Merry Generic Winter Day-Off With No Religious Content

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
This makes total sense. And does make it kind of like an ex getting married.

Once when I got the wedding invitation or save-the-date or whatever for a couple I was friends with, who had been a couple nearly the entire time I'd known them, I was really sad. Who knew I had a minor crush? Not me. And then a few years later when I got the baby announcement, I was sad all over again, because it meant that the option was totally and completely off the table. Which is not to say I feel your pain, because it wasn't even an ex.

I've had this happen a couple of times, but then I've also had doors that I thought were completely and totally closed to me open up unexpectedly.

[Mr. Man]

[edit: oops, just saw the post about boring everyone - agreed]

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by Mr. Man
At the risk of unleashing a new TM rant

IT'S NOT WORTH IT! HE WILL EAT YOU WITH HIS WORDS!

[Adder]

Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
I've had this happen a couple of times, but then I've also had doors that I thought were completely and totally closed to me open up unexpectedly.

Which leads me to a dilemma of my own (sort of). I have recently been in rather regular touch with an ex. She initiated the contact, and much of the discussion has been rather flirty, including a discussion of whether adultery is ever appropriate (she agruing yes, me not so sure). She also mentioned that she might be coming out her for professional reasons, only deciding for sure after I suggest that we get together if she comes.

So, question is whether it is inappropriate of me to attempt to make the most of the visit. Does it matter at all that she is now married to the guy she left me for, and was probably seeing before we broke up? (somehow, it makes me object less).

Am I a total prude for even asking?

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
IT'S NOT WORTH IT! HE WILL EAT YOU WITH HIS WORDS!

On the plus side, we'll be that much closer to getting rid of this Winter Holiday thread title. 810 more posts about sports penalties it is.

[notcasesensitive]

Originally posted by Adder
Which leads me to a dilemma of my own (sort of). I have recently been in rather regular touch with an ex. She initiated the contact, and much of the discussion has been rather flirty, including a discussion of whether adultery is ever appropriate (she agruing yes, me not so sure). She also mentioned that she might be coming out her for professional reasons, only deciding for sure after I suggest that we get together if she comes.

So, question is whether it is inappropriate of me to attempt to make the most of the visit. Does it matter at all that she is now married to the guy she left me for, and was probably seeing before we broke up? (somehow, it makes me object less).

Am I a total prude for even asking?

I don't know your situation here so I could be totally wrong*, but I'm in the Don't Do It camp. She left you for him. This might make it seem ok, but you have to be really sure for yourself that you aren't going to open up wounds that you've already mended (or at least put a band aid over) before this becomes a good idea (for you - whether it is good for her or for him is basically irrelevant).

On the other hand, if you do go through with it, please post here about how it goes, etc.



*(this whole opening part totally goes without saying, right?)

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by Adder
Which leads me to a dilemma of my own (sort of). I have recently been in rather regular touch with an ex. She initiated the contact, and much of the discussion has been rather flirty, including a discussion of whether adultery is ever appropriate (she agruing yes, me not so sure). She also mentioned that she might be coming out her for professional reasons, only deciding for sure after I suggest that we get together if she comes.

So, question is whether it is inappropriate of me to attempt to make the most of the visit. Does it matter at all that she is now married to the guy she left me for, and was probably seeing before we broke up? (somehow, it makes me object less).

Am I a total prude for even asking?

If you're not married or in a committed relationship, it's not your problem. Fuck her brains out. Hell, she left you for this guy. It's like you have no petty, childish sense of vengeance at all.

TM

PS - She sounds like a real bitch.

[Adder]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
If you're not married or in a committed relationship, it's not your problem. Fuck her brains out. Hell, she left you for this guy. It's like you have no petty, childish sense of vengeance at all.

TM

PS - She sounds like a real bitch.

It was rather a long time ago, so I don't feel a real strong need for vengeance. But I don't have a real inclination in that direction anyway.

And others have said this about her to me before, but I don't really think she is a bitch. Maybe that suggests I should listen carefully to NCS.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by Adder
Which leads me to a dilemma of my own (sort of). I have recently been in rather regular touch with an ex. She initiated the contact, and much of the discussion has been rather flirty, including a discussion of whether adultery is ever appropriate (she agruing yes, me not so sure). She also mentioned that she might be coming out her for professional reasons, only deciding for sure after I suggest that we get together if she comes.

So, question is whether it is inappropriate of me to attempt to make the most of the visit. Does it matter at all that she is now married to the guy she left me for, and was probably seeing before we broke up? (somehow, it makes me object less).

Am I a total prude for even asking?

Do it. But accidentally come in her hair.

And then kick her out of your house.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
I don't know your situation here so I could be totally wrong*, but I'm in the Don't Do It camp. She left you for him. This might make it seem ok, but you have to be really sure for yourself that you aren't going to open up wounds that you've already mended (or at least put a band aid over) before this becomes a good idea...

Old wounds? You can seal that old wound up by fucking her really hard and thereby confirming the fact that she still wants you.

I guess if you still want to be with her,* it would be a problem, but I assume you're not insane.

TM

*And this is what would make you a chump/prude/whatever

[Adder]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Old wounds? You can seal that old wound up by fucking her really hard and thereby confirming the fact that she still wants you.

I guess if you still want to be with her,* it would be a problem, but I assume you're not insane.

TM

*And this is what would make you a chump/prude/whatever

I am shocked that you would make that assumption after all these years.

Although as shaky as the assumption is generally, no, I don't still want to be with her.

[Flinty_McFlint]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
I don't know your situation here so I could be totally wrong*, but I'm in the Don't Do It camp. She left you for him. This might make it seem ok, but you have to be really sure for yourself that you aren't going to open up wounds that you've already mended (or at least put a band aid over) before this becomes a good idea (for you - whether it is good for her or for him is basically irrelevant).

On the other hand, if you do go through with it, please post here about how it goes, etc.



*(this whole opening part totally goes without saying, right?)

Oh jinx. I was going to say the exact same thing as ncs, except that instead of no, I would say yes and have it videotaped and sent to her parents, husband and workplace with a closing shot of you crapping on her and giving the camera the double thumbs up.

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Old wounds? You can seal that old wound up by fucking her really hard and thereby confirming the fact that she still wants you.

I guess if you still want to be with her,* it would be a problem, but I assume you're not insane.

TM

*And this is what would make you a chump/prude/whatever

I've had ex-sex where I was pretty sure going into it that I didn't want him at all anymore, and left it crying for 600 miles and getting a ticket in some podunk town in Arizona for speeding and having an expired registration. Motherfucking cop didn't even look twice at the, for once, legitimate tears.

[Oliver_Wendell_Ramone]

Originally posted by Adder
Which leads me to a dilemma of my own (sort of). I have recently been in rather regular touch with an ex. She initiated the contact, and much of the discussion has been rather flirty, including a discussion of whether adultery is ever appropriate (she agruing yes, me not so sure). She also mentioned that she might be coming out her for professional reasons, only deciding for sure after I suggest that we get together if she comes.

So, question is whether it is inappropriate of me to attempt to make the most of the visit. Does it matter at all that she is now married to the guy she left me for, and was probably seeing before we broke up? (somehow, it makes me object less).

Am I a total prude for even asking?

1. Drink. 2. Drink more. 3. Initiate sex talk. 4. Find out if she's giving up the anal for the husband. 5. If the answer is no, do everything short of roofies to fuck her in the ass. 6. Hold total trump card if husband ever brags about stealing this peach from you.


eta: if hubby has already gone there, both Coltrane and Flinty have provided suitable alternatives.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by Adder
Which leads me to a dilemma of my own (sort of). I have recently been in rather regular touch with an ex. She initiated the contact, and much of the discussion has been rather flirty, including a discussion of whether adultery is ever appropriate (she agruing yes, me not so sure). She also mentioned that she might be coming out her for professional reasons, only deciding for sure after I suggest that we get together if she comes.

So, question is whether it is inappropriate of me to attempt to make the most of the visit. Does it matter at all that she is now married to the guy she left me for, and was probably seeing before we broke up? (somehow, it makes me object less).

Am I a total prude for even asking?

What do you have to lose? In situations like this, you should not be letting your brain do your thinking for you.