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sgtclub · 07-12-2007, 01:24 PM

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Originally posted by ltl/fb
About a month ago, and he made far less money than I do, and I paid for myself. The guy pays on the first date; after that it's more 50/50 or ability to pay. I guess that ability to pay for nice dates is one way to assess whether a guy is a good bet in terms of stability etc. but, hell, I'm never going to be a stay-at-home mom, so to me financial responsibility is more important than financial plenty.

Hot damn, you are an asshole aspirant.

I have had friends who have regarded dates with guys they weren't interested in as "free nice dinner" or who wouldn't "date a guy whose car isn't as nice as mine." To me, that's bullshit.

You are definitely in a small minority. I think most guys would agree that they are lucky to get treated every 6 dates or so, and most of the time it's breakfast. I'm not complaining and, in fact, I like paying - all I ask is for a "reach," just so I know it's appreciated. But to go back to the original point, our dating conventions are not very different from Sebby's prostitution analysis.

sgtclub · 07-12-2007, 01:27 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
This is anecdotal, but when I went out with my ex-boyfriend, I paid 90% of the time. He makes about 1/4 of what I do. It would be ridiculous to expect him to pay.

Again, you are in the minority. What about your current boy-friend? Or on your next first day, are you really expecting to pay? And wouldn't you be put off if the guy didn't pick up the tab?

Shape Shifter · 07-12-2007, 01:28 PM

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Originally posted by sgtclub
You are definitely in a small minority. I think most guys would agree that they are lucky to get treated every 6 dates or so, and most of the time it's breakfast.

Translation: I get lucky one out of every six dates.

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I'm not complaining and, in fact, I like paying - all I ask is for a "reach," just so I know it's appreciated.

Translation: My idea of getting lucky is a little different, which keeps my percentage down.

ltl/fb · 07-12-2007, 01:31 PM

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Originally posted by sgtclub
Again, you are in the minority. What about your current boy-friend? Or on your next first day, are you really expecting to pay? And wouldn't you be put off if the guy didn't pick up the tab?

What an apropos question, as I believe she is going on her first date since the breakup tonight!

Your "I like paying" in the prior post is kind of at odds with the tenor of the posts leading up to it. You like the prostitution model? You don't think any woman would fuck you purely for the pleasure of it, or have dinner with you because she enjoys your company? Pity.

greatwhitenorthchick · 07-12-2007, 01:45 PM

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Originally posted by ltl/fb
What an apropos question, as I believe she is going on her first date since the breakup tonight!

Your "I like paying" in the prior post is kind of at odds with the tenor of the posts leading up to it. You like the prostitution model? You don't think any woman would fuck you purely for the pleasure of it, or have dinner with you because she enjoys your company? Pity.

I am. Yay! And fwiw, I expect what will happen is that the check will come, I will offer to pay and he will say it's not necessary. On a first date, I wouldn't make a fuss and insist on paying or splitting it down the middle. It's tricky -- on the one hand, I would hate to be thought of as cheap, and again, I make more than he does (but we're almost even), but some guys take an insistence on splitting as an indication that the date didn't go well, and I wouldn't want to send that signal.

ltl/fb · 07-12-2007, 01:48 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I am. Yay! And fwiw, I expect what will happen is that the check will come, I will offer to pay and he will say it's not necessary. On a first date, I wouldn't make a fuss and insist on paying or splitting it down the middle. It's tricky -- on the one hand, I would hate to be thought of as cheap, and again, I make more than he does (but we're almost even), but some guys take an insistence on splitting as an indication that the date didn't go well, and I wouldn't want to send that signal.

Exactly. We are as one on this.

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 07-12-2007, 01:52 PM

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Originally posted by ltl/fb
Exactly. We are as one on this.

But can you get off giving head?

Replaced_Texan · 07-12-2007, 01:54 PM

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Originally posted by ltl/fb
Exactly. We are as one on this.

2. I will note that I don't usually "date". I tend to stumble into relationships without there ever having been a first date, unless "one night stand" counts.

This could explain why I'm more often single than not.

ltl/fb · 07-12-2007, 01:54 PM

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Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
But can you get off giving head?

I limited the extent to which she and I are as one. Geez. No, I haven't ever.

ltl/fb · 07-12-2007, 01:55 PM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
2. I will note that I don't usually "date". I tend to stumble into relationships without there ever having been a first date, unless "one night stand" counts.

This could explain why I'm more often single than not.

If you end up in a relationship, then it's not a one-night stand, is it?

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 07-12-2007, 02:11 PM

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Originally posted by ltl/fb
If you end up in a relationship, then it's not a one-night stand, is it?

The original post hoc!

Greedy,Greedy,Greedy · 07-12-2007, 02:19 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I am. Yay! And fwiw, I expect what will happen is that the check will come, I will offer to pay and he will say it's not necessary. On a first date, I wouldn't make a fuss and insist on paying or splitting it down the middle. It's tricky -- on the one hand, I would hate to be thought of as cheap, and again, I make more than he does (but we're almost even), but some guys take an insistence on splitting as an indication that the date didn't go well, and I wouldn't want to send that signal.

As a little experiment for the benefit of the board, can you out-and-out insist on paying tonight?

Now, clubby, should the guy be more interested because it's no longer just a financial transaction or less interested because once it's not a financial transaction he expects less? Or should Gwink lose interest because she's not gotten her dinner paid for?

Greedy,Greedy,Greedy · 07-12-2007, 02:23 PM

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Originally posted by Tyrone Slothrop

Only today, Florida state Representative Bob Allen (R), who is co-chairman of McCain's Florida campaign, was arrested in a Titusville park restroom on charges of solicitation after he approached a plain clothes police officer and offered to perform oral sex on the officer for $20.

From the above discussion, it is now clear. He was just looking to buy dinner.

notcasesensitive · 07-12-2007, 02:42 PM

That GWB commented on the Libby thing by saying his decision to (what's the technical term here, I haven't really been following along) [commute Libby's sentence?] [pardon him?] was a "fair and balanced decision". Seriously? Can someone substantiate? That is awesome, if true.

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 07-12-2007, 02:48 PM

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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
That GWB commented on the Libby thing by saying his decision to (what's the technical term here, I haven't really been following along) [commute Libby's sentence?] [pardon him?] was a "fair and balanced decision". Seriously? Can someone substantiate? That is awesome, if true.

CNN does (scroll about half way down, to call-out on left