General discussion - Mom and Dad Esq.

What does he think about changing schools and or grades? I think transitions are usually less traumatic the younger they are, especially if they feel that they helped make the decision.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by TexLex
What does he think about changing schools and or grades? I think transitions are usually less traumatic the younger they are, especially if they feel that they helped make the decision.

2. He's going to get a lot of shit if you hold him back -- might you want to consider having him tutored over the summer or something so that doesn't have to happen? Or, have that be a part of the decision he helps with.

I'm just saying. I got endless shit from my new "friends" because I skipped a grade when we moved when I was 8, and going backwards can't possibly be better.

[pony_trekker]

Originally posted by TexLex
What does he think about changing schools and or grades? I think transitions are usually less traumatic the younger they are, especially if they feel that they helped make the decision.

At this point he is fine with changing schools.

I wouldn't hold him back if not for the movement to a new school. My understanding is that it's a common practice with private schools and I have indicated this to him.

[pony_trekker]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
2. He's going to get a lot of shit if you hold him back -- might you want to consider having him tutored over the summer or something so that doesn't have to happen? Or, have that be a part of the decision he helps with.

I'm just saying. I got endless shit from my new "friends" because I skipped a grade when we moved when I was 8, and going backwards can't possibly be better.

It's a maturity issue and not something brought about by intellectual issues. The school has actually reccomended against tutoring because they think with his "manipulative personality" he would find a way to have the tutor do the work for him.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by pony_trekker
It's a maturity issue and not something brought about by intellectual issues. The school has actually reccomended against tutoring because they think with his "manipulative personality" he would find a way to have the tutor do the work for him.

I think your kid is me. Hi dad!

I recommend a very, very late-term abortion.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
I think your kid is me. Hi dad!

I recommend a very, very late-term abortion.

go sell crazy somewhere else.

[mommylawyer]

Originally posted by pony_trekker
Bright ...

Also good (but not superstar) athlete who basically competes in any sports he tries but doesn't have enough initiative to truly excell. Would like athletics program to be a part of the mix.

Any thoughts on when to make the transition? Any other suggestions?

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This could go either way.. I went to prep school with some kids like this who totally washed out because they ultimately had too much freedom to do nothing...but also with a few kids who flourished. I think it depends on the school and the level of advising involvement. The kids who did well were the kids who were involved with competitive sports and other activities, mainly because the faculty who were assigned to be their advisers were often coaches etc as well and kept a closer eye on the kids...the other kids more often did intramurals (some sport activity was required) and were simply less involved.
also, check out the teaching style/course development. at my school - the middle schoolers (6-8th grades) were separated from the main campus, although we all had our classes on the hill. Also our classes were really small and basically required participation so the teachers HAD to keep it interesting... good luck...i bet i'll be looking for these posts in about 6 years!

[Gattigap]

Originally posted by mommylawyer
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This could go either way.. I went to prep school with some kids like this who totally washed out because they ultimately had too much freedom to do nothing...but also with a few kids who flourished. I think it depends on the school and the level of advising involvement. The kids who did well were the kids who were involved with competitive sports and other activities, mainly because the faculty who were assigned to be their advisers were often coaches etc as well and kept a closer eye on the kids...the other kids more often did intramurals (some sport activity was required) and were simply less involved.
also, check out the teaching style/course development. at my school - the middle schoolers (6-8th grades) were separated from the main campus, although we all had our classes on the hill. Also our classes were really small and basically required participation so the teachers HAD to keep it interesting... good luck...i bet i'll be looking for these posts in about 6 years!

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[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by Oliver_Wendell_Ramone
No, on the FB, you whip out your vagina.

But only unsolicited and only after ten p.m.

Wait - what the fuck am I doing on the parents' board?

[Wank McBumsky]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
But only unsolicited and only after ten p.m.

Wait - what the fuck am I doing on the parents' board?

Fringey has least helpful as a bookend to my most helpful credemtials. Is there a niche you can fill in between? Remember this is a specialty board, so on topics counts.

[SEC_Chick]

With the impending conclusion of my maternity leave, I am preparing myself to put the Chicklet in daycare 3.5-4 days per week. I have the utmost confidence in the facility, it is only about 6-8 blocks or so from work, and I am certain that she will be fine. I, however, am already a wreck every time I think about it. Does anyone who has been through this have any advice about how to deal practically and emotionally?

I am still BFing, and have worked out that I will have to pump 3x per day to get enough for the next day. Mothers frequently come to the facility to BF at lunch and I haven't yet decided how often I am going to avail myself of that.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by SEC_Chick
With the impending conclusion of my maternity leave, I am preparing myself to put the Chicklet in daycare 3.5-4 days per week. I have the utmost confidence in the facility, it is only about 6-8 blocks or so from work, and I am certain that she will be fine. I, however, am already a wreck every time I think about it. Does anyone who has been through this have any advice about how to deal practically and emotionally?

I am still BFing, and have worked out that I will have to pump 3x per day to get enough for the next day. Mothers frequently come to the facility to BF at lunch and I haven't yet decided how often I am going to avail myself of that.

Emotionally, the anticipation is worse than the reality. You will not be a wreck when you actually do it. You may get verklempt or even cry, but you'll be surprised how quickly you adjust to being at work/not being at home.* You will also be comforted when you see the baby bond with her primary caregiver at the facility. It's hard to imagine now, but assuming the caregivers are loving, the baby will actually enjoy being cared for by others (this is not to suggest she will prefer it to being with you all day, just that it will be an enjoyable experience for her). She will probably find day care more enjoyable than you find work.

Practically, the reality may be worse than the anticipation. It's hard getting out the door in the morning and you will always feel very pressed for time. It all sounds obvious, but do what you can to have things pre-arranged -- stuff to take to day care, notes for the day care providers, what she's going to wear, what you're going to wear, your personal bag, etc. Also, think in advance about what you'll have for dinner each night your first week back.

I hate pumping and it's way too much work to pump enough in one day to provide completely for the next, so I try to BF during the day twice and send a bottle or two to cover the gap. My center is much closer than yours, so the only problem with this is timing -- sometimes she's sleeping when I go, or I turn up just before she might have been ready for a nap and she gets all charged up again just seeing me. So, visiting is better for my production and her nutrition, but it can be a bit disruptive to her schedule. I hate messing with her naps because it's hard enough for her to sleep there with all the activity, and the better she naps, the better she sleeps at night.

And of course, this is also obvious, but don't worry about planning out any routine. Once you feel your way to something that works and know it well enough to write it down, you'll adjust it anyway.

*This "adjustment" makes me think of that allegory about the frog swimming in the water that keeps getting warmer until it's boiling and he doesn't realize it before he becomes soup.

[lactation lover]

Originally posted by SEC_Chick
. Mothers frequently come to the facility to BF at lunch and I haven't yet decided how often I am going to avail myself of that.

Let's do lunch! My schedule is wide open!!!

[lactation lover]

Originally posted by robustpuppy


I hate pumping and it's way too much work to pump enough in one day to provide completely for the next, so I try to BF during the day twice and send a bottle or two to cover the gap. My center is much closer than yours, so the only problem with this is timing -- sometimes she's sleeping when I go, or I turn up just before she might have been ready for a nap and she gets all charged up again just seeing me. So, visiting is better for my production and her nutrition, but it can be a bit disruptive to her schedule. I hate messing with her naps because it's hard enough for her to sleep there with all the activity, and the better she naps, the better she sleeps at night.

Who can sleep at a moment like that!?!?!?!

Originally posted by SEC_Chick
I am still BFing, and have worked out that I will have to pump 3x per day to get enough for the next day. Mothers frequently come to the facility to BF at lunch and I haven't yet decided how often I am going to avail myself of that.

I have never had to do this, per se, but I did have to pump full-time with the Lexling. Once you get better at pumping, you may only need to pump twice during the workday (possibly even only once) to get enough for her, or one pump and an afternoon feeding or so. Basically, it may take awhile, but your boobs will get better adjusted to the pump and your production will probably increase. At one point with the Lexling I was only pumping twice a day total to get over 30oz, but it took a while to get there. Moo. I'm sure you will do fine, assuming no one at your work is an asshole about letting you pump when you need to, etc.