Toronto Trim's Hotel Cum Drop-in Centre

[Penske_Account]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
Gold star for you. My house is nice; my yard is medicore. I find meticulous lawn care creepy. People who devote that much time to grass, and the opinions of others regarding their grass, are socially imbalanced. If you're obsessing over the dry spots near the sycamore tree or weeding the border of the driveway and lawn every three days, you need to get a fucking social life.

Who has cost-effective time to mow? Hire someone and share the wealth.

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by cuckold
Longtime poster, first time socker (well, there was one other time, but it really didn't mean anything).

So here's my problem: I have just found out that my wife is having an affair. I love my wife (but reserve the right to change my mind about this), so this is, well, distressing. Or maybe I should say OH MY GOD I CAN BELIEVE SHE'S SLEEPING WITH THAT SON OF A BITCH.

Anyway, I'm a bit freaked out, so any words of encouragement would be nice. I'm not expecting any, especially as a sock, but I had to get this off my chest somewhere.

As an added bonus, if you want to pick on me, I discovered the whole thing by snooping through her e-mail (although she did leave it open on the computer - what's a guy to do when he glances at it and notices an oddly large number of e-mails from "Bill"?).

Okay, I'll play.

Sounds like she wanted you to know. Here is a word of encouragement: Leave.

TM

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by Penske_Account
Who has cost-effective time to mow? Hire someone and share the wealth.

I think my yard guy was jailed or something. I couldn't reach him this Summer. Just got a replacement last week. You know anyone who wants a brand new John Deere self propelled gas mower? Its one year old. Real nice piece. I waxed it every week in my meticulous garage.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by Penske_Account
I would add the caveat that controlled drinking et al is okay in pursuit of revenge sex. As long as you don't let it get in the way of the primary objective.

Oh, of course, but one must be vigilant about keeping one's eye on the ball...

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
Gold star for you. My house is nice; my yard is mediocre. I find meticulous lawn care creepy. People who devote that much time to grass, and the opinions of others regarding their grass, are socially imbalanced. If you're obsessing over the dry spots near the sycamore tree or weeding the border of the driveway and lawn every three days, you need to get a fucking social life.

Obnoxious landscaping is even worse than a perfectly mowed lawn.

What NFH's neighborhood (and similar neighborhoods) needs is a nice dose of napalm.

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally posted by cuckold
Longtime poster, first time socker (well, there was one other time, but it really didn't mean anything).

So here's my problem: I have just found out that my wife is having an affair. I love my wife (but reserve the right to change my mind about this), so this is, well, distressing. Or maybe I should say OH MY GOD I CAN BELIEVE SHE'S SLEEPING WITH THAT SON OF A BITCH.

Anyway, I'm a bit freaked out, so any words of encouragement would be nice. I'm not expecting any, especially as a sock, but I had to get this off my chest somewhere.

As an added bonus, if you want to pick on me, I discovered the whole thing by snooping through her e-mail (although she did leave it open on the computer - what's a guy to do when he glances at it and notices an oddly large number of e-mails from "Bill"?).

1. I realize you may not be thinking straight, but don't say "added bonus". It's redundant.

2. I'm sorry this has hit you as a shock, but I think it's naive to expect that people won't cheat. Trust gets betrayed casually every day. It happens. Don't get all emotional about it. If you want to stay with your wife, just pretend nothing's happening and realize if you want to stay married to her, you have to accept her, warts* and all. Or else move on. Do you have children?


*actually, if she has warts, and you still married her, I would have to question your judgment.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
1. I realize you may not be thinking straight, but don't say "added bonus". It's redundant.

What if there is already one bonus and he/she is referring to an additional bonus?

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
What if there is already one bonus and he/she is referring to an additional bonus?

Excellent point.

[Penske_Account]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
Obnoxious landscaping is even worse than a perfectly mowed lawn.

What NFH's neighborhood (and similar neighborhoods) needs is a nice dose of napalm.

Remember that when you and Sequels successfully breed and then move north to get the little ones into New Trier.

[sgtclub]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
2. I'm sorry this has hit you as a shock, but I think it's naive to expect that people won't cheat.

2 - I just can't figure out why people get married in the first place.

[Replaced_Texan]

I offer almond tequila as an awesome booze to drown your sorrows in.

Damn, that stuff was good. We went through three bottles on Sunday night, and there was serious discussion of launching an expedition to Mexico to get some more. Apparently, you can't get whatever it was that we were drinking here. Fortunately, reason (sort of) prevailed, and we nearly killed each other with fireworks instead.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally posted by Penske_Account
Remember that when you and Sequels successfully breed and then move north to get the little ones into New Trier.

Never. Nothing is worse than the North Shore. Overpriced farmland. Nothing builds character like going to a shitty public school. Hinsdale Central it is.

[sebastian_dangerfield]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
2. I'm sorry this has hit you as a shock, but I think it's naive to expect that people won't cheat. Trust gets betrayed casually every day. It happens. Don't get all emotional about it. If you want to stay with your wife, just pretend nothing's happening and realize if you want to stay married to her, you have to accept her, warts* and all. Or else move on. Do you have children?

I have to disagree on this... If you go into the marriage knowing the wife may cheat, or you have an open marriage, then I agree. You should not be shocked, and you really can't complain. BUT, if the wife expected you to be monogamous and then cheats, you've got a right to be pissed. And you've got a free pass to cheat all you like. If you stay with such a person, you'll have to cheat... because thats the only way any person with a stitch of self respect could stay in such an arrangement. What kind of person could stay faithful to a person he/she knew was cheating on em? You'd have to have absolutely no self esteem. You can't just wipe something like this under the rug, or pass it off as mere "warts." You either do the open marriage (whether openly or covertly) or you walk.

And I have to disagree about accepting cavalierly your spouse's cheating. I don't like monogamy any more than any other person, but its the hand I was dealt. And frankly, I've had enough ass in my life to know that the coolness of getting some "strange" won't outweigh the seismic disaster to my psyche a divorce would bring.

But thats why I got married late, after I'd sown my oats. There's a funny thing I notice about guys I work with who cheat a lot. Many of them are dweeby. They got hitched early and didn't get much action as youngsters. This isn't to say that all cheating men are insecure dweebs - I also know many serial cheaters who are just born players. Thats what they do. But they're the minority. Most of the guys who cheat are just tools who get led around by their dicks because they never got any serious female attention until a secretary enamored with their wallet offerd them some. I thank God my outsized ego and moderate success with the ladies through my lengthy single life have always ensured I'd never be one of those guys... Ain't nothing worse than an aging dork getting taken for his bank in divorce court. I haven't taken shit serious in my whole life, but the idea of hurting my wife is pretty repulsive to me. I don't think everyone takes the marriage contract so lightly.

Now, that said, if my wife offered me free passes to screw around or said it wouldn't hurt her, shit... thats a no brainer. I'd be the first to mess around.

[Penske_Account]

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
. Do you have children?


.

You should caveat that, "that he knows of".

[Penske_Account]

Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
Never. Nothing is worse than the North Shore. Overpriced farmland. Nothing builds character like going to a shitty public school. Hinsdale Central it is.

Famous last words.