Fashionistas you have arrived 3-25-03 - 10-3-03

[evenodds]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
I don't think she was being obtuse. It seemed like a passive-aggressive way of informing Str8 that if she couldn't bring the baby, she couldn't come at all, and she would just hate to miss it, all the more so in light of how little trouble the infant would be and how considerate the cousin would be.

Of course, she should just have said so, rather than write an email that forces Str8 to play the ogre.

Edited to add: Str8, I think it would be best for you to hire a babysitter for the reception, you will save yourself a lot of heartache and finger-wagging about proper etiquette, etc.

Since so many people hire sitters for receptions these days, I don't think she was being necessarily passive-agressive or rude. She probably just misread it. I have to endorse the separate room, sitter deal. I attended a wedding where I had no idea that there were children in attendance. They were neither seen nor heard.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
You know, I was about to exhibit sympathy for the slowpokes, when I realized that I was actively hating every single vehicle between me and my destination at lunch. They were either too big (dump truck, bus), stopped too frequently or for no apparent reason, went 2 miles an hour because it was clear they had no idea where they were going, didn't go through the lights fast enough, presumed to get in front of me and THEN slowed down, etc. I live in a city of vehicles and walking anywhere is unnatural to us. Hell, our artists use their cars as their canvasses. So I don't have to deal with the slow and inept walkers as much as the more densely populated cities. But I do sympathize.

What about the tunnel blockers?

Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
You know, I was about to exhibit sympathy for the slowpokes, when I realized that I was actively hating every single vehicle between me and my destination at lunch. They were either too big (dump truck, bus), stopped too frequently or for no apparent reason, went 2 miles an hour because it was clear they had no idea where they were going, didn't go through the lights fast enough, presumed to get in front of me and THEN slowed down, etc. I live in a city of vehicles and walking anywhere is unnatural to us. Hell, our artists use their cars as their canvasses. So I don't have to deal with the slow and inept walkers as much as the more densely populated cities. But I do sympathize.

And no one should be allowed to drive but me.

Perfect analogy. I live in a city with a two lane highway filled with dumptrucks. Throw in some construction work for the nespaper boxes, tree boxes and sidewalk seating. I cant work umbrellas into the analogy unfortunately. I guess they would be SUVs- unnecessarily taking up space under the guise that they are protectcing their people from the rough outdoors when really it is a paved suburban street or light drizzle. There.

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I see your point about the headache and everything - sometimes it just bothers me that more workplaces don't have daycare/nursery facilities. It would make things so much easier for families. It can't cost that much, can it?

My company offers child care. The company is spread out over several buildings, and I don't think that there are too many issues with parents dropping in on their kids on the lunch hour. It's just convenient to be heading to the same general direction as your kids to drop them off for the day. There are I think four different programs that my company offers, including kindergarden. I don't know what the cost is, and I don't know if there's room for every employee's kid (I doubt that), but the service is available.

[Fugee]

Originally posted by str8outavannuys
[cousin wants to bring 2 mo. old baby to wedding]

POLL:
Is this response an example of:
a) passive/aggressiveness
b) rudeness
c) stupidity
or d) other?

str8

Probably D and it may depend on whether this cousin lives far from the wedding/reception site. She may not know whether she'll be feeling up to a wedding with a 2 month old. And she may be asking for dispensation to bring her baby, especially if they will be travelling and not know anyone who can babysit.

My advice is to get someone to watch the kids at the ceremony and reception. You have to expect that any number of your family and friends will decide you couldn't possibly have meant to exclude their children and bring them along. A co-worker did this -- if anyone was brazen enough to bring a child whose name was not on the invitation (although if the ceremony is in a church, DS says any member is entitled to attend), the ushers directed them to deposit the child in the nursery before going in.

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally posted by Fugee
(although if the ceremony is in a church, DS says any member is entitled to attend), .

Is that member of the family or member of the church?

I once went to a wedding (in another country) where the ceremony went along and local townspeople came in to watch and to pray (it was Sat. eve. and a catholic church). It struck me as odd (that is, different), but certainly explicable. None of them was, however, a crying baby. Indeed, it reinforced the community nature of marriage.

[notcasesensitive]

The cousin is both A and B. She knows exactly what no kids means (isn't that clear?). She is trying to force str8 to agree to make a special rule for her kid. I think it sucks. While it would be nice for a bride and groom to set up daycare, it is not their responsibility. It would also be nice to pay for everyone's travel and to book their hotel rooms for them. The cousin has a choice -- figure out a way to attend without the baby (hello, anyone ever heard of a breast pump?) or don't attend. Don't throw your problem back on the groom - he'll have enough going on... Including making sure his bride isn't severely pissed off because his relatives ignored the clear statement that no kids are invited to the wedding.

n(wtf)cs

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
Perfect analogy. I live in a city with a two lane highway filled with dumptrucks. Throw in some construction work for the nespaper boxes, tree boxes and sidewalk seating. I cant work umbrellas into the analogy unfortunately. I guess they would be SUVs- unnecessarily taking up space under the guise that they are protectcing their people from the rough outdoors when really it is a paved suburban street or light drizzle. There.

Posts like these make me think that you did well on your law school exams, especially those with a lot of time pressure.

[NotFromHere]

Damn. I thought I could make a living doing something else and now this.....
June 5 — Giving Americans a first glimpse of an industry flourishing at the intersection of larceny and libido, authorities in Arizona are seizing the assets of a Scottsdale company that sold more than $74 million worth of pills that it claimed would enlarge penises or breasts, make the consumer taller or hairier — even sharpen his or her golf game. But despite such audacious claims, the company — C.P. Direct — would likely still be gouging the gullible if its founders hadn’t decided to also illegally charge consumers’ credit cards, industry insiders say. THE C.P. DIRECT case, apparently one of the first criminal prosecutions of a seller of “body enhancement” supplements, will do nothing to halt the avalanche of e-mail touting products that claim the ability to turn your Volkswagen into a Chevy Suburban, anatomically speaking. But it has triggered concern among other purveyors of pills, creams and nutritional products promising too-good-to-be-true results.
Court documents filed in the case show that the company’s big money-earner was the Longitude penis-enlargement pill, which it described in advertisements as “a breakthrough product that will make your penis grow until you are satisfied with your new size.” The ad recommended that users should discontinue the pills after reaching nine inches in length to avoid discomforting sexual partners.


full story here

[ThrashersFan]

hmmm, the Devils get the last line change (which the Ducks used brilliantly in the last two games) but the Ducks are really feeling the mojo now. The Ducks also seem to have come up with a way of countering the Devils' soft-chip forechecking scheme. Tonight should be a fan-fucking-tabulous game.


I wonder why we don't have a hockey player smilie. :disbelief

[Anne Elk]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
The cousin is both A and B. She knows exactly what no kids means (isn't that clear?). She is trying to force str8 to agree to make a special rule for her kid. I think it sucks. While it would be nice for a bride and groom to set up daycare, it is not their responsibility. It would also be nice to pay for everyone's travel and to book their hotel rooms for them. The cousin has a choice -- figure out a way to attend without the baby (hello, anyone ever heard of a breast pump?) or don't attend. Don't throw your problem back on the groom - he'll have enough going on... Including making sure his bride isn't severely pissed off because his relatives ignored the clear statement that no kids are invited to the wedding.

n(wtf)cs

Some people (like my sister) just don't get it. She insists on bringing the little tyke with her everwhere. I think my nephew is awesome, but he does not belong at a bridal shower, or a business conference. Yes, she brought him along to both of those events. Can't wait to see if she brings him along on the Bachelorette Party for our future sister-in-law in a few weeks. I've tried talking to her, but get the defensive-rolling-eyes-woe-is-me response.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by pantaloonie
How does one become a waxer!?!?! What kind of benjamins do those guys score (in addition to the "fringe" bennies)?

This is slander!! I've only been waxed by a male once -- and not only did I not have sex with him, I found him creepy and never went back. (He sounded normal when I made the appointment.)

[dtb]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
Isn't that a strange feeling?

Who in the hell are you guys talking about?!?

(This is probably answered later, but I'm soooo confused!)

[fufu]

Originally posted by purse junkie
I'm with ThrashersFan on this one. I am delighted that you have a child you love and enjoy. I will ask you how it is doing with sincere interest in your answer and admire its photo even it is a scrunch-faced ugly little thing like tiny babies really tend to be. But your bringing it into the office requires me to drop whatever I'm doing and feign pleasure in being forced to hold it and coo at it when I'm really just petrified it'll drool on me, or else I'll be labeled an anti-family child-hating mutant. I'm just not into babies, that's all.

I just tell the parent unit that I have a cold/cough/sore throat/pink eye or something equally contagious and never have to deal with the issue. It also helps to close my office door if I hear possible rug-rat sounds. I admit it - I don't like kids in the office.

[leagleaze]

Originally posted by ThrashersFan


I wonder why we don't have a hockey player smilie. :disbelief

No particular reason, except I never have come across one. If you find one let me know, I'll add it.