Fashion Board 1-08-04 through 02-03-04

[SlaveNoMore]

Not only does the Robin chick have the biggest cans in the world, but she is dumb as a stone and jumps into the sack as early as episode two.

Rock on!

Originally posted by Shape Shifter
Heh.

POTY!!!!

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
This is what I believe. Em has come very close to acknowledging this, too, but is against medication.

I would never recommend this, but the best medication for clinical depression (diagnosed) for a very close relative of mine was having children. She is a completely different person. And a great mom. Don't get me wrong, having children to cure depression is generally the wrong solution. But in this case it seemed to work.

[spookyfish]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
I would never recommend this, but the best medication for clinical depression (diagnosed) for a very close relative of mine was having children. She is a completely different person. And a great mom. Don't get me wrong, having children to cure depression is generally the wrong solution. But in this case it seemed to work.

I can only assume that this child is not yet of the age where it talks back.

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
This is what I believe. Em has come very close to acknowledging this, too, but is against medication.

I actually think it is dysthmia - which is a milder, longer-term form of depression - combined with a bit of social and general anxiety disorder.

Does medication really help? I've heard it can make the person more pleasant, but can have a negative impact on that person's libido. Obviously, this would help one problem, but exacerbate the other.

To the person who asked about other problems, I don't think there are any. We both enjoy our jobs and have good realationships with each other's families.

Lack of friends is sort of an issue, but that goes back to the bit of social anxiety my spouse has, which means we don't go out much.

To be sure, I am not the perfect spouse. I'm positive my spouse has issues with me, but I do my best to address them when they are identified and commented on.

The medication can have an effect on libido. It varies depending on which medicine is used (I've heard that Prozac and its ilk are worse w/r/t this than wellbutrin and similar). One possibility would be treatment of the social anxiety. Not aware that Xanax has sexual side effects (but if I were you, I'd look into that and not take my word for it).

I've known people in relationships like yours and from my experience, if you don't take some action soon, it is unlikely to be a happy relationship long-term. Seriously, marriage counseling is still my advice to you.

[bilmore]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
Don't get me wrong, having children to cure depression is generally the wrong solution.

Two plus two generally equals four.

Originally posted by robustpuppy
This just in! Some women still seek rich husbands!

Apparently, I have navigated my life all wrong. From the venerable New York Post:



I guess there's still time to come up with a bullshit idea for a book that I can pitch as a study of a so-called social revolution.

Sorry, doll, but I already have a contract to write a book called "Husbands who cheat on their controlling, money spending, aging, anorexic wives with empty nest syndrome and how the controlling, money spending, aging, anorexic wives with empty nest syndrome turn to booze and pills to pretend it isnt happening while spending even more of their husband's money as revenge and to attempt in vain to appear young again"

[Oliver_Wendell_Ramone]

Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
Does medication really help? I've heard it can make the person more pleasant, but can have a negative impact on that person's libido.

If you have a question for Fringey, you should just pm her. She's there to help. A giver, if you will.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by purse junkie
Don't be a pig, pig. If some loser wants his wife to pop out endless kids to prove his balding beer-bellied can't-get-any-without-paying-for-it Viagra-induced virility, and if the wife's going for a cash cow over likeability and attractiveness, they deserve each other.

Originally posted by bilmore
So, guys that like having kids are pretty much just impotent losers?

Why do you bother?

TM

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by bilmore
Two plus two generally equals four.

I didn't say it was the right solution, but it seems to have worked. 2+2=5

[bilmore]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Why do you bother?

A deep, almost reverent concern for PJ's soul?

A sarcastic inner twinge in reaction to shotguns?

Because it's there?

(Don't push me into self-reflection on a Wednesday. I can't handle it. You're just gonna make me cry, and lord knows you don't need that.)

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
I read the article and thought - hmm, interesting concocted person made up by the reporter in this one. but maybe I'm overly cynical now.

My thoughts exactly. Who moves from NYC to DC? I considered looking them up on anywho to verify.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
What, and spend all those years waiting for your parents to kick and currying favor with your trustees? No thank you.

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
As opposed to spending all those years waiting for that mysterious chimera "job satisfaction" to appear and currying favor with the partners/bosses? No thank you.

If those were your only choices, that's fine.

But you can choose anything. Be master of your destintion. Choose Queen of England or Sultan of Brunei, and be in control of your wealth.

I note that no one wanted to be Donald Trump.

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
Sorry, doll, but I already have a contract to write a book called "Husbands who cheat on their controlling, money spending, aging, anorexic wives with empty nest syndrome and how the controlling, money spending, aging, anorexic wives with empty nest syndrome turn to booze and pills to pretend it isnt happening while spending even more of their husband's money as revenge and to attempt in vain to appear young again"

I would love to see the husband get a performance based lay-off while delusional wife seeks to enter the job market for the first time and finds out what real life is all about.

Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
Another anonymous request for marital advice. I know. So passe. But I trust the collective judgment of the people who reside here, so here goes nothing.

I've been married for 6 years and have been with my spouse for 9. Lately things have been deteriorating. I've been losing interest in the relationship and entertaining thoughts of divorce. There are no children involved, so the thought of it sometimes tempts me. The problem is that it's hard to convince myself I would rather risk being alone for the rest of my life than be married to my spouse.

On the other side of things, I really don't want to give up on this relationship. I think it is still salvageable and I have invested a lot of time and effort in it. I love my spouse dearly and know em loves me. There have been no extra-marital shenanigans or anything like that, as far as I know.

The main issues really stem from what I think are attitudinal/psychological problems my spouse has. Em worries about things too much and is generally negative. Em has little to no sex drive. Em is difficult to talk to about these issue. I hate the word "em". Em went to a couple of counselling session but stopped going due to a perception that the problems had been discussed and addressed.

In my opinion, my spouse really needs to go back to counselling. Perhaps I could use some too? I am a pretty positive person, but em's negativity is really getting to me. It is harder and harder for me to deal with, and the lack of consistent sexual congress doesn't help. It's a lot of hard emotional work for very little reward.

I know I need to talk to em about this stuff, but what I don't know is whether this relationship is truly worth fighting for. I suppose only I can answer that question, but I'm looking for comments from you. Perhaps you know a couple who experienced something similar and was able to come out of it OK. Maybe the opposite?

Thanks for your comments.

THis is fake. Is it e/o trying to stir up posts? Its like a law professor trying to present facts for advice in both directions, and the no kids thing ensures thatpeople wont get sidetracked on that tedious nonsense or that it wont be a slamdunk stay together yell from the bored.

happy scrolling to me.