General discussion - Mom and Dad Esq.

I got home late last night and was greeted by Mr. Lex who says, "How do you feel about moving to [Out of state city not remotely close to here]." Apparently a job opened up that is pretty much his dream job and would pay roughly what we are both making right now (maybe a little less). Of course I am not licensed in this new state and would have to give up my niche business as it would not translate well to out-of-state (given his qualifications, he is probably a shoo-in). Too soon to worry as he has not actually gotten the job, but eeek! Also my parents are here and they are the only family I have (OK, and one mildly flakey brother) - not sure I could take the baby away from them. Has anyone moved in a similar situation and survived?

-T(panicking!!!)L

[baltassoc]

Originally posted by TexLex
I got home late last night and was greeted by Mr. Lex who says, "How do you feel about moving to [Out of state city not remotely close to here]." Apparently a job opened up that is pretty much his dream job and would pay roughly what we are both making right now (maybe a little less). Of course I am not licensed in this new state and would have to give up my niche business as it would not translate well to out-of-state (given his qualifications, he is probably a shoo-in). Too soon to worry as he has not actually gotten the job, but eeek! Also my parents are here and they are the only family I have (OK, and one mildly flakey brother) - not sure I could take the baby away from them. Has anyone moved in a similar situation and survived?

-T(panicking!!!)L

Not the first part, but the second. Depite the moniker, I am not a mid-Atlantic native; the baltspouse is. While we didn't move, just about her entire family did over the last couple of years (retirement), and my nearest family is in Ohio. So we spend a lot of time travelling, and so do our parents. It works out. The biggest thing we envy of our friend who have local grandparents is the "free" babysitting. But we manage.

As to your moving, unless your specialty is local-tied litigation, don't underestimate your ability to transport clients. When I was in private practice, over half my clients were from outside the immediate area (saying "out of state" doesn't mean much here). Now that I'm inhouse, I work with outside counsel from all over the country. Except for matters of local litigation, we really don't care where someone is.

If his income is going to be such that (adjusted for COL differences) you are in the same place, this may be a great chance to reduce your workload a little and maybe exploring other options.

On the other hand, if you really don't see bringing along your clients and you really love you specialty, I don't envy your choices. I know from personal experience and the experience of my parents that this can be a wrenching series of choices. I give you one caution, though: my parents, who were both professionals in industries where each finding a job where the other transfered would be difficult, let that difficulty act an inertia constraining both their careers. Neither got to the top of their potential becasue each kept turning down jobs where it would be difficult for the other to find employment. I think they're okay with that fact, looking back, but they realize what they gave up for certainty and stability.

I told you to put your canned posts on the most relevant board and not to Spam the rest of the site.

If anyone wants to read this post, it will remain on politics.

RT

Originally posted by baltassoc
The biggest thing we envy of our friend who have local grandparents is the "free" babysitting.

That and the Lexling is my parents' only grandbaby - it seems rather cruel to take him away (and them from him). Hubby has some friends in the new area (his home state, though not home city), but I don't know anyone.

As to your moving, unless your specialty is local-tied litigation, don't underestimate your ability to transport clients.

Very local. I don't think I could transport at all. I would probably train a good friend of mine to handle my clients and give him the business. I also don't think the sort of work I do even exists in the new place, so I would have to do something else (which is fine - I have done other work before) even if I had to resort to doing Ch7s, though this state does have reciprocity w/ TX.

This would really be an awesome opportunity for Mr Lex. I guess we'll see... I'm supposed to be updating his resume. Is it that wrong to misspell a few words?

-TL

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally posted by TexLex

This would really be an awesome opportunity for Mr Lex. I guess we'll see... I'm supposed to be updating his resume. Is it that wrong to misspell a few words?

-TL

Instead of screwing him, can you work out a deal with him if it comes through? Like, he'll look for other similar opportunities back in Texas in five years or something? Or, you have to get a big enough house to have the grandparents be able to stay?

Sorry the armadillo stew thing doesn't have a clientele outside texas.

Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
...he'll look for other similar opportunities back in Texas in five years or something?

If we leave, we probably won't be back - he doesn't like it here - never has.

Sorry the armadillo stew thing doesn't have a clientele outside texas.

Mmmm, armadillo stew.

-TL

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally posted by TexLex
If we leave, we probably won't be back - he doesn't like it here - never has.

Sounds like more than just a job issue here. He probably sees it as a good excuse to get out of Texas as well. And if you block it/object, you're stifling more than just his job opportunities. Vexing.

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
Sounds like more than just a job issue here. He probably sees it as a good excuse to get out of Texas as well. And if you block it/object, you're stifling more than just his job opportunities. Vexing.

Exactly. And this is why I am so glad I never have to make these kinds of decisions.

Oh....shit...wait....

Never mind.

Good luck, TL.

[Iniquity]

Anyone know what age handedness emerges?

[Atticus Grinch]

Originally posted by Iniquity
Anyone know what age handedness emerges?

If you haven't developed hands by age 7, it probably isn't going to happen.

BPOTD!

[tmdiva]

Originally posted by Iniquity
Anyone know what age handedness emerges?

My ped told me no earlier than 2. Magnus is 3 1/2 and still ambidextrous for some things (throwing, eating), but has developed definite handedness in others (bats left, writes right).

tm

It may depend on how much you do to encourage it (e.g., always putting the spoon in kid's dominant hand when s/he is learning to eat, etc.). I don't really know what the current learning is on whether it's beneficial to cultivate hand-dominance, but we did, and our kids had a clearly dominant hand by 9 or 10 months.

[Not Flinty]

Originally posted by credit this
It may depend on how much you do to encourage it (e.g., always putting the spoon in kid's dominant hand when s/he is learning to eat, etc.). I don't really know what the current learning is on whether it's beneficial to cultivate hand-dominance, but we did, and our kids had a clearly dominant hand by 9 or 10 months.

Our doctor said it was much later than that. Nutty.

(Iniquity = Not Flinty = Ty.)

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally posted by tmdiva
My ped told me no earlier than 2. Magnus is 3 1/2 and still ambidextrous for some things (throwing, eating), but has developed definite handedness in others (bats left, writes right).

tm

that means he's ambidextrous. we still choose a dominant hand for skill tasks, its just that it could be either.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
that means he's ambidextrous. we still choose a dominant hand for skill tasks, its just that it could be either.

I'm poison on this board. a piece of voice of experience and i kill the board. sorry.