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Hank Chinaski · 01-05-2005, 11:55 AM

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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
I dealt with this years ago in LS. I was about 6-7 hrs away. I just said "Lets not waste plane fare. We have to end this thing."

What city is 6-7 hours away from Florida Coastal?

sebastian_dangerfield · 01-05-2005, 12:01 PM

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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
What city is 6-7 hours away from Florida Coastal?

Gainesville.

ABBAKiss · 01-05-2005, 12:02 PM

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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
What city is 6-7 hours away from Florida Coastal?

Doesn't the answer depend on your mode of transportation?

Alex_de_Large · 01-05-2005, 12:09 PM

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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
What city is 6-7 hours away from Florida Coastal?

Many, if you walk.

ETA: Damn!

Sidd Finch · 01-05-2005, 12:14 PM

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Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
Anon because I really am not looking for a way to dump my SO/spouse, and if I posted as myself, all of the practical advice that the FB is known for would be lost in the "hey, now you can date coltrane/gwink/wonk!" comments.

My 20 year old niece has been dating this guy for a while, but she thinks that things are too serious, and wants to break it off. She's tried to suggest to her slightly older boyfriend that they take a break, and he just freaks out. "How can you do this? You just want to hurt me," blah blah blah. His school is about 4 or 5 hours from hers, and they see each other most weekends.

She told me that she likes him, that she doesn't want to hurt him, that maybe he's the one, but that she feels like she is too young to be this serious. She asked me for advice on how to break it off. I told her that when I was her age, I used to simply sleep with my boyfriend's/girlfriend's roommate, and arrange to be "caught." She thought I was joking.

Any advice?

Echo everyone else's comments -- she needs to tell him this, be firm, etc. You might also tell her, though, to stop kidding herself. She's not going to fuck a lot of people and then come back to him because "he's the one". He's not going to wait around for her and if he does, he's not the one, he's a pathetic loser.

Seasonal Sock · 01-05-2005, 12:27 PM

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Originally posted by lookingformarket
I'd advise her to break it off permanently in public or with someone else in the house (obviously not in the room watching) in case he gets nutty and trys something physical.

Guy I know was almost hit w/ a restraining order for going to ex gal's home and work to discuss why their relationship shouldn't end and how "things could be worked out." Judge said it was borderline but no Order because ex hadn't said any of the magic words, "Go away; do not call; We are definitely over." Her language was too vague and men are persistent and will look for any sign of hope. Example from Dumb and Dumber:

Lloyd: What do you think the chances are of a guy like you and a girl like me ending up together?
Mary: Not Good.
Lloyd: You mean not good like 1 out of a 100?
Mary: I'd say more like 1 out of a million.
Lloyd: So you're telling me there's a chance. Yeah! I read ya.

So unfortunely she needs to be harsh. And if it's in person, she should do it while her parents at home. Not just b/c he may go nuts but because he is less likely to be melodramatic and try to guilt her. An ex (in his thirties) once vaguely suggested he'd be suicidal if all contact stopped and he could never talk to me again. I called his mother "out of concern for [XX]". He very quickly pulled himself together and magically became unsuicidal.

We got no food. We got no jobs. Our pet's HEADS ARE FALLING OFF!!!

Replaced_Texan · 01-05-2005, 12:59 PM

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Originally posted by Seasonal Sock
Her language was too vague and men are persistent and will look for any sign of hope.

Women are just as likely too look for signs that it's not over.

Hank Chinaski · 01-05-2005, 01:02 PM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
Women are just as likely too look for signs that it's not over.

Sure, but no guy complains if an ex comes over from time to time to toss us sex. At least until we get into something serious with someone else.

taxwonk · 01-05-2005, 01:05 PM

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Originally posted by Skeks in the city
Scarlett's rack has grown. You can see stretch marks on recent pics

I can live with the stretch marks.

sebastian_dangerfield · 01-05-2005, 01:06 PM

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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
Sure, but no guy complains if an ex comes over from time to time to toss us sex. At least until we get into something serious with someone else.

Because all that sex from two people is just too much for most guys.

sebastian_dangerfield · 01-05-2005, 01:11 PM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
Women are just as likely too look for signs that it's not over.

Thats because usually its never totally over. You're always kind of connected in some emotional sense to any ex, so if the ex keeps saying, "but there's still a spark", she's right. People fuck up dumping when they say "Its over" because that invites a rebuttal. You have to dump with the line "I can't continue. I have feelings for you, but there's no future, so it must end." That tells the ex that no fanning of residual sparks will work.

This is why its always a mess to fuck exes.

SlaveNoMore · 01-05-2005, 01:13 PM

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sebastian_dangerfield
Garden State was dull. It wasn't bad; it wasn't good. It was two hours of "I like this guy, but this script is really not going anywhere."

I got the deeper meaning of the movie - and its not that original.

Lithium makes idiots tolerable?

Never leave jewelry on dead relatives?

"God, I need to sell a silly patent?"

Seasonal Sock · 01-05-2005, 01:16 PM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
Women are just as likely too look for signs that it's not over.

Yes, and they may see hope and use it to bug the guy too. The guy being bugged may feel bad. But I think woman being hounded with suicidal ex boyfriends are more susceptible to manipulation by guilt. Men are more apt to say "fuck off psycho" after a while.

greatwhitenorthchick · 01-05-2005, 01:16 PM

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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
You have to dump with the line "I can't continue. I have feelings for you, but there's no future, so it must end." That tells the ex that no fanning of residual sparks will work.

This is very smart advice. A little melodramatic in the phrasing, but very good.

Oliver_Wendell_Ramone · 01-05-2005, 01:16 PM

First, a happy Ollie Day to everyone. I'm celebrating with a cold. I blame RT.

Second, I had a really weird dream last night, and feel compelled to share at least parts of it. (Sorry, Thurgreed) I was lost in a strange and unnamed city. Somehow, I eventually ended up in an apartment where, to my surprise, a female partner in my firm was sort of mock-pegging a male partner. I say "mock" because they did not actually have a strap-on. She was just sort of dry humping him from behind. They were filming it, apparently for some sort of partner video. Eventually, other partners from my current and former firms showed up, and it turned into a party. A party where I ended up sitting on a couch with our own ABBA. We ended up making out. Disappointingly, it did not go any further. Even in dream state, with a raging hard on and ABBA's TITS!, I had that "wait a minute, I'm married" moment. So I left the party to look for my car, which I had lost earlier in the dream.

Anyway, happy Ollie Day.

Love,

Ollie