Toronto Trim's Hotel Cum Drop-in Centre - Page 312

sebastian_dangerfield · 07-05-2005, 05:23 PM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
I'm pretty sure that if I found out my spouse was cheating on me, I wouldn't consider the vows null and void, even if my spouse did.

Its a straight up breach of contract. I'm pretty solidly certain future performance is excused in most jurisdictions. It ain't the cheating, either. Its the lying. If I don't like how an SO is fucking, sucking, talking, walking, chewing, snoring or whatever, I tell them. I'd expect the same.

Cheating is trying to have your cake and eat it. Make up your fucking mind.

sebastian_dangerfield · 07-05-2005, 05:25 PM

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Originally posted by Gattigap
Well, yes, but in truth she was only a 3rd cousin, once removed.

My part of the world, these fine distinctions sometimes become necessary.

"She?"

Distinctions or fabrications?

greatwhitenorthchick · 07-05-2005, 05:25 PM

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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
Its a straight up breach of contract. I'm pretty solidly certain future performance is excused in most jurisdictions.

This is an interesting turn of events.

Gattigap · 07-05-2005, 05:28 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
This is an interesting turn of events.

Perhaps the spouse doesn't qualify as a fiduciary.

ltl/fb · 07-05-2005, 05:29 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
This is an interesting turn of events.

Events?

greatwhitenorthchick · 07-05-2005, 05:31 PM

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Originally posted by ltl/fb
Events?

it's an event when someone who despises his profession and most of his colleagues starts embracing the lingo with such gusto. and verve.

Sidd Finch · 07-05-2005, 05:32 PM

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Originally posted by dtb
What a double standard! The dudes I work with were suggesting that it is not at all skeevy or even outside-the-ordinary for a 50+ year-old guy to go out with a 19 year-old girl. Yes, I understand there could be exceptions to this, with certain people, but, as a general rule, that's a little, um... weird.

Mid-50s buy and 19 yo girl is always skeevy. Seriously, seriously creepy.

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These same guys (well, some of them), were shocked, SHOCKED at the suggestion that a mid-20's guy might go out with a mid-30's woman. WTF is up with that?

These same guys weren't lucky enough to get some. Their loss.

dtb · 07-05-2005, 05:33 PM

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Originally posted by ironweed
This is the bottom line, isn't it? Steps must be taken. Which steps, and how many, and whether it turns out to be just an evening's drunken mooning at Moe's or ends in the traditional guayabera-wearing (love you too!) "final solution" -- first you kill him, then you kill her, then you kill yourself -- is a matter of degree and, of course, depends on one's personal preference and appetite for mayhem. But acting like nothing happened is not an option.

Though I recognize pp's dibs (fair is fair), I think I love you too!!!

(and MY post has exclamation marks -- I'm just sayin')

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 07-05-2005, 05:33 PM

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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
I don't know, but the only thing that made me forget a relationship was sex with someone else.

That only helps you forget the sex, and only if it wasn't fabulous sex. If it makes you forget the relationship, it was either a crappy relationship or a really shallow one.

time and/or a better person makes you forget a relationship. And even then, not so much, it helps you forget the pain of the breakup (or get over it). If you don't remember your past relationships at all, you're doing something wrong.

sebastian_dangerfield · 07-05-2005, 05:34 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
it's an event when someone who despises his profession and most of his colleagues starts embracing the lingo with such gusto. and verve.

Gusto, yes, but I don't see the verve. I really don't see it.

Sidd Finch · 07-05-2005, 05:34 PM

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Originally posted by robustpuppy
I wasn't quibbling with your advice, but now that we're on the subject, would this really help? The worst part of infidelity is probably the blow to the other's ego. Would paying someone to stroke it for you actually soothe it? Or be such a blow to the cheating spouse?

Would it bother you if your husband fucked a hooker? That's probably the answer.

Sidd Finch · 07-05-2005, 05:35 PM

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Originally posted by bold_n_brazen
Could we get Cuckold to expand on what he found? How are we sure she's actually fucking Bill and not just emailing him?

Don't fight the hypo.

ltl/fb · 07-05-2005, 05:35 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
it's an event when someone who despises his profession and most of his colleagues starts embracing the lingo with such gusto. and verve.

Oh. I read it as blowhard "business development" deadweight blustering when asked actual legal questions. Complete with "pretty sure" so he can characterize the real rule (which is totally the opposite) as an "exception he forgot about" after he has the legalistic drones back at the office look up the law, and discovers he's flat-out wrong.

Sidd Finch · 07-05-2005, 05:36 PM

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Originally posted by Gattigap
I'm not sure if Sebby's goal here is the mending of long-term healthy relationships so much as immediate gratification.

In general, or just on this thread?

robustpuppy · 07-05-2005, 05:36 PM

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Originally posted by Sidd Finch
Would it bother you if your husband fucked a hooker? That's probably the answer.

If I had cheated first, it would make him seem pathetic.

If I hadn't cheated first, I would be repulsed and would never want to fuck him again, which would likely lead one of us to cheat.