Toronto Trim's Hotel Cum Drop-in Centre

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
Pussy.

No shit.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
http://www.zippyvideos.com/101620119532785.html

sfw.

TM

My boy's got skilz.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Good god. This is pure crap.

TM

You couldn't even get DNA from it.

Originally posted by bold_n_brazen
Because I recently lived through something remarkably like this (although I wasn't cheating. I was merely accused of cheating.) I feel compelled to give advice.

First, you need to be clear on what it is that you want. If you want to stay married to her, that's cool. If her appearing to be having an affair, or if her actually having an affair is a deal-breaker for you, that's cool too. But you need to know going in what your preferred outcome is.

Then you need to talk to her about it. You need to find out if she's actually fucking Bill or if she's just thinking about it. And you need to think about what those things mean. And then decide if you can get over it.

I tend to think that marriage counseling is a valuable tool, even if all it does is make you realise that you don't really want to be married anymore. But it gives you things to think about and talk about. And at this point, thinking about things and talking about things is definitely in order.

You can clean out the bank accounts, etc. but if you actually divorce, you're going to have to cough all that cash up anyway. I'm pretty sure that absent an agreement to the contrary, all that cash is marital property just about everywhere. The temptation is to make the divorce as hard as possible, to punish your spouse for her misdeeds. I can also tell you that from a proactical standpoint, that's likely the worst and most expensive way to proceed. If you can find a way to do a collaborative divorce, you both wind up about where you would have been anyway, without all the fighting and litigation and paying the lawyers.

Even if she's just thinking about fucking Bill, it's pretty bad for you. Women want to have sex with men they fall in love with. This is a huge generalization, but I think even more appropriate when we are talking about within the confines of marriage. That someone else piqued my interest was a huge red flag for me that something was dying inside my marriage. I don't think I would have been open to that possibility had everything been copasetic at home. It's not the reason I left my marriage, but it was a big sign that my marriage was not a healthy one.

And just to cover my ass, I will say, if cuckold is my husband, honey, this is fucking pathetic. If not, I'm sorry for you. There's nothing fun about this situation, especially where kids are involved, and I wish you luck. PM me if you want to vent.

I am wonking here so won't specifically reply to this except to ask, how can any marriage survive the loss of trust? or any relationship? He suspects her of cheating so he cant trust her again, right? And he is snooping, wich means he doesnt trust her and if she knew, she wouldnt trust him. This is toast, even with kids, right?

Actually, I will respond to one of bnb's points. My closest friend from college is married to a guy she has been with for probalby fifteen years or so. One night, before they got married, she and I went out and hooked upwith a couple of brazilian guys. She only made out with her guy but it was like she was swept off her feet. Couldnt stop thinking of him, confided that her then bf isnt good in bed. Fast forward a few years. She marries this guy and develops a huge crush on some dude from the gym. Also confides in me that sex is not great with the husband and when i suggest vibrators, she says she doesnt want to become depednent on that stuff. She is still married to this guy, who worships her, and has two kids. From what I can telll, the kids are the center of the uiniverse and the guy feels a little left out. But I dont think anyone would dream or think of divorce. Maybe its a matter of priorities. You cant have your cake and eat it too.

And fringey, please dont say. mmmmmmmmmmmmm cake. You neither, Shifter. It just isnt humorous

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
I am wonking here so won't specifically reply to this except to ask, how can any marriage survive the loss of trust? or any relationship? He suspects her of cheating so he cant trust her again, right? And he is snooping, wich means he doesnt trust her and if she knew, she wouldnt trust him. This is toast, even with kids, right?

Actually, I will respond to one of bnb's points. My closest friend from college is married to a guy she has been with for probalby fifteen years or so. One night, before they got married, she and I went out and hooked upwith a couple of brazilian guys. She only made out with her guy but it was like she was swept off her feet. Couldnt stop thinking of him, confided that her then bf isnt good in bed. Fast forward a few years. She marries this guy and develops a huge crush on some dude from the gym. Also confides in me that sex is not great with the husband and when i suggest vibrators, she says she doesnt want to become depednent on that stuff. She is still married to this guy, who worships her, and has two kids. From what I can telll, the kids are the center of the uiniverse and the guy feels a little left out. But I dont think anyone would dream or think of divorce. Maybe its a matter of priorities. You cant have your cake and eat it too.

And fringey, please dont say. mmmmmmmmmmmmm cake. You neither, Shifter. It just isnt humorous

But why can't you have your cake and eat it too? Is this really too much to ask?

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally posted by paigowprincess

And fringey, please dont say. mmmmmmmmmmmmm cake. You neither, Shifter.

Because her husband needs to spend more time working on rare roast beef?

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
I am wonking here so won't specifically reply to this except to ask, how can any marriage survive the loss of trust? or any relationship? He suspects her of cheating so he cant trust her again, right? And he is snooping, wich means he doesnt trust her and if she knew, she wouldnt trust him. This is toast, even with kids, right?

Actually, I will respond to one of bnb's points. My closest friend from college is married to a guy she has been with for probalby fifteen years or so. One night, before they got married, she and I went out and hooked upwith a couple of brazilian guys. She only made out with her guy but it was like she was swept off her feet. Couldnt stop thinking of him, confided that her then bf isnt good in bed. Fast forward a few years. She marries this guy and develops a huge crush on some dude from the gym. Also confides in me that sex is not great with the husband and when i suggest vibrators, she says she doesnt want to become depednent on that stuff. She is still married to this guy, who worships her, and has two kids. From what I can telll, the kids are the center of the uiniverse and the guy feels a little left out. But I dont think anyone would dream or think of divorce. Maybe its a matter of priorities. You cant have your cake and eat it too.

And fringey, please dont say. mmmmmmmmmmmmm cake. You neither, Shifter. It just isnt humorous

If sexual chemistry is absent, isn't that a sign NOT TO GET FUCKING MARRIED? What bigger red flag could there be? Sexual chemistry, one would think, is a barrier to entry... a threshold requirement for any continued dating, let alone marriage. My wife has a wrecthed foul friend who comments openly that she's really not into sex. She's married to a wretched man. I watch them suck down Parliaments and discuss golf and their kids and think "God, I'd have put a fucking hunting rifle in my mouth years ago if I were in their reality."

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
I watch them suck down Parliaments and discuss golf and their kids and think "God, I'd have put a fucking hunting rifle in my mouth years ago if I were in their reality."

I know -- Parliaments are the worst. I'm sure a full-flavoured, robust Canadian cigarette would improve their relationship and worldview almost immediately.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I bet he picks the wet towels off the floor too. He's so dreamy.

Um, does hanging them on the doorknob count?

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by Shape Shifter
Um, does hanging them on the doorknob count?

Doorknob. That's such a cute nickname for it.

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
I don't buy that Mars/Venus shit. If that were the case, every casual fuckbuddy would fall in love with you. And I've seen guys fall in love twice as fast as chicks.

Of course, a lot of those guys fall in love with the idea of consistent sex. Thats basically half of all relationships from the male perspective. I have about four good friends who got married just because "Hey, its a hell of a lot easier than the singles scene and I didn't want to be the old creepy guy at the bar."

Couldnt you have just told those cats that thats was Less's gig and he would always be older than them? I hate to see unnecessary marriages.

And I know about three chicks who got married just because its what they thought they needed to do to pump out a kid before 40 and live "the complete life." A lot of people get forced into marriage. Its a shit gig the way society ages folks into social constricting behaviors... But whats the option? Everybody buys into the rules.

The other option of ocurse is to go to Paradise. Not everyone goes to them.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
Doorknob. That's such a cute nickname for it.

All guys do the "using the erection as a towel rack" gimmick. It never fails to entertain. Towel go up, towel go down...followed by an eye roll from the unfunny woman from Venus.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
WOULD IT KILL YOU TO THROW AWAY THE FUCKING BOTTLE CAP RATHER THAN LEAVE IT ON THE COUNTER FOR DAYS UNTIL I FINALLY GIVE IN AND TOSS IT?!! AND IS IT TOO MUCH TO ASK THAT YOU TURN OFF SPORTSCENTER WHILE I'M TRYING TO HAVE A CONVERSATION?!

Look, Honey, when you got pregnant we went to the the doctor and she said you were going to go through some changes, hormonally speaking, remember? And she said that these hormonal changes might lead to mood swings? Then seh suggested that when you found yourself in one of those situations, it might be helpful to remove yourself for a short while from the situation?

So.... Why don't you go to the kitchen and calm yourself down by making me a sandwich, please. And when you come back, try not to be SUCH A FUCKING PSYCHO CRAZY-ASSED BITCH!

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
All guys do the "using the erection as a towel rack" gimmick. It never fails to entertain. Towel go up, towel go down...followed by an eye roll from the unfunny woman from Venus.

Great stuff. Have you tried the necktie? Or the Joe Camel impersonation after the MW goes away?

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
I don't want to talk about it.

Besides, if you really loved her, you'd know what issues.