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Shape Shifter · 08-24-2006, 02:07 PM

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Originally posted by soup sandwich
Defensive about what issue? That women who stay at home to take care of kids are slaves?

fwiw, we never had kids together.

Sidd Finch · 08-24-2006, 02:08 PM

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Originally posted by robustpuppy
I think it's funny that it's the dads here who are getting defensive about this issue.

Right. Why aren't the stay-at-home moms monitoring this board?

But you're right -- I can't imagine why I would be defensive (if that's what my comment was) about the notion that my wife is a "slave."

patentparanyc · 08-24-2006, 02:09 PM

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Originally posted by J. Fred Muggs
In an effort to make PPNYC a useful contributor to the board, I am going to use this post as a jumping off point for a discussion that may prove to be interesting.

Ignoring the stupidity and bad grammar rampant in this post, does anyone think that "being a member of the bar" is something that requires us to somehow show kind of special compassion and dignity in our ordinary life? I can see that if you're in court you should act like a grownup, but outside of when I'm actually at work and working on work stuff, the fact that I'm a member of the bar doesn't impact my behavior. In fact, if I stopped practicing law (hi ltl/fb!!) I don't think that I would be able to display any less dignity in my personal life than I do now.

No, certain members of the board like to continually point it out that I am a paralegal...but yet I am held to some higher standard than others that I have to be tolerant and rise above and not take bait when it is evident that Ok you're some "BIGLAW atty" that you are supposed to be somewhat mature.

That being said a lot of members of the bar have a seriously flawed personal life.

patentparanyc · 08-24-2006, 02:10 PM

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Originally posted by Penske_Account
I petition for that type of servitude every day, but apparently a prereq is unlocking these fucking gold-plated handcuffs I am wearing.

I gave my husband his. He's happy to do it. Loves it. The kids are doing awesome.

Penske_Account · 08-24-2006, 02:10 PM

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Originally posted by robustpuppy
I think it's funny that it's the dads here who are getting defensive about this issue.

Maybe this is a "grass is greener" view, but generally, assuming no change in lifestyle, I'd like to be a househusband. I say it all the time irl-except around my boss. If raising kids is slavery and my job is freedom, give me the fucking chains. Now.

Sidd Finch · 08-24-2006, 02:10 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I know -- I was crazy to pass up the chance. But I have never claimed to be 100% normal or sane. On a good day I'm probably just barely at 50%. But there you have it.

Hey -- I have no opinion on whether you made a good or bad decision. Among other things, I never met your ex and I don't know you well enough to have any such opinion. (And I don't know you nearly well enough to voice an opinion on this subject if I had one.)

Besides, Mrs. Finch had the chance with ME. Way different situation.

soup sandwich · 08-24-2006, 02:11 PM

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Originally posted by robustpuppy
Should I have said "theory" or "opinion" rather than "issue"?

Issue, theory, opinion are all fine terms to use as far as I'm concerned. My point was if someone calls your spouse a slave, and the spouse isn't there to defend themself, isn't it sort of your duty as a husband or wife to refute the assertion?

Sidd Finch · 08-24-2006, 02:13 PM

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Originally posted by soup sandwich
Issue, theory, opinion are all fine terms to use as far as I'm concerned. My point was if someone calls your spouse a slave, and the spouse isn't there to defend themself, isn't it sort of your duty as a husband or wife to refute the assertion?

Duty, schmuty. It's just a more interesting topic than whether short chubby Asian chicks with nice hair and floppy tits are hot.

robustpuppy · 08-24-2006, 02:14 PM

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Originally posted by Sidd Finch
Right. Why aren't the stay-at-home moms monitoring this board?

But you're right -- I can't imagine why I would be defensive (if that's what my comment was) about the notion that my wife is a "slave."

Because I don't understand why people feel the need to take one person's position about how she would feel in that situation as an indictment of one's own lifestyle. Gwnc doesn't want kids. You and your wife -- and my husband and I -- obviously do. So we already have fundamental differences.

I'm not offended by what she wrote and I would love to stay at home.

Sidd Finch · 08-24-2006, 02:15 PM

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Originally posted by Penske_Account
Maybe this is a "grass is greener" view, but generally, assuming no change in lifestyle, I'd like to be a househusband. I say it all the time irl-except around my boss. If raising kids is slavery and my job is freedom, give me the fucking chains. Now.

I wouldn't, though largely because the lack of adult human interaction would drive me nuts. That hasn't been a problem for Mrs. Finch, but I think stay-at-home dads have a lot more difficulty forming a network.

soup sandwich · 08-24-2006, 02:15 PM

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Originally posted by Sidd Finch
Duty, schmuty.

Nobody talks to me that way, pal. You best watch your back.

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Originally posted by Sidd Finch
It's just a more interesting topic than whether short chubby Asian chicks with nice hair and floppy tits are hot.

Has this topic come up recently on the board? FWIW, I say, no, chubby Asian chicks with nice hair and floppy tits are not hot.

08-24-2006, 02:16 PM

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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
everyone's pretty sure he's a future faggot

Ty@50 can't confirm or deny? How late in life is this going to happen?

I wouldn't want to turn gay at, say, your age and have to pay the kind of prices the rent boys charge you to ignore all the gray pubes* and saggy man-breests.

*sniff

patentparanyc · 08-24-2006, 02:17 PM

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Originally posted by Sidd Finch
Duty, schmuty. It's just a more interesting topic than whether short chubby Asian chicks with nice hair and floppy tits are hot.

They aren't floppy.

And my husband stays home. it ain't a life of servitude.

And I had opptys. to stay home, a couple of very successful ex boyfriends but I wasn't interested. As evidenced by my choices...

It doesn't matter *who* stays home as long as someone who loves that child does.

They do so well with a parent home. sigh

Sidd Finch · 08-24-2006, 02:18 PM

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Originally posted by robustpuppy
Because I don't understand why people feel the need to take one person's position about how she would feel in that situation as an indictment of one's own lifestyle. Gwnc doesn't want kids. You and your wife -- and my husband and I -- obviously do. So we already have fundamental differences.

I'm not offended by what she wrote and I would love to stay at home.

Jesus H. I said "My slave never seems to feel so deathly bored with her work that she is willing to watch Round 43 of the ppnyc/TM battle for hours on end."

This is a JOKE. It does not convey that I took Gwinky's position as "an indictment of my lifestyle." I don't even take it as her "position." It was just a comment that she tossed onto the board, and I tossed one back.

I'm not offended by what she wrote either.

pony_trekker · 08-24-2006, 02:20 PM

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Originally posted by soup sandwich
Defensive about what issue? That women who stay at home to take care of kids are slaves?

Let's see: one who stays at home and has another go out and do the work and hand over all the money is a slave? I thought that the master did no work and the slave did it all. Silly me.