Fashionistas you have arrived 3-25-03 - 10-3-03

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by bilmore
Naw, Leonard C had his own presence that grabbed a lot of people that way. Not a looks thing at all - but something.

If someone said to me what Leonard C puts in his songs, I'd probably jump him immediately.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Um, I was agreeing with you.

My bad.

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
And the point is I wasn't. Just trying to figure out if he was using it as shorthand while typing or if he really says it multiple times a day like that. Because when overused it is stupid and irritating.

I'm sure you have an engraved apology headed my way

Yeah, yeah. The tone of your original post suggests otherwise. But whatever, if you were getting worked up over the number of times he uses the term, then I am sorry. Not that sorry, but I'm childish like that.

TM

[bilmore]

Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
If someone said to me what Leonard C puts in his songs, I'd probably jump him immediately.

And your phone number is. . . .?

[purse junkie]

Originally posted by bilmore
See, that's why I said call, but don't bring it up. My experience is that someone in his situation can sometimes withdraw a little too much. Short, casual conversation about anything other than what's happened can at least draw him out a bit, and keep him grounded and connected, plus you can guage whether or not you need to worry about him, without touching on a bad topic.

You are definitely right about letting the mourner guide the content of the conversation and using it to get a sense of how the person is. But it's really the 10,000 pound elephant in the room problem--if he doesn't know if you've heard yet, the call might stress him out.

Agree with b'n'b that having people come by/take care of things is just a grace. It can feel awfully weird at first just going to the market to pick up lunch like it was an ordinary day.

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by Austintatious
Thanks for all the advice, y'all.

Hey, Even, does The Odd Man know about your Jason Taylor obsession?

I heard a rumor that the Odd Man is Jason Taylor. Kind of rude of E/O to flaunt him like that in front of all of us.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by purse junkie
Send a card if you're sure it's true. You don't know the family situation, and it sounds like they may not want to be put on the spot talking about it--out of shock or grief or if there's some other weirdness going on--but they'll expect word to get around and will appreciate your kindness. When he's ready to talk, you'll know--he will just do it.

Don't call him, call his best friend, secretary, or other person who is likely to really know what his wishes are. I have usually found that grieving folks are best off relying on their close friends to do things like make sure people who they need to or want to know do indeed know, and that different people have different ways of wanting the death and life to be acknowledged or not acknowledged. Once you find you who is in the know, find out how they want the person to be acknowledged and respect their wishes. This information may also be in his hometown paper, which may be on line. Flowers, contributions, etc. are often quite appreciated; for others, there really is nothing like a funeral service attended by hundreds or thousands. Indeed, I know some people who took note of who made the wake or funeral or sat shiva and who didn't, and will remember it for years to come, just because it was a very important moment for them.

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by leagleaze
If there is one thing cool about hurricanes, it is all the photo ops.



http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tmp...tml&e=16&ncid=

Just 2 questions:

1) Why all the kayaks? I thought canoes were the boat du jour during floods?

2) Do those people know that they're sloshing around in sewage?

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by purse junkie


Agree with b'n'b that having people come by/take care of things is just a grace. It can feel awfully weird at first just going to the market to pick up lunch like it was an ordinary day.

And that's the point really, isn't it? It isn't an ordinary day... and in fact nothing will seem ordinary for a long time.

It seemed like a tribute that people cared enough about her to share their thoughts with me. Someone who had known her for only 4 years (which was how long she battled cancer) said to me "She was such a special person...four years just wasn't enough"...and all I could do was agree...no amount of years would have been enough. But to know that I wasn't alone in missing her helped...

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
If someone said to me what Leonard C puts in his songs, I'd probably jump him immediately.

Hmmmm . . .

I remember you well in the Chelsea Hotel
you were famous, your heart was a legend.
You told me again you preferred handsome men
but for me you would make an exception.
And clenching your fist for the ones like us
who are oppressed by the figures of beauty,
you fixed yourself, you said, "Well never mind,
we are ugly but we have the music."

http://www.serve.com/cpage/LCohen/lyrics/NewSkin.html

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall

Yeah, yeah. The tone of your original post suggests otherwise. But whatever, if you were getting worked up over the number of times he uses the term, then I am sorry. Not that sorry, but I'm childish like that.

TM

Well in that case, I'll admit that I agree with your sentiment about women sometimes (often?) enjoying the "god, you make me want to fuck you really hard" mentality.

That's as far as I can go with this, because anything more and I'll ruin fringey's Friday with niceness.

[Say_hello_for_me]

Originally posted by purse junkie
Seconded. I wouldn't call at all at first--you're just bone-deep exhausted but you feel compelled by people's kindness not to brush them off even if you need to for yourself.

But don't worry about how he will judge your response or lack of it. He knows you're there.

Thirded conditionally. I started to post reasons why I would call and ask bluntly, i.e., did something happened, and is there anything I can do to help you through this... but its been a few days, and anything that had to be done on a practical level should have been done already.

On another note, just some general advice that might help somebody through an extended period of horror in these situations. I your dad is a business-type and he handles all of the business at home (incl... check writing and all financial transactions), well, that's not always a great idea.

Specifically, if mom has to figure out from where it comes, and where it goes, all at once after dad goes to the great vacation in the sky, well mom might find that a bit much to learn.

And a bit stressful if she is under the impression that more comes in than actually does. Think stroke-inducing stressful.

From one who has been there.

Hello

[leagleaze]

Originally posted by NotFromHere
Just 2 questions:

1) Why all the kayaks? I thought canoes were the boat du jour during floods?

2) Do those people know that they're sloshing around in sewage?

1. More people seem to have kayaks these days, but here's a canoe.






2. It isn't sewage, unless the river or other body of water is sewage.

[purse junkie]

I know menswear is strong for women this year, but does that include the Alfalfa look?

Tallish skinny woman, short hair, shrunken pinstripe suit and oxford shirt, thick black oxfords with white socks. I was waiting for her to start belting out "The Barber of Seville."

And does this mean the boys are going to be dressing up like Darla? B/c I can't quite see our G.C. in butt-length crinolines.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by leagleaze

Wait a second. That guy is black. No WAY EO digs him.

TM

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by leagleaze
You are welcome.

Since I'm taking requests, any one else?

Well since Brittney does nothing for me, how about Shemar Moore? Shirtless, of course.