Fashion Board 11-2-03 - 12-09-03

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by Not Me
From everything I have read here written by YOU about your wife (including why you have to remain a lawyer despite your utter boredom with the practice of law), that paragraph just described her.

Well, then she's an awfully dumb cunt, because I ain't rich enough to keep anyone happy.

And maybe you should pay attention, because if you did, you'd know I stated that she now has a very lucrative gig. My hatred of law stems from my hatred of everything. Its irrational. Ever since Sidd asked me why I hate things, I've been asking myself the same question. Beats me, but its interesting to think about... but probably not very interesting to post about. Selah... I'm a broken record.

And you're race baiting me.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
I hate to ever say Less is right (but he isnt here so I may be safe) but he is right when he says that there is a monthly poll that allows people to post what their favorite music is so we can get to know a little more about them and they can show up how cutting edge they are.

But he isnt marriage minded so he is not eligible.

I may have started the poll, but I think it's quite obvious that my current musical pleasures are not cutting edge.


Write what you know.

[Not Me]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
And you're race baiting me.

Exactly! No matter what I say, that is Thurgreed's response. However, I take solace in knowing I am helping him to work through his issues.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
I hate to ever say Less is right (but he isnt here so I may be safe) but he is right when he says that there is a monthly poll that allows people to post what their favorite music is so we can get to know a little more about them and they can show up how cutting edge they are.

But he isnt marriage minded so he is not eligible.

Oh bullshit... you and I used to waste time discussing dead shows on the board, which was pretty useless to most people.

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
Yeah, but the question of what to do when one party flat-out changes their mind mid-stream is a tough one. For (annecdotal) example: the Mr. and I have always assumed I'll work, and earn a shit-load of a lot more money than the Mr. ever will. We've also always assumed that the Mr. will be primary caregiver when we have kids, and that whatever high-minded occupation he takes on will more-or-less permit that (e.g.: he may work, but if the kids get sick or daycare burns down, he is the one to stay home or figure it out). This was discussed and agreed to be mutually pleasing pre-marriage.

But, what if, upon having kids, we discover that I want to be a SAHM? What if the Mr. discovers that, to his surprise, he doesn't really like all children, he just likes children that he can send home with their parents, but he can't get a job to replace my income? What if, kids or mortgage or no, I finally have a nerveous breakdown and quit to paint bad watercolors of dolphins, leaving neither of us with any viable means of support? All stuff that can legitimately happen.

And when it does, you must be willing to discuss and renegotiate. And, as someone pointed out earlier, it suddenly becomes about something more than your needs, or your husbands needs, and becomes about the wee one's needs.

I actually believe that everything always works itslef out just the way its supposed to. I also freely acknowledge that I'm a bit of a Pollyanna that way.

story about Dad

Are you like my unknown biological half-sister? Because that sounds an awful lot like my Dad.

From him I have learned that risk is a good thing, and that sometimes it is good to be very brave....

Of course, from Mom I learned that it is very good to squirrel away a little of the grocery money, and that one should never leave the house without a littel lipstick and mascara.

[str8outavannuys]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield

6. Sigur Ros (untitled or self titled - can't tell... someone gave it to me)

The albums do have names (and they're not as unweildy as the Fiona Apple-type crap that's become more and more common). The first one is the Agaetis Brynjun or something, it's the one with the baby/alien head, but everyone I know just calls it "The First One." The second one is the white one, officially called ( ), but everyone just calls that "The Second One."

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by Not Me
Exactly! No matter what I say, that is Thurgreed's response. However, I take solace in knowing I am helping him to work through his issues.

Whatever, but I'll have you know I prefer to bate myself.

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
Oh bullshit... you and I used to waste time discussing dead shows on the board, which was pretty useless to most people.

That was then, this is now.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by str8outavannuys
The albums do have names (and they're not as unweildy as the Fiona Apple-type crap that's become more and more common). The first one is the Agaetis Brynjun or something, it's the one with the baby/alien head, but everyone I know just calls it "The First One." The second one is the white one, officially called ( ), but everyone just calls that "The Second One."

A more apt title is "Pretentious and Boring."

If you like this band, you suck.

[Not Me]

Originally posted by purse junkie
Paigs, show some dignity. Really. You will get the mother of all hairy-backed bald-headed Viagra-snorting gold-medallion-wearing pimp-car-driving total assholes by debasing yourself this way.

That describes Dennis Kucinich to a T.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
That was then, this is now.

Fuck. You got me there.

[Tyrone Slothrop]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
...or MP3 if you know how to use one (I don't)?

(1) Wilco: Summerteeth (can't get enough)
(2) Outkast: the new one (following the masses (hi E/O!))
(3) Pearl Jam: Lost Dogs, etc. (angry Eddie)
(4) John Denver & the Muppets (nothing is better than hearing Beeker chime in on "The 12 Days of X-mas")
(5) The "High Fidelity" soundtrack (always finds its way back)

And you?

Most recent selections:

Belle & Sebastian, Fold Your Hands Child
Beth Orton, Pass In Time
Compay Segundo, Gracias Compay
White Stripes, White Stripes

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally posted by str8outavannuys
All together now:

We're a MOSAIC, not a melting pot.

Good grief.

I believe in diversity, not assimilation
peacekeeping, not policing
and that the beaver is a proud and noble animal

(heartwarming stuff. makes me want to drink a beer for some reason)

[dtb]

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
Yeah, but the question of what to do when one party flat-out changes their mind mid-stream is a tough one.

But, what if, upon having kids, we discover that I want to be a SAHM? What if the Mr. discovers that, to his surprise, he doesn't really like all children, he just likes children that he can send home with their parents, but he can't get a job to replace my income? All stuff that can legitimately happen.

True enough. If any or all of those things were to happen, obviously, something would have to change, whether it is your lifestyle, where you live, or where you send you kids to school, or whatever.

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
Should the pre-agreement hold without mutual consent?

No. See below.

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
Can my Mr. indenture me to my job for the sake of his previously negotiated stay-at-home status? Can I effectively unilaterally force him into a different career to pay the mortgage? Can I say "OK, I'll keep working and you take care of the kids and do your [insert flex-schedule intellectually-rewarding thing here], but we're moving to Oklahoma City so I can come home at 5"?

Obviously, things can always change. Don't most couples talk about back-up plans, or "what if" scenarios? You've gotta have a back-up plan! If these are not the kind of things (child-having, and -care decisions, career decisions, lifestyle decisions) two people can come to a mutually [no hyphen] acceptable agreement about, I'm afraid the crystal ball shows dark clouds on the horizon.

[Not Me]

Paigow - My advice to you if you are serious (and I strongly suspect that you are a bit serious, although not completely serious) is to look at men who fall into a looks category one less than you. So, if you are an 8, look for a hubby in the 7's. Consider the 6's if they have alot of money.

Also keep in mind that you are probably one looks category below what you think you are (it is human nature to think we are a bit cuter than we really are). So if you think you are an 8, look for a hubby in the 6's since in reality, you are probably a 7. Consider the 5's if they have alot of money.