Fashion Board 6-9-04 to 7-13-04

Originally posted by LessinSF
Was she gone? I've been saving this for her-

Just couldn't wait to pull the trigger on that one, could you?

[Not Bob]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
No pinky dick here. But if I did have one, I would find myself something that brought me back to the time when no one cared about dick size. Something innocent. Maybe something I used to carry to school.

And then I would spend every waking moment of my life trying to buy every single one I could. And I would find a girl who thought that buying 5 of these a day would infuse love into our otherwise pathetic, meatless (catch that double entendre?) relationship.

TM

Apropos of nothing, aren't you all (well, not all y'all) glad that your spouse/SO doesn't post here? I mean, I've got a gazillion goofy little habits/bizarre personality defects/weird-ass idiosyncracies that I would just as soon not have all of my imaginary friends know, much less discuss in public.

Hello, my name is Not Bob, and I go to Hal Linden events dressed as a character from "Barney Miller."

[andViolins]

Oh yeah, here's a real shocker about one of those E.T. lookin' mutants:

Olsen Twin Enters Treatment For Eating-Related Issue
Mary-Kate Olsen Enters Treatment Within Last 10 Days

According to "Access Hollywood," Mary-Kate Olsen's publicist has issued a statement, saying that the actress has "recently entered a treatment facility to seek professional help for a eating-related issue. She is thankful for the encouragement and support of her friends and family who are with her every step of the way."

Mary-Kate Olsen entered the center within the last 10 days. The teen millionaire still plans to attend New York University this fall and will be traveling later this summer, according to the statement.

Mary-Kate Olsen and her sister, Ashley Olsen, have made headlines recently for their first big screen effort "New York Minute" and for reaching their 18th birthday.

The fraternal twins started in the entertainment business at 9-months-old, sharing a role in the hit sitcom "Full House." They've since gone on to create their own home-video and merchandising dynasty.

http://www.local6.com/entertainment/3447172/detail.html

aV

Originally posted by sunnybunny
So, this month has been a bad financial month for me. In addition to putting all new gutters on my house, purchasing my first lawn mower, buying a foal in utero (yes, who the hell does this?), my car just crapped out and had to be towed (despite being a relatively new 2000) and I fear the end of its reliability is near and i will (gasp) have to buy something more long-term reliable like a Honda rather than remain Saab loyal. So, a piece of horse equipment I really wanted just became available (very bad timing) and it will be a while before one comes along again. It costs approximately two times my mortgage payment. I do not need it in order to survive, but it would make my life much easier. Do I: (a) pass it up and wait 6 months for another one to float ashore and remain fiscally responsible; (b) buy it on my credit card and hope next month isn't like this month; (c) remind my parents that my birthday is approaching and beg and plead until they buy it for me to shut me up; (d) start hocking the rare lunchboxes and replacing them with new knock-offs. My gut tells me to pass it up, but my horse(s) would be much happier if I got it.

Sell the lawnmower and have the horse graze on your lawn when it's born. Buy the riding equipment. Hope the SAAB holds out long enough for the horse to grow large enough for you to commute on horseback, obviating the need for a new car. And sell the effing lunchboxes, just because.

[Not Bob]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
No pinky dick here.

Originally posted by robustpuppy
Well, duh.

I know that there's a joke with "racist fuck" as a punchline in there somewhere, but it's just not coming to me.

[sunnybunny]

My sister is remarried. She has a child from her first husband (a hot surfer who wasn't much of a dad). When she got remarried, her first husband gave up custody and parental rights in order to not pay child support. He had a bit of an alcohol and substance problem and would take the kid out in the car when high/drunk, so you can see why she would want to keep the kid away. I don't think he's any better now. Anyhow, his parents sued for grandparental visitation rights and my sister settled, in order to keep it from dragging on forever. They get the kid for certain periods of time and they are required to not mention their son (re: that he is the kid's father) nor allow their son to have contact with the kid. If he asks about their son for some reason, they are to direct him to my sister. They are not to give out any of my sister's contact info to the dead-beat son. Divorce was like 6 years ago. CHild is 8. Last contact my sister had with ex-husband was aobut 6 months ago. He called at 12:30 a.m. to ask if he could start to see the child again...obviously drunk. My sister chided the grandparents for giving out the contact info and they promised they only did it so that he could talk to her about regaining visitation. They promised to stay out of it and apologized. So, my sister got her kid back after a weedend with the grandparents and they had put the kid on the phone and let him talk to his dad and told him that this was his dad (and not my sister's current husband who adopted him). My sister's really upset. THis likley means more attorney's fees, which she doesn't have (add this to my piling financials). What would you do? Admonish them again? Try to get the visitation revoked or only as supervised????? any thoughts on the best mommy thing to do?

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by sunnybunny
[nephew's paternal grandparents violating custody/visitation order; mom has no money]

Tell your parents to give your wedding money to your sister for atty fees. If she really doesn't actually have money, get her to go to legal aid and then you, or someone else, can pick up pro bono hours.

Honestly, except for all the excess punctuation, that sounds just like the pro bono stuff that always gets sent around.

[Atticus Grinch]

Originally posted by sunnybunny
When she got remarried, her first husband gave up custody and parental rights in order to not pay child support.

I don't have anything productive to suggest (other than reporting the grandparents for contempt of a court order), except I thought the above arrangement ("no visitation; no support") was illegal in most every state, because it brokers something that is the kid's right (i.e., parental support payments) in exchange for something that's the non-custodial parent's (i.e., visitation). If it is allowed, it shouldn't be. Termination of parental rights shouldn't be something brokered in exchange for denying the kid the monetary support of his biological parents.

[sunnybunny]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
Tell your parents to give your wedding money to your sister for atty fees. If she really doesn't actually have money, get her to go to legal aid and then you, or someone else, can pick up pro bono hours.

Honestly, except for all the excess punctuation, that sounds just like the pro bono stuff that always gets sent around.

I wasn't asking what the legal thing to do was, I was asking what the "good mommy" thing to do is, in terms of maintaining relations whith the grandparents, trying to get rid of their rights, or jsut trying to enforce the agreement?

[Not Bob]

Originally posted by sunnybunny
[story re grandparents, etc.]

Who did the poor kid think that he was visiting all this time?

Anyway, the cat is out of the bag, so I don't know what your sister hopes to accomplish. I guess she could probably get the visitation either stopped or supervised if she wanted, but does she? What about the kid? If he has a great relationship with these folks, does she really want to end it this way? And didn't she figure that he would learn this, anyway? At some point, you gotta assume that he would wonder why he was spending time with random old people.

Oh, and if you haven't already done so, you should probably post this question on the parent board.

[SlaveNoMore]

Originally posted by sunnybunny
My sister is remarried. She has a child from her first husband (a hot surfer who wasn't much of a dad). When she got remarried, her first husband gave up custody and parental rights in order to not pay child support. He had a bit of an alcohol and substance problem and would take the kid out in the car when high/drunk, so you can see why she would want to keep the kid away. I don't think he's any better now. Anyhow, his parents sued for grandparental visitation rights and my sister settled, in order to keep it from dragging on forever. They get the kid for certain periods of time and they are required to not mention their son (re: that he is the kid's father) nor allow their son to have contact with the kid. If he asks about their son for some reason, they are to direct him to my sister. They are not to give out any of my sister's contact info to the dead-beat son. Divorce was like 6 years ago. CHild is 8. Last contact my sister had with ex-husband was aobut 6 months ago. He called at 12:30 a.m. to ask if he could start to see the child again...obviously drunk. My sister chided the grandparents for giving out the contact info and they promised they only did it so that he could talk to her about regaining visitation. They promised to stay out of it and apologized. So, my sister got her kid back after a weedend with the grandparents and they had put the kid on the phone and let him talk to his dad and told him that this was his dad (and not my sister's current husband who adopted him). My sister's really upset. THis likley means more attorney's fees, which she doesn't have (add this to my piling financials). What would you do? Admonish them again? Try to get the visitation revoked or only as supervised????? any thoughts on the best mommy thing to do?

At least this post answers the "where is Fugee" question

[sunnybunny]

Originally posted by Atticus Grinch
I don't have anything productive to suggest (other than reporting the grandparents for contempt of a court order), except I thought the above arrangement ("no visitation; no support") was illegal in most every state, because it brokers something that is the kid's right (i.e., parental support payments) in exchange for something that's the non-custodial parent's (i.e., visitation). If it is allowed, it shouldn't be. Termination of parental rights shouldn't be something brokered in exchange for denying the kid the monetary support of his biological parents.

I'm not exactly sur ehow the deal went down, but I know he hadn't made any of his child support payments in years and had left town to catch the "perfect wave" and she wanted him to give up rights so that her current husband could adopt and he said "OK, and um, can i get out of paying the piles of money I haven't paid" and she said "ok." He went on surfing without a care for years and only had mild interest in his child when he came into town to hit his parents up for money.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by Atticus Grinch
I don't have anything productive to suggest (other than reporting the grandparents for contempt of a court order), except I thought the above arrangement ("no visitation; no support") was illegal in most every state, because it brokers something that is the kid's right (i.e., parental support payments) in exchange for something that's the non-custodial parent's (i.e., visitation). If it is allowed, it shouldn't be. Termination of parental rights shouldn't be something brokered in exchange for denying the kid the monetary support of his biological parents.

It is my understanding that in many states, custody/visitation rights and child support is a whole different ballgame from termination of parental rights. Custody/visitation/support is always always always revisitable (though nothing may change if circumstances haven't changed). Termination of parental rights is a one-time, permanent thing, and once that's done, the (now former) parent does not have support obligations.

But it's not my area.


ETA obviously, sister is not all that poor or the public assistance people would be all over enforcing the support arrears.

[AnotherSarcasticSock]

Originally posted by sunnybunny
I wasn't asking what the legal thing to do was, I was asking what the "good mommy" thing to do is, in terms of maintaining relations whith the grandparents, trying to get rid of their rights, or jsut trying to enforce the agreement?

The grandparents can't be trusted, cut them off and get rid of their rights.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by Not Bob
Apropos of nothing, aren't you all (well, not all y'all) glad that your spouse/SO doesn't post here? I mean, I've got a gazillion goofy little habits/bizarre personality defects/weird-ass idiosyncracies that I would just as soon not have all of my imaginary friends know, much less discuss in public.

Hello, my name is Not Bob, and I go to Hal Linden events dressed as a character from "Barney Miller."

Not to mention all the habits/personality defects/idiosyncracies that you've managed to hide from the spouse all these years that you freely discuss with your imaginary friends.