Fashionistas you have arrived 3-25-03 - 10-3-03

[c2ed]

Originally posted by mmm3587 So, am I some asshole if I only want to put stuff on the wedding registry that I (of course, I have seen how the registry process works, so I may be exxagerating the level of my involvement in the decisin-making process by tenfold) actually want, even if that means that there aren't a bunch of $30 dustmops and $60 table settings on there?

Yup.

As I'm sure BRC will say, registries are really sorta tacky. They were created so that wedding guests who wished to purchase a gift for the happy couple would have a clue as to what to purchase. Years ago, the families/community would band together to provide the silver and china, so it was as simple as Aunt Martha calling Cousin Mabel to coordinate. Much more complicated now, so the industrious stores oh-so-nicely said "let us take care of that for you."

These days, most people only will buy a gift on the registry and not take more time to hunt for a present. So the convention is that you're limited to the couple's choices. To put together a list of items that can cost a good chunk of some people's rent (depending on where you live) and monthly take home is just not nice. You may be comfortable tossing $120 on a gift for a close friend, but that hardly means that all of your and your bride's family would be.

It takes little pain to add some fancy spatulas or little kitchen trinkets to a registry.

C(then you can return all of the trinkets en masse and get something big... a pain? perhaps... that's life)deuced

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by mmm3587
That's why I asked the question: what's the right dollar amount? So, of course I'm an asshole for putting nothing under $200 on the registry. What about nothing under $75? Am I obligated to have a nice even spread of things? If I want a lot of some, say $30 item (nice glassware or something), can I just put 30 of those on there?

Can you really return everything for full value in most situations? That is sweet.

There will be quite a few things you can put on there for under $50. Yes, there may be people in your life who do not want to spend over $50. Distant relatives do not want to spend a lot, especially if they don't like you or don't know you well. It's nice to have a selection to choose from. Try napkins that match your placemats, or casual glasses. You can never have too many glasses. Put as much small, light stuff on there that you can. It makes the trip back to the department store easier - you won't need a forklift.

[Anne Elk]

Originally posted by LessinSF
Didn't watch, but the E! True Hollywood Story on The Real World had some interesting tidbits about Bunim and Murray's manipulation of the show and staging. Otherwise, it wasn't that good because they had no show footage or interviews with any production staff - it was cast members and TV "critics" only.

Only caught a bit of this, but it was interesting. Especially the comments about Pedro and how Dan of the Miami show said they learned to 'fight fast' before the camera crews could catch up with them. If that's true, they did an awful lot of fighting. That's all I remember about the Miami show, everybody yelling at each other or bitching behind someone's back.

Puck is still an ass.

[mmm3587]

Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
figure out what you want to spend. buy one of an item costing that much. leave the cheaper stuff for people who are, well, cheaper (or just less wealthy)

So, I guess my answer is, so long as you get a keg at your wedding it's okay to tell your fiancee to register only for the silver.

The most recent wedding had nothing on the registry for more than $50 by the time I got to it. I got two sets of tableware at $50 each and felt weird about it.

While I am sure that I will lose most wedding-related arguments to any fiancee of mine (that's what I get for wanting the opinionated ones), I have already decided that my wedding will have a premium pilsener, a good, hoppy ale and a dunkeles hefeweizen, all on tap. And maybe something on cask, too.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by Sidd Finch
Head is always good.

At last, an intelligent thought expressed on an otherwise completely vapid day.

[bilmore]

Originally posted by c2ed
It takes little pain to add some fancy spatulas or little kitchen trinkets to a registry.

The problem some of my more acquisitive friends have pointed out is that, upon seeing the spatulas and sporks listed, the truly well-to-do jump on them and figure they have done your bidding.

I think one needs to make several registry lists, (a cheap one, a middling one, and an extravagant one) and distribute them by estimated disposable-income rankings. You don't want to waste the spork entry on your friend from law school who started Microsoft.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
Edited to say, what's the geo area where honky is used

I've only heard it used on The Jeffersons. All other times, it's been friends using it on other friends in a joking, it sounds so ridiculous it's funny, manner. I think it's amusing that all the slurs against whites sound so funny. "Honky?" "Cracker?" "Whitey?" Come on. Cracka, please. Although, I will concede that coming from someone with real hate on their minds, they sound almost as bad as "nigger."

TM

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by mmm3587
I have already decided that my wedding will have a premium pilsener, a good, hoppy ale and a dunkeles hefeweizen, all on tap. And maybe something on cask, too.

Hooray! Down with bottled beer!

Plus, there's always a chance of a random keg stand!

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally posted by mmm3587
The most recent wedding had nothing on the registry for more than $50 by the time I got to it. I got two sets of tableware at $50 each and felt weird about it.

nothing left to do at that point than Quantity: 2

Be glad they wanted it. you could spend $100 on some platter that they'd say immediately "we already have a lot of platters."

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
I've only heard it used on The Jeffersons. All other times, it's been friends using it on other friends in a joking, it sounds so ridiculous it's funny, manner. I think it's amusing that all the slurs against whites sound so funny. "Honky?" "Cracker?" "Whitey?" Come on. Cracka, please. Although, I will concede that coming from someone with real hate on their minds, they sound almost as bad as "nigger."

TM

Pretty much any word sounds bad if obviously used in a real hating way. It is coming back to me that I have heard "honky" used for real.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by leagleaze
Indecisive shlemiel.

Hey, leave the schmuck alone. Didn't you see him say he was hurt?

I'm sorry Flower. Have another cookie.

[LessinSF]

Originally posted by mmm3587
Also, what's the best BB4 synopsis, or can someone tell me what happened on Saturday.

http://www.realitynewsonline.com/cgi...542.art&page=1
(No spoilers - only a recap of what aired).

[Sidd Finch]

Originally posted by c2ed
It takes little pain to add some fancy spatulas or little kitchen trinkets to a registry.

True indeed. And if you don't, Lord only knows what you'll end up with -- shitty gifts from pissed-off friends.

Apropos of nothing, my (least) favorite wedding gift was from a ridiculously wealthy in-law (not my wife's family), who chose to flaunt her wealth by buying us something from Needless Markup (where we assuredly did not register). Because it was the world's ugliest serving utensil thingy, we returned it. And discovered that she had spent a whopping twenty bucks.

You have any idea how hard it is to spend only twenty bucks at Neiman Marcus? I'm guessing she called her personal shopper and asked for the cheapest item in the store.

[Anne Elk]

Originally posted by mmm3587
While I am sure that I will lose most wedding-related arguments to any fiancee of mine (that's what I get for wanting the opinionated ones), I have already decided that my wedding will have a premium pilsener, a good, hoppy ale and a dunkeles hefeweizen, all on tap. And maybe something on cask, too.

Can I come? I promise my gift value would at least equal what I would spend for a nice meal and several glasses of finely crafted brews.

Anne
Mmmmm, beer.:beer:

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
The real difference post law school is that if you throw a party, buying a keg is too much. Every party I've had since then I've ended up with massive surpluses of beer afterwards. Most people bring a six pack. Some folks even bring two. Few, if any of them, drink that much themselves. So now it's like sourdough starter . . . I just chill a couple of the left over beers from the last party and wait for the party to come to me.

Yeah, I know, get heavier-drinking friends.

My brother has a policy of throwing a party every time his alcohol stock runs low. He highly recommends that people bring whatever it is that they want to drink. He always ends the party with much more alcohol in his cupboard than he started.