Fashionistas you have arrived 3-25-03 - 10-3-03

[sgtclub]

Originally posted by Shape Shifter
What can I say? I like asparagus.

sick, but funny

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by purse junkie
My current bags of choice are at www.elainearsenault.com. And thank God it's finally the season to retire those hideous pastelly LV bags and their cheap vinyl spawn!

MMmmm. Not hotdoggy enough. In fact I didn't really think I wanted that Gucci one until I found out that it's sold out practically everywhere. Chanel and Prada had similar styles (hotdog shaped). I guess I'll have to keep looking.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
We've been down this road so many times on this board I'm actually shocked that someone owned up to having this attitude (that life is incomplete without children). But I am with you. It makes me very annoyed and I like your answers. I don't suppose GGG has ever heard of the word miscarriage.

Just because people bitch about hearing it over and over again doesn't change how he looks at it. But, for the record, I'm sick of this conversation too. It's an exaggeration to say that your life is incomplete without kids. If there was a way to say "it's a different kind of completeness with kids," that everyone could understand (especially those who don't have kids), we wouldn't have these arguments. But the ncs or nfh or whatever (I can't tell those two apart) overreaction is just plain stupid. Unless your insides are a rocky place where your man's seed can find no purchase, comments like TripleGreed's, are not particularly harmful.

TM

[Bad_Rich_Chic]

Originally posted by dtb
Add to that my mother-in-law's wholehearted approval of my approach (additional fact -- her husband is an OB-GYN), I figured I wasn't too far afield with my concern.

The Mr. and I have a bargain: if and when we have kids, he not only doesn't look but stays in the waiting room with cigars like a civilized person. After I'm finished and have myself attractively rearranged, he may bring me Clos de Tart, oysters and camembert (more jewelry?), in exchange for which he gets to retain his fantasy of me as a somewhat attractive and dignified human.

BR(Some of life's mysteries should remain that way. What those are is a matter of personal taste)C

[Atticus Grinch]

Now that BBC America is equally guilty of producing a crappy American knockoff that crams 30 minutes' worth of show into 60 minutes (see "Ground Force America" --- come back, Alan Titschmarsh!), I'm thoroughly depressed at the thought of what American producers will do to "Coupling" and everything else in the BBC lineup.

What's next? A 60-minute knockoff of the execrable "Are You Being Served?" "Monarch of the Glen" re-set in a Mississippi plantation?

[Not Bob]

Originally posted by dtb
It [the brush with fame] wasn't a party -- in fact it was on a playground in [apparently gentile-ridden] Scarsdale ... So, it's not as glamorous as it may have first appeared, don't worry. (I hope this makes you feel better, N_B.)

As if. Now I can add Westchester envy to the list -- after all, it's just a train ride from TCOTU. Thanks a bunch.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by Atticus Grinch
I'm thoroughly depressed at the thought of what American producers will do to "Coupling" and everything else in the BBC lineup.

Since Coupling is a British knockoff of Friends, and is as poorly acted, contrived, and unfunny, being thorougly depressed seems a bit extreme.

Just as fat looks better tan, pap sounds better with a British accent.

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by NotFromHere
MMmmm. Not hotdoggy enough. In fact I didn't really think I wanted that Gucci one until I found out that it's sold out practically everywhere. Chanel and Prada had similar styles (hotdog shaped). I guess I'll have to keep looking.

I hate those hotdog shaped purses. But then I also hate super pointy shoes/boots. Turns out that I am just not cutting-edge stylish. Saves me bunches of money not having to purchase new purses every season though. Money I promptly spend on trips and such.

[Fugee]

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
II have at least three pieces of jewelry that give me greater on a regular basis than pleasure than any visit with any member of my family (Mr. excluded) has in 5-10 years.
....
But much of my pleasure from "things" is, granted, usually by association. I have a pair of earrings the Mr. gave me for our wedding, which are far too elaborate (and diamondy, Fugee) to wear much, so I get almost no practical utility from them, and every time I pull them out I feel swells of happiness I never predicted when he gave them to me. I have a pair of earrings that I bargained down to about 10% of their appraisal price and, even every time I see them I want to dance a capering dance.

I have got to get to NYC and check out your jewelry box. And then take you with me when jewelry shopping. 10% of appraisal price? Daaaaammmn that's good.

Nearly all of my jewelry purchases give me pleasure years later. Wearing them confirms the wisdom of spending the money to purchase them. And I bought several pieces to commemorate "life moments" so that helps too. But I'm very sentimental about family so I wouldn't put the pleasure in that category.

Maybe it's that I'm a cheap as hell, so every time I spend money to acquire something I really think pretty hard and make effort to get over my gut sense of "gimme!"

I think this is the key to the pleasure you get from things you've purchased. I suspect that a lot of people who buy things and then are disappointed in the pleasure they get from them just go with the urgency of the initial "I want it" feeling and don't think hard about it. I know that is the case with me -- rash purchases more often disappoint than ones I plan for and carefully consider.

But modern technology has an answer for a lot of buyer's regret -- eBay! You may take a hit on the price but the item won't be sitting in your house making you feel bad. I'm fixing to list several pieces of collectibles/tschotkes that I either purchased in haste and decided later weren't what I wanted or really enjoyed at the time but have acquired things I like better and need to pare down my possessions. With any luck, I could break even on some things and make money on others.

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
But the ncs or nfh or whatever (I can't tell those two apart) overreaction is just plain stupid. Unless your insides are a rocky place where your man's seed can find no purchase, comments like TripleGreed's, are not particularly harmful.

If you had any idea how many times I have heard it, you would understand the reaction. I especially enjoy getting that from wives of clients at work functions. Well, that and my freaking sister. I, for once, agree with TF. I don't tell you how much better my life is than yours, please extend the same courtesy my way. And the truth is there are a lot of people out there who are not cut out to be parents (unfortunately many of them do it anyway). Forcing some societal view that your life is incomplete without them on these people is not any good for them or for their prospective spawn.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
Just as fat looks better tan

I was just thinking about this this morning -- that fat looks better tan, but in general, large people cover more of their bodies with clothes.* If the body is all covered up, it can't get tan.** An exacerbating factor is that the paler and more fish-belly-like your fat is, the more you want to cover it up.

Quite the conundrum.

*I do not need to hear about the latest trip to Kmart and how everyone saw a large person in a miniskirt and midriff-baring shirt. Everyone on here bitches that people who are too large to wear such thing shouldn't wear them, so for the sake of argument we are only considering larger people who abide by that rule.

**No, I don't want to hear about self-tanner either. Using self-tanner is a pain in the ass even if you aren't large, and it would seem much harder to get to body parts if they were larger.

Edited to put in slightly more colorful language.

[Bad_Rich_Chic]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Unless your insides are a rocky place where your man's seed can find no purchase,

comments like TripleGreed's, are not particularly harmful.

Maybe not, but they are still offensive, and people who aren't personally hurt should still, on public decency grounds, try to deter the person from ever doing it again before they get to the person it will hurt.

BR(the question "do you have kids" is of course not offensive, but just about any follow up other than "How many? How old? Names? Has your's started asking for the [insert new toy] yet?" asked in the search for an actual conversation topic is offensive)C

[bilmore]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Unless your insides are a rocky place where your man's seed can find no purchase, comments like TripleGreed's, are not particularly harmful.

But they are when they are. That's the point.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by str8outavannuys
The term "Paigow" is synonymous with "Really Shitty." If you've got no ace, no pair, no straight, no flush, you've got paigow. Everyone always roots for the dealer to have paigow, so the whole table wins.

Too...many...jokes. Can't...compute.



(I was going to go for a fiery [why is that word not spelled "firey"?] explosion, but I thought the extra caffeine in this explosion fit better.)

TM

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by Sidd Finch
Sure, I got comments.

This bitch who wrote to Miss Manners has to be the most uptight, self-centered cunt on the face of the planet. For Christ's sake, can you imagine how difficult it would be to give up your child for adoption? To carry the child to term when you're unmarried, to have the baby, to commit to keep it, to have a baby shower .... and then to confront the reality that you simply cannot manage, and need to give your child to someone else?

So the niece's first thought was not "gee, I just have to send a follow-up card to my distant relatives to say "thanks for the gift, but I've given the kid up. You want the gift back?"" Big fucking deal. Is it so difficult to imagine that maybe she doesn't want to keep raking herself over the coals, and reliving the fact that she had to give away her baby?

That the aunt even thought of that -- instead of having some sympathy or thinking that her niece's problems might just be sufficiently dire to excuse a breach of etiquette -- is repugnant.

See, now this is why Sidd is so cool.