a son, but if I had a two year old boy, I don't think it would be nasty to kiss him on the lips. I agree that there's an age where I would no longer be comfortable with that. But I don't think it would be any different from how I feel about doing so with my daughter.

TM