Fashion Board 12-09-03 through 1-08-04

[Colymbosathon ecplecticos]

Who needs social lubrication when you've got crackne?

[dtb]

Originally posted by evenodds
As a woman, I was less comfortable flirting when I was actually available. The less available, the easier it is.

Ain't that the truth.

I was just thinking of this very topic yesterday when a group of us (natch, I was the only one without a y-chromosome) took two lawyers from foreign offices (London & Tokyo -- although the guy from Tokyo is American) out to lunch. The dude from London is this strapping, and very handsome former professional rugby player who just oozes charm. He practically made a bee-line for me to lay his rap on me, which led me to two conclusions:

(1) Handsome dudes flirt just as much as dudettes -- presumably because it gets them what they want; and

(2) Were I available, I would have been a lot more flustered to have this h-h-h-h-hot guy flirting with me. As it was, I was just amused/flattered instead of nervous.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by kafka_esquire
Hey slave! I seem to have dropped out of sight (and, perhaps out of site). Glad to still see some known posters who I can confirm are not Penske's 30+ socks.

Gittyup, just kidding about the book. Keep it as long as you need it. Call me when/if you visit the area.


Funny seasonal story (well, at least to me). Kafka-tot (3 years old) met Santa the other day, and within minutes of leaving the mall, our talk went like this:

She: "Daddy, I sat on Santa's lap."
Me: "Yes, sweetie, I was there. Remember?"
She: "Yes Daddy [slight pause]. So when do I get my presents?"

K(Tis the season)E

That kind of reminds me of a similar story about Mrs. Wonk and the first blow job she gave me....

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by evenodds
How often do you flirt on the job to get what you want?

I flirt on the job about as often as I flirt on this board.

I seem to get what I want often enough; how often it is directly connected to flirting is anyone's guess. I can tell when I'm getting something by being a pain in the ass; when you get something by being nice (and lovable), you never know when they would have given it to you anyways.

Saddest thing, of course, is when you flirt and no one notices. Being subtle is a heavy burden.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by Not Bob
... She loved hearing me croon "when I was seventeen, it was a verrrry good year."

You get nu-THING! nuTHING!

[andViolins]

Not to interrupt the backne, crackne flirting thing (would you still flirt with someone to get what you want if you knew that they were suffering from crackne?), but I was wondering what, if anyone, thought of the design for the WTC site that is showing up in the news today.



aV

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by evenodds
How often do you flirt on the job to get what you want?

Only on very rare occasions. It tends to make the guys nervous.

Tax(diversity is not big in our department)wonk

[purse junkie]

Originally posted by andViolins
Not to interrupt the backne, crackne flirting thing (would you still flirt with someone to get what you want if you knew that they were suffering from crackne?), but I was wondering what, if anyone, thought of the design for the WTC site that is showing up in the news today.



aV

The spire just looks like a fingernail pointlessly jutting up. Locationwise, it doesn't fit the rest of the building.

I do like that it's 1776 feet tall. But the "Freedom Tower" is an annoying name--sounds like one of those idiotic Bush soundbite platitudes.

[Colymbosathon ecplecticos]

That kind of reminds me of a similar story about Mrs. Wonk and the first blow job she gave me....

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by evenodds
How often do you flirt on the job to get what you want?

Daily. Strike that -- Constantly. Don't we all, depending on your definition of flirting?

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
Daily. Strike that -- Constantly. Don't we all, depending on your definition of flirting?

I never thought I flirted much because I wasn't much good at it until a bunch of us were actually discussing this recently and someone told me that I flirt all the time, apparently even with the secretaries. Her definition of flirting was more like my definition of being sweet, which I am good at. But I always thought flirting was more aggressive, which I am not generally as good at unless I have a few drinks in me or am just feeling particularly bold.

So what is the definition of flirting? And I agree with whomever said it is easier when you're not available.

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by andViolins
I was wondering what, if anyone, thought of the design for the WTC site that is showing up in the news today.



aV

It looks sort of small scale and cheap. Like it's made out of cardboard and plastic or something.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
Daily. Strike that -- Constantly. Don't we all, depending on your definition of flirting?

Does barely containing one's revulsion/contempt/pity count as flirting?

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by evenodds
Sad? It's just part of the necessary social lubrication to get things done.

As a woman, I was less comfortable flirting when I was actually available. The less available, the easier it is.

Shit, you can't get anything done unless you flirt. I think flirting is just being friendly, but with sexual undercurrents. My favorite flirtation is cute judge's clerks and middle aged but very well maintained female partners. But you have to be genuine in the flirtation and not creepy. If done right, everybody gets a little kick out of the little bit of sexual electricity involved and feels good about halping each other out.

And yes, you are much better at flirting when you're involved, because its absolutely harmless and everyone knows there's no real risk of anything serious happening. Its like being at the driving range. You're just making sure you both still have your swings.

All that said, you can only flirt with someone who seems receptive at the outset. Trying to charm the frigid federal judge's clerk who was phi beta kappa, editor of law review editor and head of the sexism in law journal and stares at you with contempt during your first meeting will never work. Some people have no personality and simply can't be flirted with and will fuck you over very hard if they even think you're trying to charm them. Luckily, these are the people you'll never meet socially...

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by evenodds
How often do you flirt on the job to get what you want?

I'm nice to a fault to a hell of a lot of people, but I don't generally flirt with co-workers or anyone else that I work with.