Fashion Board 3-5-04 to 4-6-04 - Page 34

robustpuppy · 03-09-2004, 06:59 PM

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Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
Is there such a thing? Other than a pack of diapers and some earplugs?

Sure. Hiring a full time nurse/nanny/doula (sp?) to be there for a week or two after the birth. Not inviting your mother to stay for two weeks after the birth, unless that's what your wife wants. Planning a tropical getaway for the latest point at which the expectant mom can travel and enjoy herself. Bringing a masseuse, pedicurist, or hair stylist in when mom still feels too housebound to go out without baby for several hours. Having a jacuzzi installed. Promising that the minivan will be "your" car, while she gets to keep driving the roomy yet still stylish four door sedan. Investigating the child care options for when her maternity leave is up. Being supportive when she says she wants to stay home.

Of course, I'm not a mom, so I'm just speculating.

greatwhitenorthchick · 03-09-2004, 06:59 PM

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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
You give a Rolex to Archie in sales as an Xmas gift if he doubles his target numbers for the year. It ain't a romantic "I love you and our new child" gift.

Agreed. I just think any gift would feel like payment at that time.

And, depending on the kid, not necessarily a fair price (thanks, SS).

SlaveNoMore · 03-09-2004, 07:00 PM

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Not Bob
Sure she does. Brian Leetch in a different shade of blue, and Ronnie Francis playing for his boyhood favorite.

Oddly enough, I have a much, much easier time dealing with this than with Matthew Barnaby wearing that blue-purple sweater. Hopefully, we'll resign him after the playoffs as a FA and give him the captain "C"

On a related note, it's great to see Sandy McCarthy back.

Pretty Little Flower · 03-09-2004, 07:01 PM

Just for the record, I did not support this man or his organization:

http://www.nytimes.com/aponline/inte...-Abbas.html?hp

sebastian_dangerfield · 03-09-2004, 07:01 PM

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Originally posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?
Two of my friends' wives give the lips to lips greeting to me and others. Luckily they are both attractive.

I usually do the cheek, but most of my female friends do the lip to lip hello. I sometimes kiss the cheek anyway, and I've often wondered if its rude to do so if the other person may be expecting the lip to lip service.

sebastian_dangerfield · 03-09-2004, 07:03 PM

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Originally posted by robustpuppy
Sure. Hiring a full time nurse/nanny/doula (sp?) to be there for a week or two after the birth. Not inviting your mother to stay for two weeks after the birth, unless that's what your wife wants. Planning a tropical getaway for the latest point at which the expectant mom can travel and enjoy herself. Bringing a masseuse, pedicurist, or hair stylist in when mom still feels too housebound to go out without baby for several hours. Having a jacuzzi installed. Promising that the minivan will be "your" car, while she gets to keep driving the roomy yet still stylish four door sedan. Investigating the child care options for when her maternity leave is up. Being supportive when she says she wants to stay home.

Of course, I'm not a mom, so I'm just speculating.

How about getting her a gym membership?

Bad_Rich_Chic · 03-09-2004, 07:03 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
Agreed. I just think any gift would feel like payment at that time.

Huh. Why?

Fugee · 03-09-2004, 07:04 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I think I missed this discussion, but I did not realize this was "proper etiquette". My brother-in-law gave my little sister a rolex after she gave birth and she said it made her feel weird. Like she was being paid to have their kid. Our consensus was that he was just trying to be nice, but it was kind of weird. I think I would feel odd about it too.

I don't think this is an etiquette rule. A former co-worker bought his wife a little piece of jewelry that had the birthstone of their first child and gave it to her. Back in some long ago discussion, I mentioned I thought this was a nice gesture to say, as Sebby suggested, "I love you and our new child." TM, as expected, vehemently disagreed.

Thurgreed may be confusing it with my discussion of taking my BIL shopping for a Christmas gift for my sister in which I insisted he buy her a piece of jewelry (again, nothing on the scale of a Rolex, just something more considerate than his usual clueless trick of getting her a box of chocolates and then ragging on her weight so he gets to eat them all, which he did for Valentine's Day because I forgot to call him in time).

ETA: Gwinky would be Thurgreed's ideal woman if she wasn't already taken.

robustpuppy · 03-09-2004, 07:05 PM

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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
How about getting her a gym membership?

How about getting her a divorce lawyer?

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 03-09-2004, 07:07 PM

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Originally posted by robustpuppy

Of course, I'm not a mom, so I'm just speculating.

Curiously, you sound like a mom who's really pissed off at what her husband didn't do for her.

Tip to whoever it was: Pawn the rolex. Unless you're in Philly, you can get more than 50 bucks for it. Buy one of RP's suggestions.

robustpuppy · 03-09-2004, 07:10 PM

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Originally posted by Fugee
Thurgreed may be confusing it with my discussion of taking my BIL shopping for a Christmas gift for my sister in which I insisted he buy her a piece of jewelry (again, nothing on the scale of a Rolex, just something more considerate than his usual clueless trick of getting her a box of chocolates and then ragging on her weight so he gets to eat them all, which he did for Valentine's Day because I forgot to call him in time).

Maybe you should get your sister a divorce lawyer. He doesn't sound clueless, he sounds like a prick. A husband who "rags on" his wife's weight isn't worth having.

greatwhitenorthchick · 03-09-2004, 07:10 PM

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Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
Huh. Why?

like remuneration for services rendered. He doesn't pay me for sex (at least not directly), why would I get paid for having a baby?

edited to note that I now have Paul Anka in my head, thank you very much.

robustpuppy · 03-09-2004, 07:11 PM

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Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
Curiously, you sound like a mom who's really pissed off at what her husband didn't do for her.

Tip to whoever it was: Pawn the rolex. Unless you're in Philly, you can get more than 50 bucks for it. Buy one of RP's suggestions.

Why do you think I sound pissed? Other than the bold your mother, which, admittedly, has some, uh, resonance.

Bad_Rich_Chic · 03-09-2004, 07:16 PM

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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
like remuneration for services rendered. He doesn't pay me for sex (at least not directly), why would I get paid for having a baby?

But why would your default presumption be that the intention was one of payment for services rather than "here's an engraveable token to commorate this terrific event"? I can see thinking that about some gifts in some situations (e.g.: rolling over after felatio and saying "that was great baby, here's a diamond bracelet, let me call you a cab"), but this doesn't seem like one of them to me.

Shape Shifter · 03-09-2004, 07:19 PM

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Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
But why would your default presumption be that the intention was one of payment for services rather than "here's an engraveable token to commorate this terrific event"?

Or you just write that on the re: line of a check.