Fashion Board 1-08-04 through 02-03-04

[Anne Elk]

Originally posted by Shape Shifter
If I got dumped by email, I would not respond.

I responded to the bastard with a phone call (but only because we needed to arrange for the 'stuff exchange').

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
Sob story

Check the heading, if your address appears after "bcc" definitely do not respond.

Otherwise, you have complete freedom to do or say whatever you like, within the bounds of the law. She has unceremoniously dumped you in a completely heartless fashion. If sending her a rant in any way, shape or form makes you feel better, go for it. If you feel like sending her a simple "That's OK, I was just looking for sex anyways" or some other similar missive, why not?

Consider this as a free shot. But take the shot electronically. Maybe she'll pick up a bit of courtesy for the next time.

[Bad_Rich_Chic]

Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
The facts: She's beautiful, sweet, smart, teaches grade school. We met, we went out on two dates, which were long, a bit intense in terms of conversation, had a fully clothed makeout session. Verbally confirmed mutual attraction. Agreed to a future date. After I call and leave a message, I don't hear from her. I leave another message a week later, saying I hadn't heard back from her, could she please call and me know she's OK.

She responds by email that says:
"I am sorry that I didn't get back to you -- I've just been sitting with the idea of getting involved with you -- I've had some reservations about it and just needed to think about it.
I enjoy your company we've definitely had some great laughs- thank you for that.
At this point- I'd like to leave it there."

Would YOU, fashionistas, respond to this, and if so, what would you say?

She suffers from "I Have To Be Completely Honest About My Feelings" disease, which is not a good sign in general, but whatever.

I'd just send her an e-mail back saying something like "I had a good time too, sorry you don't see it going anywhere. Keep in touch -" That basically says "OK, this is over unless you contact me with renewed interest and at that future time we affirmatively decide otherwise." If this one wants to start something up again after that e-mail, the onus should now be on her to approach you with a clear offer. You don't need this second-guessing "I'm so ambvialent, what do I want in this Relationship" shit after 2 dates.

Then go out and get a new date, preferably with someone who can handle the idea of "dating isn't marriage requiring some sort of deep committment that needs serious thought."

edited to add: I am still sort of amused/shocked that someone is so idiotic/neurotic as to have "ooh, can I handle this relationship" angst after two fucking dates. Then again, maybe she just has so little social skill that she doesn't realize the appropriate and univerasally acknowledged "thanks but no thanks" response is to be busy 3x in a row with no explanation, in which case she is just an idiot but maybe only acting neurotic because she has no manners.

Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
This is the same FBA from months ago who met a woman who stressed the importance of her mate being passionate about his career, being successful, and having ambition.

New year, new woman, and now no woman. I'm not all that torn up about this one, would just let it go, but still pondering whether I might either make one more attempt, or send a flame.

The facts: She's beautiful, sweet, smart, teaches grade school. We met, we went out on two dates, which were long, a bit intense in terms of conversation, had a fully clothed makeout session. Verbally confirmed mutual attraction. Agreed to a future date. After I call and leave a message, I don't hear from her. I leave another message a week later, saying I hadn't heard back from her, could she please call and me know she's OK.

She responds by email that says:
"I am sorry that I didn't get back to you -- I've just been sitting with the idea of getting involved with you -- I've had some reservations about it and just needed to think about it.
I enjoy your company we've definitely had some great laughs- thank you for that.
At this point- I'd like to leave it there."

Would YOU, fashionistas, respond to this, and if so, what would you say?

a) Dont EVER send someone the "I wantd to make sure you were ok" email bc its passive aggressive for "why are you vanishing on me?" with a desperate hint of "I want you to think I am worried you are dead so you might get around to replying". IF I was on the fence on someone and got that, I would get off the fence ont he side you werent on. Sorry. And I am a desperate old spinster so you can imagine how a young hottie with options might feel.

b) why reply? She took a pass and unless you really feel like you need to know if it was a specific reason, there is no point bc she isnt gonna change her mind.

[Shape Shifter]

This guy was recently sentenced to 90 days in jail for breaking into houses to steal thongs. He also has to pay $8,900 in restitution. He was found with 854 thongs. 854. That's like, one for every day of the year or something.

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/doc_o_day/doc_o_day.html

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by soup sandwich
"Sorry to hear this. Good luck."

You have already let her know you're interested in her by calling. Thus, there's no reason to go over it again. Also, asking her for specifics regarding her "reservations" seems a little desperate to me, so don't do that either. The best course of action is to express a little regret as to her decision and then walk. Rationally walking away from a relationship can only make you more attractive to her.

The use of "rational" and "relationship" in the same sentence was really pretty funny.

[purse junkie]

Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
She responds by email that says:
"I am sorry that I didn't get back to you -- I've just been sitting with the idea of getting involved with you -- I've had some reservations about it and just needed to think about it.
I enjoy your company we've definitely had some great laughs- thank you for that.
At this point- I'd like to leave it there."

Would YOU, fashionistas, respond to this, and if so, what would you say?

Yes, take the high road, even though she's low-rent and cold for blowing you off via email--it makes you look good to her and anyone else word gets around to. "Thanks for getting back to me, take care."

Incidentally, she sounds like she has baggage. Who needs that?

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
She has unceremoniously dumped you in a completely heartless fashion. If sending her a rant in any way, shape or form makes you feel better, go for it. If you feel like sending her a simple "That's OK, I was just looking for sex anyways" or some other similar missive, why not?

Because that would make him a dick.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
Because that would make him a dick.

Yes, but who cares? Sometimes, you need some self-expression for your own sake. If, however, there is not feeling of relief from expressing some petty nastiness, it's not worth it.

Do we know FBA is a him?

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
Check the heading, if your address appears after "bcc" definitely do not respond.

Otherwise, you have complete freedom to do or say whatever you like, within the bounds of the law. She has unceremoniously dumped you in a completely heartless fashion. If sending her a rant in any way, shape or form makes you feel better, go for it. If you feel like sending her a simple "That's OK, I was just looking for sex anyways" or some other similar missive, why not?

Consider this as a free shot. But take the shot electronically. Maybe she'll pick up a bit of courtesy for the next time.

Why risk getting Tripplehornied?

[purse junkie]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
If sending her a rant in any way, shape or form makes you feel better, go for it.

Consider this as a free shot. But take the shot electronically. Maybe she'll pick up a bit of courtesy for the next time.

No, no, no. You only get a free shot on a rant if you never have them otherwise, if you're completely wasted, and if you're normally so polite drunk or sober it can't be attributed to anything but a freak side effect of your astonishing alcohol intoxication, so you're immediately and totally forgiven by everyone on every side of the situation.

Worked beautifully for me.

[dtb]

Originally posted by Oliver_Wendell_Ramone
Well, no wonder you're cranky. I can't imaging getting a decent night's sleep while housed at a craps table.

This seems like a good time to bring this up. The only time I've played craps was at some benefit thingy where there were real AC dealers and tables, but the money wasn't "real" -- everyone got $50 of "fake" money for free, and you could buy additional fake money, but I didn't need to because I CLEANED UP at the craps table. The dealers (I think you still call them dealers, even though there aren't any cards) were instructing me on how to play, and what's what -- and there is one time when they said (after the come-out roll) where you should ALWAYS double down.

So, my question -- what is the situation when you should always double down? I can't remember what it is, and I'm going to a gambling locale next month and would like to play craps for REAL!



Edited to correct abominable noun-verb agreement mistake -- I'm so ashamed!

[taxwonk]

Originally posted by paigowprincess
You might want to update the menu. Who eats bearded clams anymore?

She's got a point. I understand the hot item on the market these days is Brazilian clams. No word on whether they serve them with cocktail sauce, chimmichurri, or in their own natural broth.

[Shape Shifter]

Astros sign Clemens to one-year deal.

http://www.chron.com/cs/CDA/ssistory...story2/2349160

Haiku not included.

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally posted by dtb
The dealer (I think you still call them dealers, even though there aren't any cards)

The word you're looking for is croupier. Croupier.