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[nononono]

Originally posted by patentparanyc
Look. my kids are in the country where city shit isn't relevant. we purposely try to protect them from it....the keeping up with the joneses....what do you think is going on in tony areas of westchester and long island and ct?? Kids and conspicuous consumption. we opted out for a better quality of life. the sports the good school system, the ability to have lots of pets.....space, that type of thing....so they can concentrate on being a kid. don't fault me on that one, pls.

And if you want to go there, bring it you don't think your kids don't sense your seething resentment of your ex? hmm?

TM's right: you're a brick. Pls. re-read my message and show me where I fault you for giving your kids pet-space.

PP, dear, if that was intended to hit me hard or somesuch, you'll have to try harder than that. See, the things that hurt - such as you and your appearance, your money, your house-husband, your parenting, your job, and on and on - hurt because they touch on an insecurity in you. You've missed the mark here.

[patentparanyc]

Originally posted by nononono
TM's right: you're a brick. Pls. re-read my message and show me where I fault you for giving your kids pet-space.

PP, dear, if that was intended to hit me hard or somesuch, you'll have to try harder than that. See, the things that hurt - such as you and your appearance, your money, your parenting, your job, and on and on - hurt because they touch on an insecurity in you. You've missed the mark here.

I am not a brick. you are faulting me for "trying to hide my shopping addiction" and thinking my kids don't sense that.

I am saying that the shopping addiction isn't something that is relevant due to our location....my kids won't turn into status monters since the other kiddies just don't have it...it's a different environ.

and I did piss you off I can sense it in your tone.

I'm just saying. Again. My parents are divorced. They were so caught up in their self absorption they couldn't see me and what my best needs my best interests were....and often, that is how divorced parents exist. In their own misery...and the kids see it. They become parentified children, it's sad.....it hurts them. or they are so intent on hurting one another they lose focus about the kids. it's awful.

[Penske_Account]

Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
whatev. I had to tell RT I was blind and braille typing to explain some of the early stuff, like the fectas. I'm just glad you're here. bff?

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!




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:cussing: :liar:

:fuckyou:

[nononono]

Originally posted by patentparanyc
I am not a brick. you are faulting me for "trying to hide my shopping addiction" and thinking my kids don't sense that.

I am saying that the shopping addiction isn't something that is relevant due to our location....my kids won't turn into status monters since the other kiddies just don't have it...it's a different environ.

and I did piss you off I can sense it in your tone.

Um, actually, no, you didn't. You way overestimate your abilities here. I've been irritated with you before, and at the moment I'm more just amused.

And as for your first two paragraphs, you're a blooming idiot, and I'm not even going to put myself through the agony of laying out exactly why in this instance. Suffice it to say, your reading comprehension both sucks and is further diminished by your over-emotionalism on this and pretty much all other points.

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally posted by patentparanyc
Kenneth Cole.

I was right about you piling on, sweetness.

I have never said one thing about you that is the least bit untrue. And I limit my comments about you to stuff you have said on the board. I have never once commented on your looks, your parenting, or your lifestyle.

You cannot say that you have done me the same courtesy.

If that means I am piling on, I can live with that.

[Pretty Little Flower]

Originally posted by patentparanyc
They were so caught up in their self absorption

In their defense, it is very hard not to be caught up in one's self absorption.

[pony_trekker]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
Pony. Stop. Think.

Would you want him coaching your kid?

My kid doesn't play football. and pony junior's arm sometimes gets wild when a parent he doesn't like is coaching 1st.

[nononono]

Originally posted by patentparanyc

I'm just saying. Again. My parents are divorced. They were so caught up in their self absorption they couldn't see me and what my best needs my best interests were....and often, that is how divorced parents exist. In their own misery...and the kids see it. They become parentified children, it's sad.....it hurts them. or they are so intent on hurting one another they lose focus about the kids. it's awful.

Oh, I posted before your edit. Sorry you experienced that and that your parents weren't self-aware and selfless enough to do everything they could to prevent that sort of damage and situation. Clearly, it carries with you, both in your interactions with the world and your one-dimensional view of others' lives. But you needn't project here. The single thing in the world my ex- and I do agree on, and on which I trust him and he trusts me, is to do everything in our power to put the littles first and for them to feel first and foremost loved. I'm not worried or insecure about that, but that is because it's a given and the very top priority in life. Were I guilty or neglectful or secretly ashamed about my behavior, I might try to project on others the worst of me. Instead, I just watch you do it.

[Penske_Account]

Originally posted by Pretty Little Flower
In their defense, it is very hard not to be caught up in one's self absorption.

2. I am, in a meta-penskian sort of way.

eta: ps: by the by, G'day old chap!

[pony_trekker]

Originally posted by patentparanyc
is it even about that? dude.

Yes. My point is that you shouldn't criticize a volunteer unless you are (a) willing to put in as much time and (b) can do it better.

[patentparanyc]

Originally posted by nononono
Oh, I posted before your edit. Sorry you experienced that and that your parents weren't self-aware and selfless enough to do everything they could to prevent that sort of damage and situation. Clearly, it carries with you, both in your interactions with the world and your one-dimensional view of others' lives. But you needn't project here. The single thing in the world my ex- and I do agree on, and on which I trust him and he trusts me, is to do everything in our power to put the littles first and for them to feel first and foremost loved. I'm not worried or insecure about that, but that is because it's a given and the very top priority in life. Were I guilty or neglectful or secretly ashamed about my behavior, I might try to project on others the worst of me. Instead, I just watch you do it.

Right, but my point is and perhaps you missed it...even the unsaid kids can pick up or sense that. If you resent him, say or are angy...which you've posted here. that was your point, no? With me? that my oldest can sense my "stress" level associated with clothes etc? well. my point is that your kids can probably as well pick up on the resentment as well, even if you're trying to protect them from it. to the best of your abilities.

[Pretty Little Flower]

Originally posted by Penske_Account
2. I am, in a meta-penskian sort of way.

eta: ps: by the by, G'day old chap!

And a very good day to you, sir. Oh, and many thanks for your valued participation in the Minnesota Board. It has really breathed some life into the place.

[patentparanyc]

Originally posted by pony_trekker
Yes. My point is that you shouldn't criticize a volunteer unless you are (a) willing to put in as much time and (b) can do it better.

Can't you object? is this not a democracy or a football dictatorship? since he volunteers that selflessness waives the right for parity?

[Penske_Account]

Originally posted by Pretty Little Flower
And a very good day to you, sir. Oh, and many thanks for your valued participation in the Minnesota Board. It has really breathed some life into the place.

Indeed, so kind of you to notice. fwiw, fyi, ftr, dyk, I like the cut of that place's jib. Your effourts in building an interwebberian community for the MN crowd have not gone unnoticed. I see corner office with southern exposure in your future........

[SlaveNoMore]

Did you just call me Coltrane?
What was the "brick" line again?

Whatever it is, it needs to stop. Puts that friggin' whiny Ben Folds tune in my head