Fashionistas you have arrived 3-25-03 - 10-3-03

[evenodds]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
I hate receiving lines.

This is why receiving lines shouldn't consist of every person in the wedding party, but alas, the practice continues, even at weddings thrown by urban sophisticates.

I miss true receiving lines. I appreciate the ability to congratulate the bride and the groom and their parents immediately after the ceremony.

Now, picture taking between the ceremony and reception seems to have become far more important than being gracious to your guests.

[Bad_Rich_Chic]

Originally posted by bilmore
Just dropping by to say that the dollar-dance comments are truly exposing the snobs amongst us.

Last I read, this tradition exists over about 75% of the country. Only wedding I've been to in the last four years - and this counts MN (several), CA, AR, MIA, and Balt - WTF state is that in, anyway?) that didn't have one was the wedding where virtually everyone who knew the B&G considered them "too snobby by half".

It's not the dollar. It's the point in the evening where everybody gets their three minutes alone with the B or G to say congrats.

Sheesh. Give people a little money and it goes right to their egos . . .

OK, I call BS. I've never in my bloody life seen this in actual practice, and I've been to a fair selection of what can only politely be termed "white trash" weddings (in such exotic locales as, off the top of my head, MT, KS, CO, VT, VA, NC, CA, IA, NV, NY, NJ) where there was much garter snatching, electric sliding, beer-and-tequila-only bars, virginity jokes in the best man's speech, Macarena, men claiming damp and messy kisses from the bride (and bridesmaids) by "right" and all other manner of potential offense. (And that's just the examples from weddings in my family.)

I think this dollar dance wedding tradition doesn't actually exist - it's an urban (rural?) legend created to make everyone feel like their own wedding was the height of taste and restraint. A few may have it seriously and tried to reenact it, but that doesn't change my general conviction.

I've seen money trees at anniversary parties, and a money bag at a few weddings (including one Jewish, which was weird because I thought, to the extent it was a tradition, it was an Italian one), and had some Chinese guests (from China, not ethnic chinese westerners) at my reception bring cash in really pretty red envelopes. But I've never seen the money dance.

And if I can't see it it doesn't exist.

BR(Balt is in MD)C

[Bad_Rich_Chic]

Originally posted by Sidd Finch
Particularly when it comes from a board full of big city lawyers who are all anxiously waiting to see photos of each other's tits next week.

Shit, you reminded me, I need to get out the camera. Tkx.

[Bad_Rich_Chic]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
This is why receiving lines shouldn't consist of every person in the wedding party, but alas, the practice continues, even at weddings thrown by urban sophisticates.

Concur - B/G and parents (groom's parents, if they aren't hosting, are optional), and that's it. Send those gaggles of attendents off to do something useful, like move people along who are blocking the bar, or pick up strays who need someone to dance with them, or harass the caterer about why there are only 2 waiters with trays of cocktail weenies circulating in a room of 200.

[bilmore]

Originally posted by ThrashersFan
Anyone else have a dramatic life changing book in their lives?

Steal This Book.

[ThrashersFan]

Originally posted by MisterEbola
The annoying thing is how much money that you put out that you don't really think about before hand. The wedding spot and reception are obvious.

Pay the organist at the church.
Pay the minister/rabbi.
Tips for the bar folk.
Etc.

And always make sure that you address the tipping issue with the bar folks before the reception and let them know you will be providing the tip. Hopefully, this will ensure that you avoid the "why are there tip jars on the bar at my reception" conversation. WTF I say, what the fuck is with that shit? This ain't the local watering hole, this is a reception so who was the first spineless idiot to permit their bar folk to put out a tip jar and why doesn't anyone put a stop to this practice once and for all? Or is it just the receptions that I have been at where this happens?

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by leagleaze
Actually, I've never been to a wedding where this sort of thing happened. Until someone mentioned it here a while back I never knew it existed.

Maybe because most of the weddings I go to are jewish, well that or it is a committment ceremony. Has anyone been to a jewish wedding where someone did this?

You'll see it a lot at Asian weddings. Almost all of them have the dollar dance. However, the MIL usually hands out pins and you pin the money to the dress/tuxedo. The groom usually ends up with $20's and $50's and the bride gets the small bills. I guess older horny women will pay a lot for a slow dance. The trick is to see how much $ you get to take on the honeymoon. It's kind of tacky, but I've never been to a wedding thrown by asian relatives that didn't have the money dance.

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
I'm much more offended by full Catholic ceremonies than dollar dances.

And I'm Catholic.

Me too and me too. I'm going to be one of ten bridesmaids (not including the 17 kids) in one coming up in October. Just getting us all in and out of the church is going to take 15 minutes. I predict a very long wedding.

Fortunately, I come from a long line of elopers. Great grandparents (though they actually had three weddings, the elopement, the Catholic one and whatever WASP one my great grandmother's family insisted on), grandparents, parents, aunt and uncle. I'm under orders to carry on the tradition should anyone be crazy enough to want to marry me.

[SlaveNoMore]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
She was godawful fat, wasn't she.

What the fuck are you talking about? She rivals Angelina.

Did you see "Beckham", smartassmuffin? She weighed 80 pounds in "Beckham". I'm guessing she weighed a still-emaciated 100 in "Pirates"

not7yS

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by ThrashersFan
This ain't the local watering hole, this is a reception so who was the first spineless idiot to permit their bar folk to put out a tip jar and why doesn't anyone put a stop to this practice once and for all? Or is it just the receptions that I have been at where this happens?

Not to continue to bitch and moan about this, but we ended up tipping the "bartender" who tapped the kegs we bought. I should have skipped the monetary tip and "tipped" him off that having a cooler with a spigot with a masking tape label that reads "RED WINE" is simply not right.

[Bad_Rich_Chic]

Originally posted by ThrashersFan
tip jars ... Or is it just the receptions that I have been at where this happens?

No, I was at one just a couple weeks ago. I felt so sorry for the two bar guys, working like hell for 6 hours behind this 4 foot long portable bar trying to whittle down a massive line of hard drinkers all ordering 3-5 drinks apiece that never got under 35 people long, that I tipped them. Generously.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by evenodds
They are finally figuring out the French Paradox w/r/t to health and aging. They have found chemicals in red wine that seem to delay the aging process in rodents from 30-50%.

"According to the Oxford Companion to Wine, Pinot Noir tends to have high levels of the chemical, while Cabernet Sauvignon has lower levels. "Wines produced in cooler regions or areas with greater disease pressure, such as Burgundy and New York, often have more resveratrol," the book says, whereas wines from drier climates like California or Australia have less.

Besides resveratrol, another class of chemical found to mimic caloric restriction is that of the flavones, found abundantly in olive oil, Dr. Howitz said. "

http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tmp...ertainredwines

Sure, E/O. Enjoy your "red wine."

[bilmore]

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
OK, I call BS. I've never in my bloody life seen this in actual practice, and I've been to a fair selection of what can only politely be termed "white trash" weddings

A. Can anything actually be "politely termed" white trash?

B. The DD usually happens late in the reception. I have heard about you at parties, and that you don't remember dollar dances seems believable.

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[MisterEbola]

Originally posted by bilmore

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[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by bilmore
A. Can anything actually be "politely termed" white trash?

Is "white trash" more or less polite than "cracker"? Or do they have crackers in the north? What other terms are there? I would love to learn some new denigrating terms for groups of people I wish to distance myself from because those groups include relatives.