General discussion - Mom and Dad Esq.

[ABBAKiss]

I heard a rumor that Britney Spears is engaged to Kevin Federline and may be pregnant. Is this true? Did we already discuss this but I am too lazy to scroll then post?

That dude is NOT hot. Britney is not looking all that great these days either.

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
I heard a rumor that Britney Spears is engaged to Kevin Federline and may be pregnant. Is this true? Did we already discuss this but I am too lazy to scroll then post?

That dude is NOT hot. Britney is not looking all that great these days either.

The rumour was mentioned on the fashion board.

[ABBAKiss]

Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
The rumour was mentioned on the fashion board.

How did I get on the Mom & Dad board? Very strange. No wonder nothing was appealing to me today.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)
rumour

When did you go Canadian (or brit)?

[Atticus Grinch]

Originally posted by ABBAKiss
How did I get on the Mom & Dad board? Very strange. No wonder nothing was appealing to me today.

Classic symptom of morning sickness. Mazel tov!

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
When did you go Canadian (or brit)?

when I read the rumour was posted in the Sun or some other limey tabloid.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by tmdiva
He's pushing four, right? Or am I confusing you with all the others, along with me, who have kids that age (Weed, Sidd, Ollie, and I think Pony)?

We haven't started chapter books yet, though now that you mention it, it's not a bad idea. Magnus is very advanced academically, but not so much socially, so we've been working on cooperative play with others, etc. His reading hasn't improved much in the last few months, because he's gotten on a geography sidetrack. He had already mastered US states and capitals (hooray for puzzles!), and now he's rapidly mastering continents, countries and their capitals, plus the states of Mexico and provinces of Canada and their capitals.

Hmm, maybe a chapter book with lots of geography? Anyone have any ideas? Around the World in 80 Days?

tm

I'd recommend poetry as some good early non-picture book reading. Dylan Thomas' Xmas in Wales, TS' cats, a little Lewis Carroll or some Kipling.

[viet_mom]

I am encountering a strange phenomenom (sp?). Sometimes I meet men in the park, grocery store, etc., and we both have our respective kiddies and we chat. Now mind you I'm not on the lookout for Vietdad or anything, but if the guy's cute I admit to checking out the ole ring finger. Some interesting things that are occurring:

1. First, so many married men don't wear their ring. Don't tell me all the bonafide reasons you don't wear it. It's annoying and that's that.

2. For men that DO wear the ring: At first I thought, with some men, "Gee, isn't it strange that it's 1/2 hour into the conversation and I still can't get a view of that ring finger." Now however, I realize it's intentional. Mind you, the guy is NOT hitting on me (I have yet to have a married man hit on me while out with Vietbabe). We're talking diapers, daycare, very basic things, and the man is acting very very proper and not being flirtatious at all. But he's still hiding the ring.

3. Same as above - he is married but either isn't wearing a ring or is wearing it and is hiding it -- but additionally, he is conversing in such a way that I have no way to tell if he's married. At first I thought it was just an unintentional thing, kind of like "Pat" from Saturday Night Live saying/doing gender neutral things so you can't figure out her gender. But THEN I realized these guys are using awkward terminology in trying to have a big conversation without disclosing their marital status. This peculiar phrasing goes beyond the classic resort to using the word, "they" when the man has to refer to "the other person" but doesn't want to say "she." They also say stuff like "I read him to get to sleep" or "I use such and such daycare center" and in many cases if the guy has a wife, it would be much more normal to say "We".

So....given that these men are not hitting on me, they for some reason don't want me to know they are married unless it ultimately has to come out in the conversation. The only thing I can think of is that they know I'm single (it comes up with the obvious adoption a lot when they ask me about the process, which is different for singles) and they don't want to rub it in my face that they are not single (or they are showing some camaderie of a sort). Or maybe instead....although these men are not hitting on me at all and seem like dedicated husbands and fathers, a teensy part of every man has a hard time giving up the allusion that they are single.

Viet Mom
(Men should have to wear that marital-status-conveying-dot between their eyes that women in South Asia wear. Apologies to DTB for the hyphens).

"Or maybe instead....although these men are not hitting on me at all and seem like dedicated husbands and fathers, a teensy part of every man has a hard time giving up the allusion that they are single."

Assuming they are happily married, I'm guessing they think it is kinda fun to see if they still have "it" while not actually doing anything horribly offensive. Entertainment more than anything else - and a little ego boost to boot. Either that or it is a giant conspiracy against you.

-TL

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by TexLex
"Or maybe instead....although these men are not hitting on me at all and seem like dedicated husbands and fathers, a teensy part of every man has a hard time giving up the allusion that they are single."

Assuming they are happily married, I'm guessing they think it is kinda fun to see if they still have "it" while not actually doing anything horribly offensive. Entertainment more than anything else - and a little ego boost to boot. Either that or it is a giant conspiracy against you.

-TL

Man, TL, motherhood has made you way too nice.

[Atticus Grinch]

Originally posted by TexLex
Assuming they are happily married, I'm guessing they think it is kinda fun to see if they still have "it" while not actually doing anything horribly offensive. Entertainment more than anything else - and a little ego boost to boot.

Miss Manners (the real one, not BRC) has written about the lost art of flirting. Once upon a time, in polite society you could safely flatter and hint at (or even feign) attraction despite being married. Nowadays, any married man who doesn't respond to the presence of a pretty girl as if he is p-whipped is seen as a lech and a cad.

Flirting is a valuable way to remind oneself and others that you, and they, are attractive. I feel free to flirt because Mrs. Grinch knows exactly where I keep my nutsack, and we both know what lies in store for it if I stray. But she doesn't mind overmuch if I bat my eyelashes at some PYT.

The guys who are hiding their rings, I don't understand. Chicks dig guys who can commit.

[soup sandwich]

Originally posted by Atticus Grinch
The guys who are hiding their rings, I don't understand. Chicks dig guys who can commit.

I agree with TexLex's theory. The men are justing seeing if they still have "it".

And like Atticus, I too am bewildered why men would hide the ring. Christ, I flaunt the ring. I think it enhances the illusion of the flirtation. I.e., "this chick is so into me that she doens't even care that I'm married."

Also, if the woman herself is married, maybe she would feel more comfortable flirting with a married guy (who, in theory, is not a threat to actually hit on her) than a single guy.

Bottom line: dudes who hide the ring are either losers, are looking to get a piece, or borh.

[Atticus Grinch]

Originally posted by soup sandwich
Bottom line: dudes who hide the ring are either losers, are looking to get a piece, or borh.

Concur. From what we're seeing in the Petersen trial, I'd run, not walk, from any married man who lied about his status.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by Atticus Grinch
Concur. From what we're seeing in the Petersen trial, I'd run, not walk, from any married man who lied about his status.

Why? He was cute, and he offed the wife, not the mistress.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally posted by ltl/fb
Why? He was cute, and he offed the wife, not the mistress.

Exactly, plus when you think about pulling away from a psycho guy, don't forget what we learned from OJ, not to mention going out of your way for customer service being outdated.