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[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally posted by ironweed
Really? My whole life has been unfolding exactly according to the detailed plan I made when I was about nine years old. A quick glance at the schedule tells me I'm only about a year away from completion of my secret underground base and spaceport.

Shhhh. We don't want them to know it can be done. I'll meet you in the transporter and we can talk about money management and stuff.

[sunnybunny]

Originally posted by mmm3587
I guess what I'm saying is that I personally don't understand why someone in a relationship would choose to let things like this bother them until the point that it causes them to want to break up with the other person. Maybe I am just projecting my personaility; I myself would rather rety to deal with something like that before it reaches a break-up point. And if I were involved with someone, I would be pissed if she wanted to break up with me out of the blue; once you've been with someone for a while I think that you owe it to them to actually discuss and try to address issues.

It sounds like Sunny tried to address important things and he just blew her off; he sounds like the childish one here.

Oh, just shut up...are you up for a shag or what?

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by Sparklehorse
I broke up with my long-term boyfriend

I keep forgetting -- are you a woman or a gay?

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by mmm3587
I can't speak for everyone either, but I personally know a bunch of people who didn't really think things through very much. I guess that's not the same as actively realizing that they don't know whether permanence is likely, but it's at least a reckless disregard for the prospect of a marriage failing. The vast majority of the couples I know who were married in the few years after (or before) graduation from college are divorced or separated now, and a bunch of them are in that position because they didn't even talk about things like money management, kids , where they wanted to live, etc.

Read Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking
by Malcolm Gladwell.

[sunnybunny]

Originally posted by sunnybunny
Sorry, what shock did he face? He was stuck in base camp for weeks on end and trekked down an hour for beers and grilled cheeses on a daily basis and his sherpa baked him a fucking birthday cake on his birthday. He came back with a bigger beer gut than he had when he left and partied like a rock star. And it wasn't like he hasn't climbed a mountain once a year for the past several years. Dude, the guys just a pleasure seeking pig.

Oops, and I forgot to mention after he and his buddies drank basecamp dry, the sherpas sent the yaks down and restocked the beer supply...shit he had it better than home. Ass.

[Pretty Little Flower]

Originally posted by ironweed
My whole life has been unfolding exactly according to the detailed plan I made when I was about nine years old.

Weird. At age nine, you already knew you were going to be a socially maladjusted, pseudo-angst ridden, bitter drunk? Kudos to you for sticking it out this long.

[mmm3587]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
On the other hand, you can talk and talk and talk about these things until you are blue in the face and it still might not work out. It's very hard to plan for everything that is going to happen in your life.

I totally agree, but most people I know talked about these things, couldn't resolve them and decided that getting married would magically fix things. That's what happens when people get married at 23, I guess. To a person, the couples I know all wish that they had discussed these things until they were blue in the face when they were 22, instead of just getting married as a panacea to long-term disagreements...

[Sparklehorse]

Originally posted by sunnybunny
Sorry, what shock did he face? He was stuck in base camp for weeks on end and trekked down an hour for beers and grilled cheeses on a daily basis and his sherpa baked him a fucking birthday cake on his birthday. He came back with a bigger beer gut than he had when he left and partied like a rock star. And it wasn't like he hasn't climbed a mountain once a year for the past several years. Dude, the guys just a pleasure seeking pig.

I was speaking more to Hank's fact pattern (Hi RP!) than your situation.

But I was also trying to point out how it was possible for you to see, like a lightning bolt, that you did not want his brand of self-centeredness in your life.

Originally posted by Pretty Little Flower
Weird. At age nine, you already knew you were going to be a socially maladjusted, pseudo-angst ridden, bitter drunk? Kudos to you for sticking it out this long.

You'll be laughing out of the other side of your face when the giant robots show up.

[Sparklehorse]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
I keep forgetting -- are you a woman or a gay?

Woman

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by mmm3587
I guess what I'm saying is that I personally don't understand why someone in a relationship would choose to let things like this bother them until the point that it causes them to want to break up with the other person. Maybe I am just projecting my personaility; I myself would rather rety to deal with something like that before it reaches a break-up point. And if I were involved with someone, I would be pissed if she wanted to break up with me out of the blue; once you've been with someone for a while I think that you owe it to them to actually discuss and try to address issues.

It sounds like Sunny tried to address important things and he just blew her off; he sounds like the childish one here.

In my experience, these things tend not to be out of the blue, though no one necessarily sat down and explained the breach and left for an explicit cure period.

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally posted by sunnybunny
Oops, and I forgot to mention after he and his buddies drank basecamp dry, the sherpas sent the yaks down and restocked the beer supply...shit he had it better than home. Ass.

The sherpas give better head than you?

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
I was already laughing at mmm's saying "reckless disregard for the prospect of a marriage failing," and now you chime in with a contracts class analogy.

We lawyers really have to be careful with our frames of reference and our choices of words. Non-laywers, particularly those with whom you are intimate, hate this shit.

See, it's taken 10 years or so, but I've learned to make these jokes only on a lawyers board and not at parties.

[sunnybunny]

Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
The sherpas give better head than you?

I've wondered that myself.

[Anne Elk]

Originally posted by mmm3587
2, who the fuck is destroying passports of their ex-lovers?

I almost called INS on one ex* (but only because he was stalking me about getting back together). He finally left me alone so I never made the call.

*Illegal British dude.