Fashion Board 1-08-04 through 02-03-04

[spookyfish]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
The original trivial pursuit game has a question card on countries in Africa -- it is always amazing to me how badly most people do on it.

So what is the largest country in Africa?

Population or Square Mileage? (Spoken like the question African or European Swallow?)

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by leagleaze
I do not doubt your word that you have seen or been asked out by women who are aggressive and unafraid to make their intentions known, regardless of being certain of someone's sexuality. I have no problem believing this is more common in certain parts of the country. It is much less risky to ask a person out in San Francisco, if they aren't gay, they still aren't likely to be offended.

However, most of the country is not San Francisco, and most people are not quite so confident, even in San Francisco. You know how a lot of people are too shy to ask someone of the opposite sex out? Gay people are shy of asking each other out for the same reasons. They are even more concerned about mistakenly asking out a straight person.

Sometimes straight people can react very very strongly. By strongly I mean they can get offended. They can yell. They can hit you. They can get their boyfriends to try to rape you. They can shoot you. Common? Well offense is common, at least around here, so is yelling. The rest, not so much, but it is a real risk you have to keep in the back of your mind.

As far as my friend, it is actually pretty straight forward (pardon the pun.) She is afraid if she just asks her friend if she is gay or if she just asks her out, that the friend will turn out not to be gay and will be upset at being asked if she is. She is afraid this will cause an awkwardness to develop between them, costing her her friend. She doesn't want to lose her friend. So she wants to be sure she is gay first.

I wish it was as simple as you suggest. But your experience, dare I say, is limited, and it is not coloured from a lesbian's point of view. A point of view that is much more aware of the risks of asking the wrong person the wrong question. Some of this is paranoia that comes from years of internal and external homophobia. Some is painful realism.

This surprises me a little. I mean the yelling and the hitting. I thought you lived in a more progressive part of the country, or am I wrong? It's not like you're in the deep south, or Wyoming.
The point I was trying to make is that people seem to be just fine with going up to people and either asking them if they're gay (this is only my anecdotal experience). And if the friend would be offended to be asked if she's gay, then how long can the friendship last after she finds out - if that's her attitude? Personally, I wouldn't be offended, but maybe that's just me or part of the environment I lived and continue to live in.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by spookyfish
Population or Square Mileage? (Spoken like the question African or European Swallow?)

Did I say largest or most populous?

And I assume your swallow is unladen.

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by spookyfish
Ergo, the Yahoo module is an improvement.

Only if you consider the absence of snide-ass comments to be an improvement.

[spookyfish]

Originally posted by NotFromHere
Only if you consider the absence of snide-ass comments to be an improvement.

From what I've seen, your news postings get quite a few snide-ass comments.

[spookyfish]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
And I assume your swallow is unladen.

Is it Friday already?

[NotFromHere]

Originally posted by spookyfish
From what I've seen, your news postings get quite a few snide-ass comments.

Proving my point. Yahoo wouldn't put up with that whereas I, while typing through my tears, can handle it.

[bilmore]

Originally posted by spookyfish
Is it Friday already?

Oh, shut the fu . . . .

Oh, wait. No, it's not.

Sorry, sorry, sorry . . . (in a Cleese accent)

[Tyrone Slothrop]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
The original trivial pursuit game has a question card on countries in Africa -- it is always amazing to me how badly most people do on it.

So what is the largest country in Africa?

I'll take a Google-free guess: Sudan?

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by Tyrone_Slothrop
I'll take a Google-free guess: Sudan?

No. Arkansas.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by Tyrone_Slothrop
I'll take a Google-free guess: Sudan?

I'm not playing trivial pursuit with you.

Care for a game of scrabble?

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
No. Arkansas.

Would you like to play trivial pursuits with me?

[spookyfish]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
Would you like to play trivial pursuits with me?

Doesn't she pretty much do that here already?

[Tyrone Slothrop]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
I'm not playing trivial pursuit with you.

With an area of 2,505,800 square kilometers -- that's 967,490 square miles for you metric-impaired non-Canadians -- the Republic of Sudan is the largest country on the continent of Africa.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by Tyrone_Slothrop
With an area of 2,505,800 square kilometers -- that's 967,490 square miles for you metric-impaired non-Canadians -- the Republic of Sudan is the largest country on the continent of Africa.

What do they call African-Americans there?