Fashionistas you have arrived 3-25-03 - 10-3-03

I was on line at that supermercade a day or two ago and saw on the cover of one of the tabloids that there were shots of Angelina's lesbian lover. I went to Natl Enquirer dot com and it wasnt that one. Can you find these and post em? I need a cheap thrill.

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
This is like tying a sweater around your waist to disguise your fat butt. Draws attention to the fact that you are aware of the problem, but have not taken steps to properly address it.

Speaking of...I was in Nordstroms the other day and all of the mannequins in the Studio 121 had sweaters tied around their shoulders. Is this back?

[Atticus Grinch]

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
One (too frequently) hears that inviting a woman to weddings alone is offensive and ridicules her singleness, thus calling attention to her presumed inadequacy and further taunting her by rubbing her nose in the fact that someone else has paired off in a socially-condoned manner. It is apparently insulting to presume that single women might want to celebrate others' happiness rather than take the events as a commentary on themselves.

I'll go further than that (and probably incur wrath). We're hypersensitive to the needs of single people to have their relationship status "respected."

It's a shame you can't invite single people to weddings these days without the abomination known as an "And Guest" invitation. There used to be three states of being: Single, Engaged, and Married. The creation of multiple categories within "Single" such as "Living With Girlfriend" or "Taking Time Out for Herself" means that you just can't try to set people up anymore. It's now everyone's responsibility to know the degree of seriousness a single person has in the permanence of their current status, because God forbid you should insult them by giving them an opportunity to change it one way or the other --- mind you, this was supposed to be the advantage of being unmarried. This growing idea that you can't go stag to a wedding is killing the best outlet for hookups and drunken sex.

For example, this idea that it insults the sanctity of premarital shacking up to try to introduce a single person in a "committed relationship" to other singles is recockulous. We're more paternalistic about committed unmarried relationships than we are about married ones.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by Penske_Account
Me too. Ironic, no?

A "No Smoking" sign on your cigarette break.

[ThrashersFan]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
Let me give you an example. One of my cousin's nickname is "Porkie" because he was chubby. He is now considerably slimmer, but still known as "Porkie", "Fatty" etc. My nickname is "Bump", as in bump-on-a-log because I am very quiet and apparently pretty dull. I think some of my aunts and uncles don't know my name because I am (still) just referred to as "our little bump". My aunt is kind of naiive and she is referred to so often as the "silly cow" that it's almost her nickname. It sounds dysfunctional and nasty, but these nicknames are all terms of endearment - you wouldn't call someone an insulting name if you didn't love him. I'm not trying to defend it, it just seems to be the way things are for British people (less so now, they seem to be getting just as flaky over there as here).

If my parents, sister and I are together for more than five minutes the most often heard comment from those around us is "man, you people are fucking cruel to one another." That's not how we see it. We are all bitingly sarcastic (although I apparently cannot successfully pull off sarcasm on the FB ) and starkly honest with one another (at least the women are -- my dad is kinda a teddy bear among female sharks). The first time they met my husband wanted to kill my mother for "being mean" to me (like he thought he needed to protect me). Anyway, it takes a while to get used to us and our "wit" - heck, it took my assistant a year to realize that I wasn't really going to fire her and that despite my remarks she does qualify as a full-time employee.

[bilmore]

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
Context is key, Bilmore, but you have it all wrong. Your uttering the words "good morning" are offensive because you are a white capitalist male, and therefor your demand that the morning be good is backed with implied violence intended to force others into placid and smiling accpetance of your hegemony, and further an imperialist attempt to force others to adopt your social constructs and to rape, pillage and suppress all other forms of expression and communication, thereby ensuring your cultural domination of the masses. The only significant context for your utterances is your inherently offensive white maleness. Your every utterance can be presumed offensive. Duh.

Damn, this was good. Are you from California?

[idle acts]

Originally posted by NotFromHere
Speaking of...I was in Nordstroms the other day and all of the mannequins in the Studio 121 had sweaters tied around their shoulders. Is this back?

ohmigod - it was out?!?

[bridge of love]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
to Coltrane-
You need an avatar

I had a theory that the 3 people without avatars billmore, Coltrane and Sebastian are all the same, and the lack of avatar flows from not knowing how.( maybe you/someone could have a confidential avatar workshop?) for awhile I tried to see similarity in style between the 3 but didn't get anywhere. plus, bilmore and coltrane were arguing about running yesterday and neither seems the sort to argue with themself. the avatars being so visual, the lack of avater, almost functions as the avatar, so its sort of confusing to have more than 1 non-avatar poster.

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
shots of Angelina's lesbian lover -- I need a cheap thrill.

I am not able to surf the net to look for these from work, nor do I have the technical capability to post pictures. I could ask MR to do it for me, but he is TCBing in his office and cannot be bothered.

I too need a cheap thrill, however, so many thanks for anyone who can post a picture. Unless it is the picture of Angelina's lesbian lover from a few years ago when she was making some movie I never saw. (May have been Gia but for some reason I don't think so). That woman is very much not my type in that she was much more butch than lipstick.

[bilmore]

Originally posted by bridge of love

. . . billmore, Coltrane and Sebastian are all the same, . . .

Paigow's gotta be laughing her ass off at this point.

Originally posted by bridge of love
I had a theory that the 3 people without avatars billmore, Coltrane and Sebastian are all the same, and the lack of avatar flows from not knowing how.( maybe you/someone could have a confidential avatar workshop?) for awhile I tried to see similarity in style between the 3 but didn't get anywhere. plus, bilmore and coltrane were arguing about running yesterday and neither seems the sort to argue with themself. the avatars being so visual, the lack of avater, almost functions as the avatar, so its sort of confusing to have morethan 1 non-avatar poster.

I had an avatar for Bilmore- thjat shot of him toasting me with the beer. I can still find it for him if he wants it.

Sebastian needs an image from a John OHara book and I think Coltane should have a bottle of nair.

(Note: I deleted your double-post, as it wasn't even funny the first time. not7yS )

Originally posted by bridge of love
I had a theory that the 3 people without avatars billmore, Coltrane and Sebastian are all the same, and the lack of avatar flows from not knowing how.

Good guess. Actually, I am the technologically-challenged puppetmaster. It's been rather tiring keeping up with my multitude of avatarless SPs, but I'm glad it's finally out.

-TL

[Sidd Finch]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
Let me give you an example. One of my cousin's nickname is "Porkie" because he was chubby. He is now considerably slimmer, but still known as "Porkie", "Fatty" etc. My nickname is "Bump", as in bump-on-a-log because I am very quiet and apparently pretty dull. I think some of my aunts and uncles don't know my name because I am (still) just referred to as "our little bump". My aunt is kind of naiive and she is referred to so often as the "silly cow" that it's almost her nickname. It sounds dysfunctional and nasty, but these nicknames are all terms of endearment - you wouldn't call someone an insulting name if you didn't love him. I'm not trying to defend it, it just seems to be the way things are for British people (less so now, they seem to be getting just as flaky over there as here).

But there's a difference between saying something seemingly nasty to family or good friends, and saying it to people you don't know, or barely know. The former will know your intentions, and know you.

I used to train with a group of African-American martial artists. All very intense, very skilled, very proud people. The things we said to each other I would never say to a stranger, or accept from a stranger. We told jokes I wouldn't tell on a public bus for fear of getting assaulted or branded a racist.

All of this was tame compared to the way my family interacts. Sheesh -- Italians, we show our love by fighting.

I agree that Americans are hyper-sensitive, but contrasting interactions among the general public with those among family members is comparing apples to oranges.

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally posted by Sidd Finch
I agree that Americans are hyper-sensitive, but contrasting interactions among the general public with those among family members is comparing apples to oranges.

1. I don't think (and never said that) Americans are hyper-sensitive. I love America and Americans. I think they're fan-tas-tic. Why else would I work my ass off and go through masses of red tape to immigrate here? I was pointing out to leagl that what she viewed as cattiness, I viewed as a hallmark of the way a particular culture interacts. Purely as an example, I used my family - because, as you may know, cultural hallmarks often show up in family interactions. It was an example, as I stated - nothing more, nothing less.

2. I do not see British behaviour as some kind of model of behaviour to be emulated. Did you see them when Diana died - there is a lot of repressed emotion over there just dying for an outlet. I was just drawing attention to what I saw as a cultural difference. There are good things to be said about American culture - and sometimes good things to be said about having a stiff upper lip.

that is all.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick


2. I do not see British behaviour as some kind of model of behaviour to be emulated.

This sentence is like a traffic jam when you're already late...