Fringey's taut-abbed painter

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Wow.

I'm assuming you bought this story?

TM

What's not to buy? She just made one stop on the way to pick up some drugs, no big deal. Oh, and she didn't have enough money for the drugs, so she was nice to the guy and he gave them to her anyways. His friend, too. Friend drove her the rest of the way home - nice guy - and it was only after he left that she called.

So, yeh, it's just like she said.

[mmm3587]

Thanks for all the good advice and perspectives. I'm making myself work for a while, since I am pretty busy, but I will be back later, ad infinitum.

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Actually the girl he describes is much like one of my good friends.

Me too - until she married a rich guy, extinguished her debt, got off drugs, went into therapy, popped out three kids and became excrutiatingly boring (although happy, so good for her). Sigh. I miss my friend (although not so much the bad times).

The good times were lots of fun though. And she was very into girl-on-girl, although I think she just liked performing. Still fun though.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by Pretty Little Flower
Yale! Yale rules! Yay Str8!

Yalies who work at Wachtell are so hot.

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by mmm3587

Plus, if you really think that you don't have to be careful about how big lines are, then all your talk about coke is obviously just a made-up cry for attention. Because that is how people OD and die, and even the people I know who are much more into it than I am are pretty careful about how big and how much.

Originally posted by Sebby

Yeh there is. You'll get that "heart attack" panic attack moment one of these days, and it will cure you of that shit.

It's been my experience that the only adjective I want describing the amount of cocaine in my future is "more". It's also been my experience that it doesn't really matter how big any one particular line is in a night full of excess. But hey, that's just me!

I don't know anyone who's ever ODed and died from doing blow (although yes, I remember Len Bias, and even where I was when I heard he died).

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
Modalities. If ever there was a word that makes me long to launch myself at someone and choke the life out of them, it is modalities.

It's a good thing you don't do bond work. Modalities are pretty much baked into every offering statement I've seen in the last 10 years.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by mmm3587
I could post this as anon, but I'm anon anyway, and I figure that everybody will get off on making fun of me. TM, please at least do some good mentor jokes this time. RP, please find good ways to point out how much of a troll I am. That's cool, but I'm also looking for advice, since I'm sure others have dealt with these kinds of situations.

Anyway, I have been dating someone for the past several months, and we are getting a little more serious. Many aspects of the relationship are really great: she's really fun to be around, very intelligent, very attractive, the sex is great, all our friends like each other, etc.

There are a few problems, though: she is very irresponsible about money and still has massive debt from college and grad school (lawyer-style debt, and she doesn't and probably never will make anywhere near enough money to pay it off quickly), she has all kinds of mental illness in her family and all kinds of crazy stuff in her past and she takes a truly impressive amount of (legitimately prescribed) prescription drugs. She also tends to occasionally drink to absolute drunkedness to the point where she gets lost somewhere in a club or a party and I won't see her for hours because she was off somewhere without a concern in the world.

I'm trying to decide whether I should just run from this relationship before it gets any more serious, or stick it out to see where things go. I really enjoy her company and the relationship, and like her as a person, but I'm worried that those things will fade, and I'll be involved with a drunk junkie with a fucked up family history and massive debt.

I'm not really a believer in the abiity to change a person in a relationship, and the brief discussions about the booze, the pills and occasional coke for her own good have NOT been well-received. I like all that fun stuff, too, but you really have to be careful with the latter two to avoid, well, royally fucking up your life, and I'm concerned that she is or will be pretty close to the line.

It's also a little bit selfish, but I can't help but see that, centris paribus, getting involved with her longterm carries with it a six figure price tag because of her debt and low income. I've got enough ways that I am locked into being a Biglaw lawyer; I don't need any more. I guess that is selfish, but it's certainly relevant.

I think staying with her over all these issues would be the textbook defintion of enabling, even if I (probably) love her. So, I think I am out, but I guess I'm looking for thoughts and advice about these sorts of things. Everyone I know has an opinion, but I thought some of the comments here would be more objective and snipey, which is always fun. Enough people around here seem to be separate, divorced, married or whatever that the different perspectives might be useful, I thought. Jokes are fine, too.

If you're over 30, the days when you can get away with regular, heavy drug and alcohol abuse and have it written off as good clean fun are behind you (and her). If you've broached the subject and she's gotten defensive and hostile, then you're staring a problem in the face that will get worse long before it gets better. Let her know that if she straightens up, you'll be there to help her through it. But if she doesn't, then flee.

There are few things worse than being married to a drunk or an addict.

[Not Bob]

Originally posted by mmm3587
II think staying with her over all these issues would be the textbook defintion of enabling, even if I (probably) love her. So, I think I am out, but I guess I'm looking for thoughts and advice about these sorts of things.

Too late. Baltassoc's niece has already decided to dump you. And quit robbing the craddle, you bastard.

Originally posted by Dave
I'll probably still be mourning the loss of John Basedow. By drinking heavily.

Or just drinking heavily. Viva Thursday!

Huh? Literally? Metaphorically? Symbolically?

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by mmm3587

What is a legitimate number of Xanax to take in, say, a week?

It depends. How much time does she have to spend listening to you talk about politics or urban development? I know I'd have to double my usage.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield My God, how does a Latin-quoter like you get boy band ass like that?

He said she is his age- the clock's ticking and she's desparate.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by bold_n_brazen
Depends on what the week requires of you. And how long you've been taking them.

I mean, that's what I've heard, of course....

Lying bitch. I know it was you who stole my scrip at the Fountainbleu.

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by Sidd Finch
Is this because you love him and still want him to have fun, because you are hoping to fuck him in a threesome, or because you are trying to fuck up his life by hooking him up with a debt-laden drug addict?

The first thing. I will probably still fuck him, in a threesome or otherwise, and mmmm's girl sounds hot.

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by mmm3587
I knew that centris paribus would serve as a target for derision!

You would probably have gotten less shit if you had used the correct term, ceteris paribus.

[Not Bob]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
My God, how does a Latin-quoter like you get boy band ass like that? You must be hung like a fucking Clydesdale. Good for you.

I love Sebby.

Anyway, mmm, If the debt thing bothers you, keep seperate bank accounts. Shit, help her file a chapter 7 before you get hitched. Who cares?

If the only mental health issue is the occasional binge drinking episode, she'll outgrow it. Or turn into a real alcoholic. One or the other. Wait it out.