A sad, constant bid for attention - Page 285

ABBAKiss · 10-13-2006, 03:36 PM

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Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
If this person's younger sister died, would he/she do something to remember that person, such as pay some funeral expenses? But this person did not yet make such a payment? In that case, I would advise her to contribute to funeral expenses because she cares for the sister, tell the father so much, and ask to which cemetary/headstone company she should send her contribution.

If he/she hated the sister, then I'd tell them all to suck it.

It's not so much the money or the fact of contributing to defray expenses. It is the attempt to cash in MY LIFE INSURANCE POLICY without my knowledge. And the fact that contact was made with me for the sole purpose of asking me for money.

ltl/fb · 10-13-2006, 03:41 PM

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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
It's not so much the money or the fact of contributing to defray expenses. It is the attempt to cash in MY LIFE INSURANCE POLICY without my knowledge. And the fact that contact was made with me for the sole purpose of asking me for money.

The father is thoughtless and/or rude and/or very self-centered. And what gwinky said. I am happy my parents never tried to do anything with the $10k in life insurance they got on me through the State of Wisconsin.

Fugee · 10-13-2006, 03:41 PM

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Is RT around?

I watched the movie the other night and I didn't catch how they got Edmund back from the White Witch. He was standing on the rocks with Asrill (sp?), but how did he get there? Thx.

Aslan sent a rescue party to get Edmund from the White Witch before she could kill him. The rescue party brought him to the Stone Table to meet with the rest of Aslan's side. Then the White Witch came up to the Stone Table to meet with Aslan to remind him that she was entitled to kill Edmund because he was a traitor.

Shape Shifter · 10-13-2006, 03:42 PM

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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
I gave you two reasons. You asked in your post for reasons. How was my post not responsive? I think rp's reason is likely also - they like the way it looks. There are 3 reasons why a person might do so. Feel better?

I have worn a short sleeved t-shirt over a long sleeved t-shirt because it was cold outside, but I wanted to let the band know that while the other people in attendance might be fans, I was really, really a fan., even though I didn't pay anything to see the show because I knew the promoter and he put me on the guest list.

Sunny's Snot Rocket · 10-13-2006, 03:46 PM

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Originally posted by Fugee
Two things:

1. Zicam. It may be too late for this cold but it really shortens my colds.

2. Sunnybunny's neti pot thingy aka Sinus Cleanse at your local drug store. It feels creepy but it really helps clean out your sinuses and thus helps get over the cold more quickly.

And of course, chicken soup.

I had totally forgotten about this sock. Thanks, Fugee!

Replaced_Texan · 10-13-2006, 03:49 PM

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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
It's not so much the money or the fact of contributing to defray expenses. It is the attempt to cash in MY LIFE INSURANCE POLICY without my knowledge. And the fact that contact was made with me for the sole purpose of asking me for money.

I'm really sorry about your sister. That must have been awful.

I have a very close relationship with my parents, so I can't really relate or give advice. I would hope that a shared tragedy would bring us closer together, but that sometimes isn't the case. I guess I'd ask myself under those circumstances if the relationship is one that I want to work on or not, and to what degree and what would the fall out be with the rest of the family if I chose not to preserve it.

Greedy,Greedy,Greedy · 10-13-2006, 03:55 PM

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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
Imagine the following scenario:

Your younger sister dies tragically. Your father, three months later, says he wants to take you for lunch - you rarely speak with him so this is odd, but you think, perhaps he is "trying." At lunch he informs you that when you were 10 he took out a life insurance policy on you and your sisters, with a $10K payout each, and that he tried to cash in the policy he took out on you to pay for the overage of your sister's funeral and headstone, etc. but that the policy became YOUR policy when you turned 21 so he couldn't. Then he asks you for a couple grand and/or to cash in your life insurance policy.

Is it acceptable to tell him to go to hell? To not pass go? To not collect $200 (or the proceeds of MY life insurance policy)?

If you do not tell him to go to hell, and hopefully an inner circle of it, you will discover him back with yet more requests, desires, etc. And no matter how hard he "tries", it sounds like he won't stop being him.

Very sorry to hear about your sister.

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 10-13-2006, 03:57 PM

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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
It's not so much the money or the fact of contributing to defray expenses. It is the attempt to cash in MY LIFE INSURANCE POLICY without my knowledge. And the fact that contact was made with me for the sole purpose of asking me for money.

Well, isn't the life insurance his policy, until it becomes yours? He just screwed up in buying a policy. Dad Error in Your Favor: Collect $10!

ABBAKiss · 10-13-2006, 04:00 PM

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Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
Well, isn't the life insurance his policy, until it becomes yours? He just screwed up in buying a policy. Dad Error in Your Favor: Collect $10!

It became mine when I turned 21 - 12 years ago - though I didn't know this until today. I don't really care about the policy or the money but I am VERY HURT that contact was made with me solely to ask me for money and that an attempt to cash in a policy that was supposed to be in case I DIE was made. So, should I die, they will leave me to rot in my office? Throw some potpurri under the door to absorb the smell of rot?

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 10-13-2006, 04:05 PM

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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
It became mine when I turned 21 - 12 years ago - though I didn't know this until today. I don't really care about the policy or the money but I am VERY HURT that contact was made with me solely to ask me for money and that an attempt to cash in a policy that was supposed to be in case I DIE was made. So, should I die, they will leave me to rot in my office? Throw some potpurri under the door to absorb the smell of rot?

All sucky. But would your dad come find you anyway to throw the potpouri, even $10k worth? I guess the one benefit of this tacky reconnection is that you now know to call the insurance company and get them to change all the information on the policy to you.

nononono · 10-13-2006, 04:09 PM

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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
It became mine when I turned 21 - 12 years ago - though I didn't know this until today. I don't really care about the policy or the money but I am VERY HURT that contact was made with me solely to ask me for money and that an attempt to cash in a policy that was supposed to be in case I DIE was made. So, should I die, they will leave me to rot in my office? Throw some potpurri under the door to absorb the smell of rot?

ABBA,

I am terribly sorry to hear about the loss of your sister.

As for your father, you said you don't have much contact with him. But it sounds as though you haven't made peace with that, either (forgive me, I was in "marital closure therapy" earlier this week). As others have said, what you do may depend on what kind of relationship you have with him, and what kind you desire going forward. If you are ready to wipe your hands of him, cash out the policy, give him what he has asked for, tell him you want nothing to do with him (or not) and have no respect for what he did, and donate the rest of the money to something you care about or your sister would appreciate. As someone else remarked, your father isn't going to change, and this whole thing is a window into what he's about. Sounds like you would like a relationship with him, but it may never happen, and for you, unhooking from that and "un-hoping" for it could be a good thing.

Did you just call me Coltrane? · 10-13-2006, 04:10 PM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
My contribution to today is that I'm getting absolutely nothing done, because I'm terribly excited about a spur of the moment decision that involves me ducking out early, driving 196 miles to San Antonio by myself, seeing Wilco, and then driving 196 miles back to Houston so I can make it to a noon appointment tomorrow.

I spilled coffee on my assistant's monitor yesterday. It fizzed, popped, squeaked and then went blank. Great times!

That is my contribution.

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 10-13-2006, 04:12 PM

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Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
That is my contribution.

You owe us another contribution.

taxwonk · 10-13-2006, 04:12 PM

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Originally posted by pony_trekker
Bet now you see dads bringing the kids over for play dates.

And by the way, the new paralegal that they have hired here has the shortest dress I have ever seen on a person. It looks like a sweater that goes just below the waist that was stretched for a minute or two. It seems like those dog sweaters that leave the nether bits free.

Is she differently groomed?

soup sandwich · 10-13-2006, 04:12 PM

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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
It became mine when I turned 21 - 12 years ago - though I didn't know this until today. I don't really care about the policy or the money but I am VERY HURT that contact was made with me solely to ask me for money and that an attempt to cash in a policy that was supposed to be in case I DIE was made. So, should I die, they will leave me to rot in my office? Throw some potpurri under the door to absorb the smell of rot?

I'm sorry about your sister.

Some time back my mom asked if she could cash out the life insurance policy she had on me. I had no problem with this. But we have a pretty normal relationship. If we rarely spoke and she contacted me out of the blue I'd have been pretty pissed. I'd still have let her cash out the policy, but I'd likely always carry a grudge about it.