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Did you just call me Coltrane? · 03-09-2004, 06:48 PM

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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Sure. But I know plenty of complete scumbags who go through those motions and have zero respect for the subjects of said gestures.

TM

Yep, many times those guys are the same guys who demand their wives stay home, make babies, cook them dinner and clean their house. They're traditional in EVERY way.

robustpuppy · 03-09-2004, 06:49 PM

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Originally posted by dtb
And smacks oh-so-painfully of that cheeseball (what was his name? Vic Damone?) in Fast Times at Ridgemont High.

"And the lady will have... the mozzarella sticks..."

If that's not cringeworthy, I don't know what is.

What are you talking about? An order of mozzerella sticks is always appropriate.

Well, unless your date is lactose intolerant. I suppose a true gentleman would run out to Duane Reade for lactaid pills for the laydie.

sebastian_dangerfield · 03-09-2004, 06:50 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I think I missed this discussion, but I did not realize this was "proper etiquette". My brother-in-law gave my little sister a rolex after she gave birth and she said it made her feel weird. Like she was being paid to have their kid. Our consensus was that he was just trying to be nice, but it was kind of weird. I think I would feel odd about it too.

You give a Rolex to Archie in sales as an Xmas gift if he doubles his target numbers for the year. It ain't a romantic "I love you and our new child" gift.

Replaced_Texan · 03-09-2004, 06:51 PM

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Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
I would wager a lot that he is actually doing it wrong, though even doing it right can have a big squick factor if you misjudge your target (i.e.: the woman has not presented her hand horozontally so as to indicate that the gentleman is permitted to bow over it). There is a reason this maneouver is not traditionally correct unless the woman in question is wearing gloves. And he should certainly never make contact with the back of the hand, or actually do anything with his lips, that is just disgusting. But about 50% of the time this has been tried on me it is sucessful. Every time it has not been sucessful, it has been done wrong (including once when the move was done right but in a business setting, which is obviously wrong). I've seen about the same sucess rate with cheek kissing.
Only sensible way to live in a time of changing standards. It would be nice if the elderly or disabled gentlemen I open doors for or offer seats would be as polite.

No, this particular person manages to generate a general feeling of squickiness (if not yet invented, I hereby claim the term) that pretty any physical contact unnerves women. The fact that he goes the extra mile with the hand kiss thing (he's known in our circle of friends as the hand kissy guy) makes him that much worse.

I've never had any problem with cheek kissing, unless it's been a question of one cheek or two.

Shape Shifter · 03-09-2004, 06:51 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I think I missed this discussion, but I did not realize this was "proper etiquette". My brother-in-law gave my little sister a rolex after she gave birth and she said it made her feel weird. Like she was being paid to have their kid. Our consensus was that he was just trying to be nice, but it was kind of weird. I think I would feel odd about it too.

Agreed. That's too much to pay for a child.

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 03-09-2004, 06:52 PM

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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
. It ain't a romantic "I love you and our new child" gift.

Is there such a thing? Other than a pack of diapers and some earplugs?

Fugee · 03-09-2004, 06:53 PM

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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
You rest your argument based on what your girlfriends tell you?

I should have known this was a pointless discussion.

TM

I knew it was pointless the first time you got on your "Fugee, you are such a moron, I'm always right" soapbox. But it's kind of fun to poke the bear every once in awhile.

Shape Shifter · 03-09-2004, 06:54 PM

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Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
Is there such a thing? Other than a pack of diapers and some earplugs?

Whatever happened to whiskey and smokes? Maybe chivalry is dead.

taxwonk · 03-09-2004, 06:56 PM

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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
So, let me get this straight. Charlie is Wonk, right? Did you guys have flamboyant sex or what?

TM

Nasty little cunt. One of these days I'm going to slap the snarky right out of you.

ThurgreedMarshall · 03-09-2004, 06:56 PM

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Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
And I've known plenty of people who have respect for others but offend everyone they meet because people aren't mind readers and can only judge others based whether their behavior conforms to known forms of showing respect, not intent.

Good God. You equate your examples with "known forms of showing respect?" They are outdated. That's a fact. If I walk through a door and hold it for you until you take it, I am not being disrespectful in 2004. That's the way it is. All the stuff you listed may get you excited, but it's not expected by anyone other than you, Fugee and that old bat who wanted to go ahead of me with 50 grocery items at the supermarket the other day.

People who offend everyone they meet are operating on another level and you bringing them up brings nothing to the conversation.

People who do not conform to your 8 inch thick book of etiquette, but treat people with respect do not offend anyone (besides those of us who can't let go of outdated ideas of what is and isn't the right thing to do). And I'm not losing any sleep about offending those people.

TM

dtb · 03-09-2004, 06:56 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I think I missed this discussion, but I did not realize this was "proper etiquette". My brother-in-law gave my little sister a rolex after she gave birth and she said it made her feel weird. Like she was being paid to have their kid. Our consensus was that he was just trying to be nice, but it was kind of weird. I think I would feel odd about it too.

Eh -- I think I could get over it.

Any sort of jewel-oriented gift from my husband would stun me like a Tazer gun. For my 30th birthday, he bought me a plant. Yes, that's right... a plant.

On another birthday, he got me nothing. That's right. Bupkus. Zero. Zilch. However, he did buy HIMSELF a lovely watch -- on MY birthday.

Bad_Rich_Chic · 03-09-2004, 06:56 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I think I missed this discussion, but I did not realize this was "proper etiquette".

It isn't, though I'd say flowers are nearly mandatory (certainly moreso that for other hospitalized invalids you know, since the husband is, really, somewhat responsible for putting her there). But I admit it for the most part seems nice. And maybe like a good defensive move if she's the sort to grab a man's nuts in the delivery room and bellow "you motherfucker, you did this to me!!!!"

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My brother-in-law gave my little sister a rolex after she gave birth and she said it made her feel weird. Like she was being paid to have their kid. Our consensus was that he was just trying to be nice, but it was kind of weird. I think I would feel odd about it too.

I would feel weird about a rolex. I would not feel weird about, say, an obscenely garish piece of jewelry set with the baby's birthstones, however. Dunno why. It may just be my love of obscenely garish jewelry coming out.

Did you just call me Coltrane? · 03-09-2004, 06:56 PM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan

I've never had any problem with cheek kissing, unless it's been a question of one cheek or two.

Two of my friends' wives give the lips to lips greeting to me and others. Luckily they are both attractive.

Hank Chinaski · 03-09-2004, 06:57 PM

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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
I've never gotten angry about it, but all the guys I've been with have been pretty decent in that regard I guess. The fear of accidently falling in during a middle of the night pee is the only thing that has gotten to me. I'm pretty big on completely closing the toilet seat cover when you are finished in the bathroom anyway because it just looks better that way.

toilet rudeness goes both ways-
In college my girlfriend lived in a house with three other girls. None of them had boyfriends. When I first went there they had a spider plant hanging above the toilet- you know long tendrals hanging down. The tendrals were above the head of the seated, but in my face when standing to pee.

Once things got good she took it down for me- ah love. But I could always tell when she was about to dump my ass, because she'd put the plant back.

ThurgreedMarshall · 03-09-2004, 06:57 PM

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Originally posted by Fugee
I knew it was pointless the first time you got on your "Fugee, you are such a moron, I'm always right" soapbox. But it's kind of fun to poke the bear every once in awhile.

You would think so, but when was the last time you had a date?

TM