A frolic in Cambodia

[spookyfish]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
When you use Clamato in your Bloody Marys, you are actually making a Bloody Caesar. Don't incur the wrath of millions of Caesar-loving Canadians. We might... hug you or apologize or something.

I thought a bloody Caesar was a Bloody Mary with two olives.

[spookyfish]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
How do you feel about vacuums?

They suck.

[Tyrone Slothrop]

Originally posted by Flinty_McFlint
Judge resigns after it was discovered she was in a porno.


All Rise

Judge not lest ye be judged?

[Not Bob]

Originally posted by spookyfish
I thought a bloody Caesar was a Bloody Mary with two olives.

Nope. A bunch of renegade Ontarioians cuffed me about the head with curling brooms for bringing them something without clam juice in it when they asked for Bloody Caesars. (I worked in the hospitality industry as a lad.)

After that, I learned to say to the occasional visitor from Our Neighbour To The North who asked for a Bloody Caesar that my cheap-ass boss didn't feel wasting his money on Clamato juice when he could spend it on strippers and blow.

[notcasesensitive]

The discussion of marriage and whether it is relevant any longer if kids aren't involved on the PB has reminded me of something that I find irksome. I'm in a pretty serious relationship with my boyfriend (yes, I'm tired of this term, but have not found a suitable replacement) and we live together (but this came up even when we didn't live together, I guess becuase of our age, career level, etc.), but quite frequently people refer to him as my husband. These are obviously not people I know particularly well or they would know we aren't married. I don't tend to correct them when they call him my husband in passing (I also typically don't correct mispronounciations of my name or other things of this nature in casual conversation unless it seems like I'm going to have a past-the-end-of-this-cocktail-party relationship with someone). So one night recently we were out and someone referred to him as my husband, and I didn't bother to correct them, and the conversation went on ... and at some point it came up that we are not married. So the person I was talking to got all offended like I had held us out as married because I hadn't bothered to correct the earlier misinterpretation.

What am I supposed to do in these situations? Isn't my method ok, I mean is it my responsibility to correct people when they ask about my husband and they clearly mean my boyfriend? It seems to me that is stopping otherwise pleasant conversation to point out a technicality. I mean who really cares if they went through an evening thinking people they met were married, only to learn that (gasp!) they're only co-habitating?


Ps. What is a better term for boyfriend? I know this has been discussed before, but I don't recall any good alternative. I feel like I'm still in high school when I call him that. Fuck Partner doesn't seem to go over well on the cocktail party circuit.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
So one night recently we were out and someone referred to him as my husband, and I didn't bother to correct them, and the conversation went on ... and at some point it came up that we were not married. So the person I was talking to got all offended like I had held us out as married because I hadn't bothered to correct the earlier misinterpretation.

What am I supposed to do in these situations? Isn't my method ok, I mean is it my responsibility to correct people when they ask about my husband and they clearly mean my boyfriend? It seems to me that is stopping otherwise pleasant conversation to point out a technicality. I mean who really cares if they went through an evening thinking people they met were married, only to learn that (gasp!) they're only co-habitating?


Ps. What is a better term for boyfriend? I know this has been discussed before, but I don't recall any good alternative. I feel like I'm still in high school when I call him that. Fuck Partner doesn't seem to go over well on the cocktail party circuit.

I wouldn't hang out with the person who got offended. Personally, I find it irksome to be corrected mid-conversation over a technicality and would have appreciated your courtesy in not doing so. Plus, if you jump in - "oh, we're not married" - it seems like your status is a big deal to you, when it's clearly not at this point. Honestly, why do some people get so worked up about the marital status of others? Fuck them and the "I need everything to be clearly categorized" horses they rode in on.

As for terminology, how about "Mein Mann." In German, of course, that means "My husband," but to English speakers, it sounds like "My Man," and that's what he is, isn't he? Your hunka hunka burning man.

[Alex_de_Large]

Nina Kraft, who won last month's Ironman in Kona, admitted to taking EPO.

spree: ESPN

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by Not Bob
Nope. A bunch of renegade Ontarioians cuffed me about the head with curling brooms for bringing them something without clam juice in it when they asked for Bloody Caesars. (I worked in the hospitality industry as a lad.)

After that, I learned to say to the occasional visitor from Our Neighbour To The North who asked for a Bloody Caesar that my cheap-ass boss didn't feel wasting his money on Clamato juice when he could spend it on strippers and blow.

I miss your cheap-ass boss. (sniff)

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
The discussion of marriage and whether it is relevant any longer if kids aren't involved on the PB has reminded me of something that I find irksome. I'm in a pretty serious relationship with my boyfriend (yes, I'm tired of this term, but have not found a suitable replacement) and we live together (but this came up even when we didn't live together, I guess becuase of our age, career level, etc.), but quite frequently people refer to him as my husband. These are obviously not people I know particularly well or they would know we aren't married. I don't tend to correct them when they call him my husband in passing (I also typically don't correct mispronounciations of my name or other things of this nature in casual conversation unless it seems like I'm going to have a past-the-end-of-this-cocktail-party relationship with someone). So one night recently we were out and someone referred to him as my husband, and I didn't bother to correct them, and the conversation went on ... and at some point it came up that we are not married. So the person I was talking to got all offended like I had held us out as married because I hadn't bothered to correct the earlier misinterpretation.

What am I supposed to do in these situations? Isn't my method ok, I mean is it my responsibility to correct people when they ask about my husband and they clearly mean my boyfriend? It seems to me that is stopping otherwise pleasant conversation to point out a technicality. I mean who really cares if they went through an evening thinking people they met were married, only to learn that (gasp!) they're only co-habitating?


Ps. What is a better term for boyfriend? I know this has been discussed before, but I don't recall any good alternative. I feel like I'm still in high school when I call him that. Fuck Partner doesn't seem to go over well on the cocktail party circuit.

Same situation. If someone corrected me, I'd tell them (a) to fuck off*, and (b) that basically I'm married in every sense of the word except for the paperwork, so that's why I didn't interrupt to make this seemingly trivial point.

*this is my response to many things (and people). I'm a sweetheart to normal, laid-back people, but can be a dick to idiots like this. There isn't much sugar-coating when someone like this annoys me.**

**shit I sound like Sebby.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by ilikenewsocks
I would almost swear that the first time I read this, it said that Turan did a porno for the book. But that wouldn't make any sense, now, would it, and even thinking it runs contrary to that mental discipline stuff I heard somebody wailing about earlier...

Are you sure he wasn't whaling? The complaint did lead to a whopper of a response.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
The discussion of marriage and whether it is relevant any longer if kids aren't involved on the PB has reminded me of something that I find irksome. I'm in a pretty serious relationship with my boyfriend (yes, I'm tired of this term, but have not found a suitable replacement) and we live together (but this came up even when we didn't live together, I guess becuase of our age, career level, etc.), but quite frequently people refer to him as my husband. These are obviously not people I know particularly well or they would know we aren't married. I don't tend to correct them when they call him my husband in passing (I also typically don't correct mispronounciations of my name or other things of this nature in casual conversation unless it seems like I'm going to have a past-the-end-of-this-cocktail-party relationship with someone). So one night recently we were out and someone referred to him as my husband, and I didn't bother to correct them, and the conversation went on ... and at some point it came up that we are not married. So the person I was talking to got all offended like I had held us out as married because I hadn't bothered to correct the earlier misinterpretation.

What am I supposed to do in these situations? Isn't my method ok, I mean is it my responsibility to correct people when they ask about my husband and they clearly mean my boyfriend? It seems to me that is stopping otherwise pleasant conversation to point out a technicality. I mean who really cares if they went through an evening thinking people they met were married, only to learn that (gasp!) they're only co-habitating?


Ps. What is a better term for boyfriend? I know this has been discussed before, but I don't recall any good alternative. I feel like I'm still in high school when I call him that. Fuck Partner doesn't seem to go over well on the cocktail party circuit.

"Lover", like that Will Ferrell skit.

Unfortunately, you're stuck with boyfriend. I've heard people use "live-in" and think it sounds awful.

As to the Seinfledesque query on the correction of "husband", I lived with my wife for years before we got hitched and did the same thing. If people get bent about not being corrected, fuck them. Your method is the most polite.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
The discussion of marriage and whether it is relevant any longer if kids aren't involved on the PB has reminded me of something that I find irksome. I'm in a pretty serious relationship with my boyfriend (yes, I'm tired of this term, but have not found a suitable replacement) and we live together (but this came up even when we didn't live together, I guess becuase of our age, career level, etc.), but quite frequently people refer to him as my husband. These are obviously not people I know particularly well or they would know we aren't married. I don't tend to correct them when they call him my husband in passing (I also typically don't correct mispronounciations of my name or other things of this nature in casual conversation unless it seems like I'm going to have a past-the-end-of-this-cocktail-party relationship with someone). So one night recently we were out and someone referred to him as my husband, and I didn't bother to correct them, and the conversation went on ... and at some point it came up that we are not married. So the person I was talking to got all offended like I had held us out as married because I hadn't bothered to correct the earlier misinterpretation.

What am I supposed to do in these situations? Isn't my method ok, I mean is it my responsibility to correct people when they ask about my husband and they clearly mean my boyfriend? It seems to me that is stopping otherwise pleasant conversation to point out a technicality. I mean who really cares if they went through an evening thinking people they met were married, only to learn that (gasp!) they're only co-habitating?


Ps. What is a better term for boyfriend? I know this has been discussed before, but I don't recall any good alternative. I feel like I'm still in high school when I call him that. Fuck Partner doesn't seem to go over well on the cocktail party circuit.

You won't like my suggestions.

Stop going to cocktail parties with dumbasses.

or

Shrug like you don't give a shit if someone thinks you mislead them into thinking you were married. My response would be, "What does misleading you about something like that get me? I just didn't feel like explaining a dynamic of our relationship to someone I don't really know. But, it looks like you picked up on the nature of our relationship anyway, so what's your problem?"

or

Introduce him like so: This is my man. Don't any of you clamato-swillin' hos even think about it.


TM

PS - And stop dropping hints about wanting to get married on the board. [Before you blow my head off, that was a joke.]

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
Same situation. If someone corrected me, I'd tell them (a) to fuck off*, and (b) that basically I'm married in every sense of the word except for the paperwork, so that's why I didn't interrupt to make this seemingly trivial point.

*this is my response to many things (and people). I'm a sweetheart to normal, laid-back people, but can be a dick to idiots like this. There isn't much sugar-coating when someone like this annoys me.**

**shit I sound like Sebby.

Have I told you lately how sexy you are?*








*No? That's because it would have been artificial and meaningless. Besides, aren't you secure enough not to need to hear it?

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
You won't like my suggestions.

Stop going to cocktail parties with dumbasses.

or

Shrug like you don't give a shit if someone thinks you mislead them into thinking you were married. My response would be, "What does misleading you about something like that get me? I just didn't feel like explaining a dynamic of our relationship to someone I don't really know. But, it looks like you picked up on the nature of our relationship anyway, so what's your problem?"

or

Introduce him like so: This is my man. Don't any of you clamato-swillin' hos even think about it.


TM

PS - And stop dropping hints about wanting to get married on the board. [Before you blow my head off, that was a joke.]

If she gets married, I request either the inclusion of a groom's cake, or a chocolate wedding cake.

Thank you for your attention to this matter.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
You won't like my suggestions.

Stop going to cocktail parties with dumbasses.

or

Shrug like you don't give a shit if someone thinks you mislead them into thinking you were married. My response would be, "What does misleading you about something like that get me? I just didn't feel like explaining a dynamic of our relationship to someone I don't really know. But, it looks like you picked up on the nature of our relationship anyway, so what's your problem?"

or

Introduce him like so: This is my man. Don't any of you clamato-swillin' hos even think about it.


TM

PS - And stop dropping hints about wanting to get married on the board. [Before you blow my head off, that was a joke.]

How about borrowing from the fiftie's era gay community and referring to him as your um-friend?